Ways to Cope with Negative Thinking

7. Forgive those who have hurt you for your own good. You don't need to be loyal to your sufferings. Yes, it happened. Yes, it was terrible. But is that what defines you? Forgiveness is not something we do for the other person. We forgive so that we can live without the acute suffering that arises from looking at the past. In other words, forgive for your own sake.