Avoid blaming yourself as a victim at all costs

No matter how horrible your situation is, try not to blame external forces for it: history, the government, bosses, race, parents, moon phase, childhood, untimely potty training - the list is extensive and tedious. The moment you blame something, you undermine your own resolve to change anything, and you increase the vacuum of irresponsibility that demons and demagogues love to fill, for a paralyzed will is no joy for the angels.