Principles of Gentle Rejection in Sex

1. Clearly explain the reason. In the absence of information, the partner can come up with many hurtful reasons. Do not hide the truth. If you're tired from work, just say so. 2. Suggest another time: "Tonight I am terribly sleepy, but how about we make time for sex over the weekend?" Such a refusal is much easier to accept. Of course, this will require you to take responsibility next time. But this shows your partner that they are not the only one 'responsible for sex' in the relationship. 3. Do not distance yourself. Rejection becomes much worse if, after "no," the partner builds an invisible wall: since you have sex on your mind, don't even touch me! Discuss options for showing love and support to each other in other ways. Some may find comfort in hugs, some in personal conversations, and others in shared pleasant activities like walking.