Poor Love Strategy

Everyone is familiar with the phrase that the unattainable seems attractive. But for some reason, almost no one understands how it works. Many intuitively try to create difficulties to attract the attention of a partner who is likely to spend a lot of time and possibly money, but ultimately end up with even more difficulties in return. And the other side, watching the suitor's efforts, may take it as a display of love. As a result, those who have gone through your grindstones do not appreciate and respect you - you irritate them. And others do not want to participate in such competitions; they seek reciprocity and respect. Who ever came up with the idea that love should be born in suffering?