Embracing Change in Relationships

You cannot change your partner. Just remember that. Trying to change another adult is a futile endeavor. You can change yourself, learn to listen to your partner, understand the motives behind their actions, what truly lies behind their words. That's it. And your partner can change reactively in response to your changes, automatically, without even realizing it, they can evolve. They may become aware of important things and transform. Or they may not change at all. And in all three scenarios, they have the right to do so. Just accept the fact that you cannot change them. Only they can do that. And also, do not change yourself in order to change someone close to you. You will be disappointed. Change for yourself.