The Desire to Have vs the Desire to Be

There is a wonderful proverb: 'Everyone wants to have a friend, but not everyone wants to be one.' Nowadays, more and more often we want to 'have.' 'I want a child' instead of 'I want to be a mother,' 'I want a husband' instead of 'I want to be a wife,' and so on. Behind these linguistic subtleties lies a person's attitude towards life, their motto: either 'I am for someone,' or 'someone is for me'... In our desire to have, we break lives, shatter hearts, and suffer from loneliness... A 'possessing' person will always find that what they have is not enough. Not enough money, not enough power, not enough wives, not enough friends, not enough fun, not enough of oneself. A consumer, lacking their own essence, consists of what they possess.