How to cope with unpleasant events

We often hear that negative emotions should not be suppressed, but accepted and worked through. Can this be done without getting stuck in endless reflection and regret? Try the following methods. 1. Imagine an outsider observer. Literally imagine a fly on the wall watching your situation, or think about how your rational friend would react to this situation. 2. Avoid using the pronoun 'I'. During internal dialogue, focus on third-person pronouns: he, she, they.