How to let go of the past

Don't impose standards on yourself. It's a trap! There is such a thing called "the standard of expectations." Most people are absolutely certain that any standard situation must have its standard course. And, accordingly, most traumas and hurt feelings from the past are failed expectations. For example, a woman gets married because she expects her husband to provide for her, while the husband earns very little and does not try to earn more, so the woman gets divorced and gets angry at the whole world, thinking that all men are vile and lazy. The divorce took place many years ago, and if it were not for her continually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found herself another man among those who aims to make money, and does not consider it a feat. However, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the wasted best years of her life.