To keep or return a person, you need to let him go.

In fact, in these respects, both are dependent and therefore equal. Because everyone in them finds confirmation of his idea of himself in the eyes of the other, in his actions, words, readiness to do something for the sake of a partner. The one whose love is being sought thinks something like this: “Since you want to be with me so much, you want my love, it means that I am a very valuable person and I should be with me more confident than you partner. But since there is no one yet, and suddenly there will never be, then I will let you love me. This, of course, is all very simplified, but it does not change the essence.