Casino effect in relationships

The casino effect is when a person spends his resources, but there is no result. But he still continues to throw a lot of energy into it. Someone wants to be married for a long time, but this does not happen. Someone is trying to fall in love with a cold partner. What to do if you understand that you are subject to this effect? You need to realize that if a person really takes you seriously and is ready to take some steps, then he will take these steps. And he would have gone forward a long time ago.