How and for what to praise a man?

When I hear: "Why praise him, kiss him in the ass, why should I? They don't thank me!" I understand that there is no team in this pair and love has hung somewhere in question. Otherwise, why is it so hard for a loving woman to say “Thank you” to her own man? There is competition for scarce resources of warmth, kindness, and good relationships. As if the word “thank you” is one for everyone, and if you give it to him, then you will have nothing left. When the family turns into rivalry and revenge and stubbornness begin, everything ends! It is in our power to save her, because we girls are an inexhaustible volcano of kindness and warmth.