How can shy people get what they want from sex?

Practice expressing your desires - outside the bedroom. It really makes sense: the more lightly you ask about other things, the easier it will be for you to broach the subject of sex. Does your partner make you nervous with their complaints? Tell him and ask him (kindly) to stop. Although these small “requests” may seem insignificant, they help build trust and establish an open dialogue, which will positively affect your sex life.