If you love me, THEN...

This manipulation is intended for people close to you, who have a positive attitude toward the manipulator. A powerful fear of rejection and losing love comes from childhood. Many parents unwisely try to manipulate their child by saying, "If you don't listen to me/do what I say, etc., I'll stop talking to you/loving you/caring about you, etc." The antidote: Love is not a bargaining chip, but the result of a relationship. If you notice the exploitation of your feelings, consider how much you need it.