How to improve relations with mother-in-law?

To harmonize the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, we act as follows: 1. Do not allow open confrontation. Avoid insults to the mother-in-law, even in response to outright rudeness. 2. Gently set personal boundaries. To comments from the series “and I'm at your age”, answer that times are different and the requirements for girls too. Reproaches “bad cooking and ironing” retort “your son likes it.” 3. Don't let your husband withdraw or side with his mother. Explain that conflict is unpleasant for you, it destroys family happiness. Let the husband be part of the solution, not the problem. 4. Teach your mother-in-law to coordinate her plans with yours. Explain that you don't always have time to socialize, but you will be glad to see her at certain hours.