How to negotiate with a man?

What is the main mistake of a woman? The fact is that instead of resolving the issue, she begins to emotionally attack the man, solving the momentary task - to defuse her resentment. That is, if you are not satisfied with the situation, it is necessary to resolve the issue. But not at the moment when you once again do the dishes for two after a hard day at work and are already angry. And reasonably and calmly, choosing a convenient time for a conversation. Claims will not help here: they will only put a man in a situation where he wants to protect himself, and he will no longer be up to justice.