Picking with a partner.

It is very important here that your partner knows you well, and that you can communicate freely with each other until you work out a certain course of action. You need to learn to feel each other and observe reactions - without this, you are unlikely to be able to maintain the desired balance. By the way, a scarf or handcuffs can be used for picking, so that a person who has to approach orgasm and stay on the edge of his sensations cannot "interfere". This greatly increases sexual tension and can lead to even more intense orgasms.