You don't have to give up anything.

Live and accept everything that happens to you. Suppression and rejection have never made anyone happy. Whatever you've accumulated inside you, no matter how securely you packed it away, sooner or later it will leak out. Sometimes in the form of a little trickle, and usually as a powerful explosion, leaving behind a heap of unreasonable expectations and shattered illusions. Don't fight life, just let it be. Don't deny pain - live it. Don't suppress anger - let it pass through you. Let everything that happens just be, stop the war.