A man with a hammer in his hands will always see nails.

Do you know why you can't change as soon as you start examining yourself? That’s because what you really want is to change the world around you, not yourself. Hence so much anger at stupid therapy sessions, boring practices, pointless navel-gazing. When you really want change, you don't try to determine the time, you just realize that today, right now, you are making a voluntary decision to live differently, and that's already made all the difference. Transformation is an individual process, so no one can go through it together with you.