Turn off "teacher mode"!

Some ladies already on the first date begin to load topics about family responsibilities, threaten with a finger if the gentleman has his own views on the main life issues. An edifying tone in dealing with men has never brought success. In general, the most thankless task is to try to remake a person. But many women believe that over the years their husband will definitely change. You just need to "re-educate" him correctly. A terrible mistake that has already destroyed millions of families.

Is it worth keeping a man if he decides to leave?

The answer is obvious: you won’t be forced to be nice. Any woman understands this. However, for some reason it does exactly the opposite. She can be understood. In fact, such a reaction to a breakup is normal, it is the strongest stress. At first, you are shocked by the fact that you are being abandoned. Then you deny that this is possible, his decision seems like nonsense, a mistake. Then you get angry and bargain. In the third stage of living through a breakup, you're trying to get it all back, no matter what the cost. The red light turns on: “He's mine! I can fix everything! We should be together!".

What not to do in a conflict.

Push a partner. You can not categorically demand that the husband accept your point of view. Demand the impossible. That is, for a person to give up his principles or vital interests. Such things destroy relationships and do not bring happiness. Tolerate. Sometimes we hope that the person himself will understand what we do not like. As a result, we endure for a long time and then explode. Such an explosion can be a very difficult test for a relationship. Blackmail. That is, issue ultimatums, demand something with the words "Otherwise I ...". It may even work, but later it will turn against you. Throw tantrums. Showing emotions is a must. But it is important to communicate adequately, controlling yourself as much as possible.

How to relax to be more productive.

The brain needs a break. The more we are stressed, the more overloaded the brain. Stress hormones are produced, anxiety wakes up. And now we are no longer able to think clearly - and here it is not far from mistakes. To keep yourself in good shape, I advise you to do timers with breaks. You can try several options and choose the most suitable one. For example: 25/5, 52/17. The first figure is the time of work, the second is the rest.

Strive for balance.

We waste a lot of energy in vain, because different aspects of our life - both external and internal - contradict each other. You may be held back by a colleague who does not want you to be promoted, by friends who laugh at your goals, or by your own fears and doubts. Take some time and try to unravel the conflicts that have accumulated in your life and find ways to resolve them. Sometimes all it takes is changing one thing. Sometimes you need a long-term plan to get rid of toxic environments or beliefs that are holding you back.

Devaluation - what is it and why?

Depreciation is the removal of value from objects or relationships so that they become less meaningful and cannot affect you. They can't upset you, hurt you, change you, or at least affect you in some way. This is one way of psychological defense. It is used by the legendary fox in Aesop's fable, saying that "the grapes are green," and thus, not worth her effort. And the whole point is that she just can't get those grapes and tries to soothe her pain by devaluing them. Depreciation often kills a relationship by not allowing it to experience the transformation it is meant to experience.

Frustration - what is it and why?

In short, the process of removing rose-colored glasses. Letting go of a fascination that was not the quality of the object of fascination, but something of yours, contrived. Encountering reality, as it were. Disillusioned with what the object of your fascination is not, you can finally see what it really is. And start to interact with it without fantasies. As an example, the man opposite is not a guru, but just a good specialist in his field. And that is often much more valuable than a guru. For it is real and close.

We can't give up expectations.

Especially those really essential to us and affect our deepest needs. That’s why we are often offended by those closest to us, or those with whom we have a deep relationship. Expectations suddenly reveal all of our vulnerability, which is all the more difficult to show to someone who has not lived up to them. That's why, when you get a message about a sudden evening sickness, you try only to colorlessly reply, "Well, all right, get well..." - and hang up, feeling a lump in your chest and stomach. Or a hole that isn't filled at all. Eastern wisdom suggests giving up expectations. Just take things as they are.

Why are we offended?

We are offended only when we have unreasonable expectations that weren’t destined to come true, and that are difficult to refuse. For example, someone has agreed to spend a pleasant intimate evening with you, and the day before (or even half an hour after the appointed time) they call and say that they feel sick and won’t come... A familiar story? It’d seem that the reason is valid, but how much resentment rises!

About resentment and childhood relationships.

Recognizing your own grievances or, at least, an ability to identify them, is already the first step to growing up. Resentment is a childish pattern of behavior. Typically, when people talk about childish behavior patterns, they mention it with disdain and underlying criticism, wanting to shame the person they are talking about. In my view, childlike behavior patterns are simply signs of what level a person is at now and what their actual needs are. A child's level is no worse than an adult's. It just needs to be understood that it has its own tasks.

Here's how it happens.

In 1912, Theodore Roosevelt was scheduled to give a campaign speech in Wisconsin, but he was assassinated en route. Careful preparation for the speech protected him from death, because the bullet hit the 50-page speech stored in his pocket.

Here is the series!

The longest-running series, Guiding Light, aired on television from 1952 to 2009, has 18,262 episodes, which will take 594 days and 1 hour to watch continuously.

The Dog Surfing World Championship was held in Northern California.

More than fifty dogs from all over the country took part in the unique competition. Surfer dogs competed in different weight categories. By the way, the Norcal Dog Surfing event & World Championships is an annual competition founded in 2016 and all funds raised during the championship go to charity.

Women like men with small dogs in their arms.

These conclusions were reached by Spanish scientists from the University of Jaén during a study involving almost 300 female students. The participants liked it more when the dog was present in the photo.

Sea sponges can sneeze.

Sea sponges - simple creatures without a brain - know how to sneeze. So they remove garbage and waste from the body. The secreted mucus is a delicacy for fish and other underwater inhabitants.

In 25 years, Antarctica's ice shelves have lost twice as much ice as previously thought.

Since 1997, the ice shelves of Antarctica have lost not 6 trillion tons of ice, but 12 - that is, twice as much as scientists thought. NASA experts came to such conclusions. Ice shelves act as a support for melting ice, preventing it from reaching the ocean directly. Due to the loss of their mass, they have weakened, from this the rate of global sea level rise is increasing.

Xiaomi introduced its first humanoid robot CyberOne.

The machine was developed by Xiaomi Robotics Lab. The humanoid robot is 1.77 cm tall, weighs 52 kg, and has an average speed of 3.6 km/h. The robot is equipped with a set of sensors that allow it to navigate in space, recognize people nearby and, if necessary, respond to them. So, CyberOne is able to answer questions and talk on various topics, recognizing 45 human emotions. Xiaomi believes that CyberOne can become a household assistant, performing small tasks. However, the company emphasized that this is only the first model and it is very far from really "smart" robots. When and at what price CyberOne will go on sale is unknown.

The heart of these five signs of the zodiac cannot be melted. Capricorn.

Capricorns try to seem more indifferent than they really are. In the depths of their souls, a lot of sentimentality and tenderness will be found, but Capricorns do not show this part of their nature even to close people. They have long chosen for themselves the image of an unflappable and independent loner, therefore they sacredly correspond to it. However, Capricorns, indeed, may prefer benefits to feelings.

Pretender rating. 7th place - Libra.

Libra traditionally cannot decide where they are - to the smart or the beautiful, to the saints or to the sinners. And, since our Magic ball has an inexplicable sympathy for Libra, we give them the last remaining place on the dark side of the horoscope. Yet, to be honest, Libra is indeed a holy people, in essence: be that as it may, they never want to harm anyone - and do not. By and large. But little by little - they, firstly, really want to see something demonic in themselves, but we don’t feel sorry for it - this is the time. And two - the one who at least once in his life caught Libra in the morning and sleepy, he knows: he wants to kill this supposedly bright little man who behaves as if his main mission on earth is to poison the lives of others.

4 zodiac signs that are set up only for a serious relationship. Cancer.

For Cancer, it is important to feel unity with a partner, a state when lovers anticipate each other's desires and words. It may seem that Cancer chooses a life partner, guided only by the heart, but practicality is not the least important. A loved one must be honest, frank and as much in love with Cancer as he is with him. Cancerians are created for family life and stable long-term relationships. They are ready to selflessly love not for something, but in spite of everything. Their patience and sacrifice become the basis of a long alliance.