Steps to the perfect relationship.

Failure in the next relationship is not a sentence, but only an attempt to show you that you need to change something. But what exactly? Self love. It is important to be able to love yourself with all the flaws and imperfections. Don't look for an estimate. If you find another man for the sake of raising your self-esteem and giving compliments - a losing option. Don't hide emotions. You don't have to pretend to be someone you're not. A man will love you for who you are. Self improvement. Do not stand still, do not forget about dreams and goals, do not forget to live. Find a hobby that you enjoy.

The right to choose.

Forget stories about how one of your friends or acquaintances got married right after school and now she is a happy mother of two children. This is her way. But before you a huge choice of gentlemen. It is necessary to choose a worthy partner, and not to take what comes across. Otherwise, you will feel lonely in a relationship. Wanting to get married is not an end in itself. While you are free, you must make friends with yourself, understand what is acceptable for you in marriage and what is not.

Show tenderness.

Be gentle to your husband and be gentle just the way he likes. Some of the men love it when a woman strokes his back, someone likes it when they run their hands through his hair. Tactility in communication is very important. The more often you come into contact with your partner, the more you become attached to each other.

Am I busy or am I working

Ever think about the fact that all of the tasks we do on a daily basis can be divided into "real work" and "busy"? And these tasks affect us and our lives in very different ways. Real work are those tasks that only we ourselves can do: they are complex and move us toward our goals, and we get paid to do them. For example, only I can decide what kind of business I open next and what I need to do it. Busy tasks are tasks that eat up our time and energy, while we are not paid for them or paid little, they do not move us towards our goals and they can be done by someone else. For example, only I can make the decision to open a business, but calculate everything, assemble a team and set up sales. Sure, I can wash the floors, but who will do my job better than me?

Where is the exit?

The way out of the Victim's position... Resentments, burdensome memories, anger, resentment - these are obstacles to a happy and joyful sense of life. When you forgive, you step out of the position of Victim, and you have a new vision, energy, and desire to live. It is up to you to forgive or not to forgive. But when you choose to forgive someone, you must understand that you are doing it ONLY FOR YOU. You are forgiving so that YOUR life can be better. You forgive in order to find happiness and joy in your life. You forgive so that your relationships with others can be improved. You forgive in order to become younger, healthier, richer, more beautiful and successful. YOU FORGIVE FOR YOURSELF!

Forgiveness Technique.

That’s actually a practical task for the previous post. Position yourself horizontally, more comfortably. Enter into a state of half-sleep. Thoughts and images flow freely. Imagine the image of the person you want to forgive. ▫️ I forgive you completely. I draw conclusions from the past. ▫️ I thank the Universe (god, universe...) for the lessons I am learning. ▫️ I am on my way to harmony. ▫️ I understand that you had the best of intentions. ▫️ I get why you did what you did. I forgive myself for.... ▫️ Subconsciousness, help me draw conclusions from what happened. Give yourself time. Write down the conclusions. Keep in mind that you have to choose one grievance or situation. Once you've worked through one particular situation, you only move on to the next one after that.

The main thing is to strike a balance.

Balance between intimacy and co-dependence, a fine line. How to understand, to feel this difference? ▫️ The desire to share your emotions - intimacy. Trying to impose your moods is co-dependence. ▫️ Talking openly about what you're not happy with in a relationship - intimacy. Imposing blame on the other for relationship problems is co-dependency. ▫️ Holding your OWN social circle and letting the other have theirs is intimacy. NOT having a relationship outside of a couple is co-dependency. ▫️ Sharing your values and interests with your partner is intimacy. CHANGE your values to your partner or try to change them to match your own - co-dependence. Knowing how to balance such subtle issues can save a relationship.

About Purpose, Dreams and Plans.

What is the difference between a dream and a goal? It's very simple, a goal has a DATE! Work through your dream and give it a clear date. What is the difference between a goal and a plan? A plan is a goal broken down into step-by-step steps. Literally step by step, with dates and clear definitions describe your actions. And finally, only a plan confirmed by methodical actions makes our dream come true!

Parental mistakes. Where do abusers come from.

Up to 6 years: • Educational beatings, humiliation, yelling at him. • Always respond differently. Today to slap a bream, and tomorrow for the same hug and cry with pity. • Or extol the child, buy him first places, diplomas. • Show that mom has 2 modes: you are bad - she yells, beats. And the rest of the time when they don't notice it. He never feels good. It is enough to systematically abuse it in one point and you will get it, sign it. But even with a system in place, there are chances to stay normal.

Parental mistakes. Where do abusers come from.

Up to 3 years: • Prevent him from exploring the world. Do not let go of yourself, take everything away, prohibit. • Or, on the contrary, leave one, disappear from his life. • Never refuse, do not limit anything. He is not disappointed and does not know how to survive breakups. • Tell the child that you will stop loving him if he does not obey. Arrange boycotts, forbid crying, do not console.

If a couple fights, do they have relationship problems?

It would be more accurate to say: if a couple quarrels, this is a relationship. It is impossible to constantly hush up your discontent and live in an atmosphere of love and eternal peace. Every couple has some disagreements, and that's okay. Do not take any quarrel as the end of your relationship and try to find compromises and smooth the situation. Quarrels often develop relationships: you learn to find a common language, resolve domestic and other issues and make concessions to each other.

Why grow up?

Growing up will help you assess the situation with a cool head and find ways to solve it. Without counting on or expecting help from others. Relying on yourself will give support, faith and confidence even in difficult moments. Adulthood will allow you to set priorities and refuse unnecessary things. Inner support will allow you to do it quickly, without long deliberations and feelings of guilt or shame. Adulthood will allow you to delegate some things. And support will help you avoid anxiety and fear that the other can't handle it. Adulthood will assess your condition and signal that it's time to rest. The inner core will allow you to take time for yourself without remorse and fear of "What will they think of me?" Inner core together with adulthood will help transform fears into resources, negative qualities into helping qualities.

How to learn to forgive?

Unnecessary offenses poison the life, first of all, of the one who was offended. And your offender will sleep peacefully, not even bothered by the subject of your torment. So it is easier and better for yourself to forgive and let go. How to do it? MAKE THE DECISION TO FORGIVE. The most important thing about forgiveness is to realize that YOU need it much more than your abuser. LIVE YOUR EMOTIONS. Respect your feelings, don't hide them in yourself, find an opportunity to live them and feel them fully. Even if not immediately, but gradually you will become much easier. REMEMBER HOW YOU WERE FORGIVEN. Remember how you regretted your own mistakes and how important it was for you to receive forgiveness from those you wronged. Choose to be strong. Don't let your resentment poison your own life.

LOVE is a three-part recipe.

Mankind is in a constant search for the FORMULAS of love. There are many variations on this theme. I am sharing another formula, which I like so much for its brevity. The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In the context of personal relationships, "the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are intimacy, passion and commitment." 1. Intimacy - which includes feelings of belonging, unity, connectedness. 2. Passion - which includes both romantic attraction and sexual attraction. 3. Commitment - which involves, in the short term, a decision to stay with a partner, and in the long term, joint achievements or plans for the future. And happy is the one with a complete set of these qualities in his/her relationship.

How to behave on a first date?

To be sure the first date is not the last one, it’s important to grasp a few simple rules. ▫️ Stay confident. It's okay to be nervous on a first date. Acting confident, being yourself is the surest way to look natural. ▫️ Dress appropriately. Usually on a first date a man looks at a woman from head to toe, and she tries to impress him. ▫️ Take care when choosing a fragrance. Without knowing your date's preferences, choose unobtrusive light scents for yourself ▫️ Don't be a drag. Don't burden him with your problems and don't complain. ▫ Be easy and have fun conversations about simple everyday topics. ▫️ Take off the rose-colored glasses. Do not embellish the image of a man, do not praise him, do not make long-range plans for him. ▫️ Let him pay for you. Especially if he insists on it, give him the opportunity to make a nice gesture. If the date was interesting for you, don't forget to thank him for an enjoyable time.

Washing helps reduce stress levels.

The publication Social Psychological and Personality Science conducted a multi-level study with a thousand people. And the process of washing at all stages reduced their stress levels, calming people down.

Scientists have figured out how and when the sun will die.

Experts from the European Space Agency have analyzed new data from the Gaia Optical Space Telescope. Thanks to them, scientists were able to determine how the Sun will develop in the future. According to calculations, our star is already 4.57 billion years old, and in general it is still stable. However, eventually the star will die - the process will begin when the core runs out of hydrogen. The merger process will begin, which will turn the Sun into a red giant star and lower the surface temperature by dozens of times. In this state, it will last another thousand billion years, until it turns into a dim white dwarf. But it is unlikely that a reasonable form of life on Earth will catch this - the brightness of the Sun increases by about 10% every billion years, which entails an increase in temperature. Such changes will make our planet uninhabitable long before the end of the solar system.

Drop has released a keyboard dedicated to Tolkien's Lord of the Rings.

Especially for fans of the writer's work, a keyboard appeared on sale in Sindarin - the Elvish language and Kirt - the Dwarf language. The cost of the keyboard is $170. The device is wired and mechanical, with backlight. It connects to a computer via a USB-C interface.

Scientists have presented a new contraceptive for men, tested on mice and 99% effective.

Hormonal, without any side effects, mice in the experiment, it remained sterile for 4-6 weeks. After a long search, scientists have found an experimental compound, GPHR-529, that blocks a protein responsible for binding to a form of vitamin A in cells. By selectively blocking this protein, sterility can be increased without causing any side effects. In mice (males) from the experiment, there was a sharp decrease in spermatozoa, in fact, they became infertile in 99% of cases. And only 4-6 weeks after stopping the drug, the males ceased to be infertile.

Residents of an Australian town are terrorized by gangs of kangaroos.

The local environment department said they counted between 60 and 80 kangaroos in the city and nearby forests. Over the past 12 months, seven cases of kangaroo attacks have been recorded in the state, while Maarum has an unusual situation: females, not males, are behind most of the attacks. According to one of the local residents, over the past few years, it has become more rainy in the area, which favors the growth of grass. The abundance of food attracted kangaroos.