He wants nothing. How to stir it up?

What if he aspires to nothing? Are you tired of motivating, and he keeps saying “it’s okay”? A man may refuse development for two reasons: 1. For him, success and achievements have no value, he prefers idleness and peace. To motivate is like teaching a stone to fly. This can be seen in his priorities, in the way he spends his free time. 2. For him, development is something else. For example, you dream of an apartment with a mortgage, and he travels around the world for six months. That is, you do not want to motivate him, but to remake him. But he has his own vision of success. What to do with them? Leave the first one on the couch and test the theory, will he learn to be independent if he has nothing to eat? And the second one must be strongly loved and not redone, because by redoing it, you will make him unhappy. Is this love?

Devaluation is the most toxic manipulation.

Devalue - let the person know that he is not important. Or his feelings, desires, problems do not matter to the interlocutor. ▪Oh, never mind, I found something to worry about! ▪Just think you quit, you will have a thousand more of them! ▪I would like your problems. ▪What are you always whining about, smile, life is beautiful! ▪ She is tired, and who is not tired? Did you think you were in a fairy tale? ▪It's all from idleness, you're just lazy. ▪Yes, you yourself chose this, why are you complaining now? Don't like it - leave. ▪Say thanks for not sending at all! ▪Yes, who needs you then? ▪Don't give a damn about your requests, lower the bar! Donate a lip-roller? ▪Don't say a word to her, how tender! ▪Do you think I'm not offended? I'm silent! ▪If I were you, I would never... We are so used to being devalued that we do this to ourselves once an hour, without lunch and days off.

Technique "Timekeeping".

It is a time fix for any tasks, even for such primitive ones as morning exercises or lunch. The bottom line: You write down every task that you spend time on, thereby during the week you will be able to solve the following tasks: - determine what your time is spent on; - identify chronophages, that is, "time eaters"; - to develop a "sense of efficiency" and "sense of time".

Professionalism and awareness.

It's a lot of hard work. Making unpopular, that is critical decisions. Taking emotional risks and stepping out of your comfort zone. Standing your ground. Often not knowing for sure. Doing, redoing, inventing. Again and again facing ignorance, which only becomes wider as the light that stands out from the darkness extends by an effort of attention.

Envy wears different masks.

Well, that's due to the fact that no one wants to feel it, because envy is bad, shameful, low and sometimes unbearable. We try to hide our envy from ourselves and thus call it by different names, forbidding ourselves to feel it in order to think well of ourselves. As a result, we feel empty, sad and even angry. We are afraid of the envy of others, since it is a really dangerous feeling, and sometimes it is better to keep quiet about one's own successes. Otherwise you can suddenly become depreciated and abused by others.

Smart people say: stop comparing yourself to others.

But no matter what heights of awareness we have reached, willingly or unwillingly, consciously or subconsciously, we still compare ourselves to others. That's because behind it is an evolutionary mechanism that ensures our survival. It is not a "why" question that really matters but "what we have as a result" of such a comparison. Well, as a result, we have different feelings, most commonly - envy.

The desire to impress.

The desire to show off is also used by manipulators as a weapon. Knowledge of a person's character, including weaknesses, makes them an easy target for exploitation. So the first step to defend manipulation is not to reveal your weaknesses! However, it is really necessary to know them. This allows to protect yourself not only from being manipulated, but also from being criticized.

Curiosity

Manipulators usually use curiosity as a weapon to attract and retain attention. All public speaking manuals recommend that you begin your speech with a story that arouses curiosity. And during the speech, make promises to talk about something exciting a little later. Every episode of a soap opera is usually stopped at the most interesting moment...

How to identify a provocateur?

Let's list the phrases peculiar to her or him: 1. "It never happened, you're just making it up." 2. "I'm just expressing my opinion, I have the right to do so." 3. "Are you absolutely sure of what you're saying?" 4. "Prove your point, please!" 5. "Are you saying I'm wrong?" These are the most basic phrases provocateurs give out in order to cause you to have doubts. Of course, after such words, many fall into a daze: after all, everything you said has been argued and proven, but the person still refuses to accept it. Such a behavior can make you feel insecure. Moreover, it can cause anger, confusion and anxiety.

Take care of yourself.

A combination of four types of exercise can help you stay strong and resilient: • Walking, biking and swimming strengthen the cardiovascular system. • Weightlifting strengthens and maintains muscles. • Stretching exercises help you remain flexible. • Yoga balance training helps avoid falls.

Did you know?

The penis is usually darker in color than the rest of the man's body. This is due to the fact that the skin on the penis is larger than it looks, as it must be stretched.

Special penalty.

The Australian Aborigines had a special form of execution, which consisted in performing a “curse” ritual on the criminal. Very often the “damned” died within a few days after that - so strong was the belief in this ritual.

Sitting around a campfire causes significantly more harm to health than smoking cigarettes.

Studies show that smoke from burning wood contains 30 times more carcinogens than tobacco smoke.

About cinema.

The scene in The Wolf of Wall Street where McConaughey hits his chest was not in the script. It's just that the actor was so relaxed in fact, and DiCaprio, seeing this, offered to include the scene in the film.

The engineer built a radio-controlled submarine from LEGO.

The design has a pressure sensor, a laser distance sensor and an automatic depth controller. This is the fourth and most advanced version of the submarine - in 20 minutes it covered 200 meters along a shallow river.

Here is the ring!

India's SWA Diamonds has created a ring with a record 23,679 diamonds. A decoration called "Ami" ("Immortality") has been added to the Guinness Book of Records. It is made in the form of an edible pink oyster mushroom growing in the tropics. The cost of a 340-gram ring is $95,000.

Heat waves are more dangerous for women than for men.

Dutch scientists analyzed the consequences of a heat wave recorded in 2003 in France. It turned out that taking into account the same age, the mortality rate among women is 15% higher than among men. Experts attribute this to the different intensity of sweating and the work of the cardiovascular system in the two sexes.

An American single-handedly cleared the mangrove forests on the coral islands of the Florida Keys from 10 tons of garbage

Namely: syringes, used hygiene items, furniture, auto parts and mirrors. It took five years. First, 35-year-old Andrew Otazo cleaned up an abandoned camp for fugitives. Then he began to collect garbage all over the coast, even while freediving. Andrew believes that a sewer system would solve the problem, but so far the local authorities have no plans to install it.

In broccoli, they found a substance that heals wounds twice as fast as antibiotics.

Israeli scientists have found that diindolylmethane (DIM), found in broccoli, cauliflower and other vegetables, heals wounds twice as fast as antibiotics. An ointment based on diindolylmethane was tested on pigs. It turned out that the substance interferes with the vital activity of bacteria. Thanks to this, the wounds are healed in five days. Medicines with antibiotics heal them in ten. Now scientists are working on the creation of a full-fledged ointment suitable for people. If the trials are successful, she could replace antibiotics.

Aquarium fish can count.

Aquarium fish can count. Aquarium fish, in particular zebrafish, perceive magnitudes - they understand how many objects are in front of them. For mathematical calculations, fish connect parts of the brain similar to those used by mammals and birds. This ability helps to assess the amount of food or competitors.