Unfinished Gestalt

The word "gestalt" (die Gestalt) is translated as "image", "figure", "form". The term was introduced by the founders of Gestalt psychology Max Wertheimer, Kurt Koffke and Wolfgang Köhler. It means the desire of our subconscious for integrity. If, for example, in a conflict situation with a leader, you remained silent without expressing your opinion, the subconscious will return to this over and over again, developing internal dialogues: “I should have told him .... And then he would…” When the dialogues end, and the gestalt is still “penetrating”, there is internal tension, depression, irritability, aggression, loss of strength and energy. You are like a frozen computer: you seem to be working, but somehow not the way you should.

Do you need to switch roles?

In the modern world, one can often find a situation where a woman earns money, and a man takes on the functions of an exemplary householder. Here the question is natural: should this be allowed? It all depends on the situation in a particular family. It's impossible to give a definitive answer based on the question itself. This may be a temporary stage in life when such a reassignment of roles is beneficial and will benefit both parties.

Comparing yourself to others: good or bad?

This habit is laid down in childhood. First, parents compare children, put someone as an example to them. Then the child himself sees that someone's toys are better and more expensive than his. Further more: the classmate's hair is longer, the dress is more beautiful. And so all my life! If you compare yourself all the time not in your favor, then envy, resentment, anger will never let you enjoy life. It is better to compare yourself only with yourself yesterday. But there is also a useful comparison. If you compare yourself with someone and get motivated to move forward, this is a resource. You just see your potential in another person, not considering that something is worse than him.

How to get a man back

If you want a man back, I'll give you a specific plan: Answer yourself the question: "What happened between you?" His departure is a consequence. We need to understand the real reasons. Let go for real. Don't let him leave. Let the man know that you would like him to stay, but you will not force him. Take care of yourself. Find new hobbies and start living without him. Forgive. Remove claims to a man and recognize his right to leave when he wants and from whom he wants. Give thanks. Call or text him and thank him for all the good things that happened between you. Do it sincerely and with a pure heart. Meet men, chat, go on dates Choose the most worthy partner with whom you want to make each other happy.

What questions are best left unanswered?

These questions should confuse you in dealing with men at first, they say that a man wants to violate boundaries or probe them. 1. Any question about an ex. He may ask about relationship experiences, but don't let him get into a discussion about the person you were with. 2. Intimate questions that you are clearly not ready for Especially if you've only known each other for a couple of hours. For example: "How many men have you had?" 3. Questions about your income/property. It is not ethical to ask about income in general, and questions about property “smell” of fraud. 4. Questions from the category “Are your lips made or your own?” Sounds tactless. Everything related to the methods of working on oneself in terms of beauty is better not to discuss even later, remain a mystery.

5 mistakes during a kiss.

1. Too timid. Your indecisiveness can be seen as an unwillingness to kiss, not coquetry. 2. Too much language. The tongue is important when kissing, but it should be in moderation. 3. Grinding of teeth. Don't kiss like you're about to eat a piece of cake. 4. Everything sticks. Do not use sticky lip glosses, this is the most unpleasant thing for men to kiss. 5. Without hands. Add a kiss of life, hug your partner or just put your hand on his cheekbones.

Simplify your life⠀

— Don't try to read other people's minds and don't expect others to be able to read your thoughts. Communicate if you wonder about something that matters to you.⠀ — Don't expect all the people want to be your friends. We are all different, so we all like different things. — Get rid of the monster of jealousy and only compare yourself to your previous self, no one else.⠀ — Stay out of pointless dramas in other people's lives (except in critical situations and those where you can help).⠀ — Finish things you start and then start to do something else. — Accept the fact that there're things you can't change or control and focus on those you can influence.

Reasons not to worry if you haven't found your soulmate before the age of 30.

You have not lowered your own standards in face of public expectations. Particularly tactless relatives may have already said about you: "Yes, she is still waiting for the prince" or "I would find someone for myself, as much as I can sort through." But compromises should be sought when the relationship is in full swing, and not when you are choosing a second half. As long as you don't lower the bar (within reasonable limits) for a potential partner, you still have a chance to meet someone who is right for you and be with him because you are happy, not because it's time.

When you realize that you are a hero, not a victim.

Sad stories eventually get old, and even we get tired of repeating them in our heads. The truth is that even in those moments when you are a victim and something unpleasant is about to happen to you, do you have a choice where you keep going? In the past people could control certain things, isn’t it wonderful that they can't do that anymore? When you are ready to admit that you need help. Even heroes sometimes need help. Not everyone has to handle everything by themselves, and that's why we have friends and family to be around. Although you might be strong and capable of a lot, recognizing that there is too much of something is important so that you don't hurt yourself by trying to do too much alone.

Truckers complained about the interior design of the Tesla Semi Truck.

It all started with the location of the driver's seat in the center - for example, it is five times harder for a person driving to push documents, payment for the road and other things through the window. Also, the doors at the back of the truck - instead of a bed, there is a corridor that cannot be occupied by anything. Well, the tablets got to the heap - truckers reminded that they should not be distracted from the road in any case, and at least the air conditioner would be more convenient to control the physical button.

In Berlin, the world's largest cylindrical aquarium AquaDom burst 14 meters high.

In Berlin, the world's largest cylindrical aquarium AquaDom burst 14 meters high. 1500 exotic fish swam in it. About 1 million liters of water spilled into the hall and onto the street.

The first launch of a Chinese methane rocket ended in failure.

The first-ever flight to near-Earth orbit by a methane-powered launch vehicle ended in failure. The Zhuque-2 rocket of the Chinese company Landspace reached space, but did not reach the desired orbit due to problems with the engines of the second stage. Methane has long been seen as an alternative to kerosene as a propellant in rocket engines (oxygen acts as an oxidant) - it makes launches cheaper and better suited for reusable engine technologies. In addition, methane can be obtained on Mars, which is important for future manned expeditions to the planet. Currently, a number of companies are developing such missiles.

Balls from space.

SpaceX and Qatar Airways sent two World Cup balls into space and back. On one of SpaceX's recent space missions, the balls traveled 1,300 km and had a top speed of 8,272 km/h. Most likely, the balls will be played by the players after the starting whistle in the final of the tournament and in the match for 3rd place: the matches will be held on December 18 and 17.

NASA has published beautiful views of the Earth at night from space.

In addition to the "glow" of cities, the super-sensitive satellite captured the lights of ships plowing rivers at night and torches in oil and gas fields.

Panoply creative studio created video art.

It tried to present how people with derealization disorder see reality. Derealization is a feeling of unreality and distortion of the surrounding world. It can affect everyone at least once in a lifetime, but some people experience its symptoms more severely and on an ongoing basis.

Tesla has released a video.

It's about how the Tesla Semi electric truck is tested for reliability and durability. Some of the footage appears to have been taken years ago when Tesla was testing the original Tesla Semi prototype in Alaska. But the rest of the footage appears to be of the latest generation of the electric truck.

An excess of omega-3s caused mice to go bald.

Researchers from China and the United States accidentally noticed that mice whose diet is rich in fish oil lose hair. An in-depth study showed that a protein that binds fatty acids and is expressed in skin macrophages is to blame. It sets off a cascade of reactions that causes other macrophages to accumulate around the hair follicles - this causes inflammation and hair loss. Thus, fish oil in large quantities can hardly be considered beneficial for hair loss.

The Vans brand presented a new winter collection in New York.

Creative vans designed in the form of sneakers drive around the streets of the city. By the way, the interior inside the car was also stylized as sneakers.

"Аt the bottom of the sea."

YouTuber Joe Jenkins, who regularly plays his piano in unusual places, has staged a new performance: this time "at the bottom of the sea." Joe performed the track "Under the Sea" from Disney's The Little Mermaid. By the way, the planning of the stunt took two years.

10 Sagittarius Celebrities Who Didn't Give Up on Their Dreams Despite the Difficulties. JAY-Z

The musician was born on December 4th. He became interested in music as a child and started freestyle. When Jay-Z was ready to record his own album, he began to look for studios - the performer was offered to conclude contracts on unfavorable terms, and he refused these offers. Then Jay-Z decided to open his label Roc-a-Fella Records with friends. After releasing the Reasonable Doubt album, the rapper woke up famous. Other Sagittarius celebrities: Amanda Seyfried, Steven Spielberg, Ridley Scott, Woody Allen, Jennifer Connelly, Milla Jovovich, Vincent Cassel, Julianne Moore, Emily Browning, Vanessa Ann Hudgens, Katie Holmes, Theo James, Jeff Bridges.