Jealousy. How to deal with it?

If it were possible to describe the universal cause of the origin of jealousy, then I would define it as a sense of ownership. A person who is an owner is a person who does not want or is afraid to lose a “beloved” object. If you look deep into the personality of a jealous person, then there is usually a fear of being abandoned. A person begins to strive to keep another close by at any cost and in no case allows him to "leave" himself. There is control over the life of a loved one, control is excessive, sometimes reaching the point of absurdity.

Jealousy. How to deal with it?

The feeling of jealousy, I think is familiar to all of us. Jealousy is one of the most common problems with which couples come to a consultation with a psychologist. At its core, jealousy can be the cause of conflicts and disagreements in the family, and sometimes even divorce. We will talk in detail about jealousy in marital relations in a separate issue of the column: What to do when love “passes away”? Today, let's approach the issue of jealousy a little more broadly. Jealousy is often confused with envy. When there is jealousy for the success of colleagues, friends, spouse or even a child, then there will be a feeling of envy. Envy differs from jealousy in the desire to possess what another person has, including some opportunities and freedom of choice, the freedom to be oneself.

Conscious people

They know how to feel life, not think about it. Conscious people know that the best decisions are made not by the mind but by the heart. The mind is limited. Although it tries to take control of all our life, there are secret tendencies, elusive connections, and much more that it can't manage. The intuition going from the heart is truly sensitive — it is what we need to trust. If you practice these intuitive skills, someday you will notice that you are not just mindlessly going with the flow of events but live every single day of your life with joy and pleasure.

Conscious people

They are able to follow what is happening from the external observer position, not getting involved but staying out of the fray. For example, when the mud from the wheel of a passing car hits you from head to toe, the first reaction is to shout at the offender and tell him or her all you think about it. A conscious person will get out of this situation, and before taking any action, will look at the other side: the offender still would not hear your cry, and even if he or she would, it is unlikely to react. Besides, he or she probably didn't do it on purpose — most likely he or she was just in too much of a hurry, too late, too nervous. They are not focused on the past because they know for sure: what's gone, can't be changed. They're also not obsessed with thinking about the future because they keep in mind the fact that we never know what life has in store for us.

Boosting self-esteem

▫️The first step in overcoming any bad habits is being aware of them. Observe yourself. Instead of engaging in self-condemnation, try to get to know yourself by analyzing the way you behave. ▫️Change your social circle. Take note which people are present in your life and what is the essence of your relationship with them. Perhaps, if you objectively evaluate your environment, you will see that you give people more than you get from them.⠀⠀ ▫️Never forget about your strengths and don't be too hard on yourself. For personal use only, make a list of your inherent strengths and what you do really well. ▫️Keep calm and try to mitigate stress. Avoid the hustle and bustle. Develop stress resistance. You will gain self-confidence if you do the tasks you set yourself.

Samsung introduced a refrigerator with a built-in Tiktok.

The company has released a refrigerator with a huge display, which is tailored specifically for watching short vertical videos.

The longest walking route on the planet.

The way from Cape Town to Magadan can be covered by land. The road will reach 22.387 kilometers and take 4.492 hours. If you leave now, you will reach around July 6th. Provided there are no stops, of course.

A popular sweetener causes anxiety by changing the structure of the brain.

Scientists have found that the popular sweetener aspartame alters the structure of the brain, tuning it to mental disorders such as anxiety. Moreover, these changes persist up to 2 subsequent generations. Aspartame is 200 times sweeter than regular sugar and is often used in sodas and sugar-free gum.

New York legalizes the practice of turning dead bodies into fertilizer.

This is the sixth US state to adopt such legislation. This is thought to be a much more environmentally friendly way of handling bodies. It has even been nicknamed the "green funeral". The corpse is placed in a special semi-open reusable container, where the decomposition process is stimulated. And the output is a compact briquette of first-class fertilizers.

Women recognize unmarried men by smell.

Australian scientists conducted an experiment in which they asked 82 heterosexual women aged 18 to 35 to rate male body odors. The researchers found that the body odor of a single man seemed more pleasant to most women. In addition, the more attractive the men's fragrance was, the higher the participants in the experiment rated their appearance. Perhaps the difference in smell is due to the fact that married men have better health and hygiene than single men, as well as testosterone levels and dietary habits.

Amazon has begun delivering drone orders in California and Texas.

Drone delivery is available within a 6km radius of drone warehouses in Texas and California. After ordering, customers will receive shipping tracking information, for which they can specify their preferred time. The maximum order weight that can be delivered by drone is 2.2 kg. According to Amazon, 85% of all its packages fit into this limit. The company promises to deliver orders by air within 60 minutes. At the moment, the operation of drones is controlled by operators, but soon the AI ​​should draw a map of the area and the delivery will take place automatically.

Xiaomi cares about lazy people.

This time the company introduced a "smart" aquarium, in which you need to change the water every half a year. Mijia Smart Fish Tank has a self-cleaning pump and a five-stage water filtration system, which allows you to forget about cleaning the aquarium for a long time. So that the fish do not starve to death, a royal-sized automatic feed tray is provided, however, it will only last for three months. Cost only $50, sales will start soon in China.

In the British city of Scarborough, New Year's fireworks had to be cancelled.

This had to be done because of the New Year's miracle in the form of a tired walrus. The poor fellow made a stopover in the town on his long journey north. And in order not to frighten the animal, they decided to remove the fireworks. In return, onlookers got a better spectacle.

"Christmas" comet

The "Christmas" comet C/2022 E3 (ZTF) can be seen with the naked eye in the second half of January. The comet was discovered this year, and it is calculated that the last time it approached the Earth was 50,000 years ago. Then, Neanderthals and mammoths walked the planet.

South Korea launched a "Christmas tree" into space.

In the Country, a UFO-related panic immediately began. An unusual sight, resembling a cone-shaped luminous spruce, caused a lot of rumors and speculation. But in reality, it turned out that the Korean army simply conducted a successful test of a solid-propellant launch vehicle.

Elon Musk became the first person in history to lose $200 billion in a year.

According to Bloomberg, the entrepreneur’s fortune in November 2021 was about $340 billion, but due to the sharp drop in Tesla shares, as well as after his acquisition of Twitter for $44 billion, Musk’s assets are currently estimated at $137 billion.

When is the Year of the Rabbit?

In European countries, it is believed that the totem animal comes into its own according to the Gregorian calendar on New Year's Eve - January 1. But the eastern calendar is not synchronized with the European one. In the countries of the East, the beginning of the holiday is determined by the lunar calendar. By the way, in the East there is no fixed date for the New Year, the holiday occurs on the second new moon after the winter solstice, and due to the cyclical nature of the lunar months, the date falls differently. In the coming year, the reign of the Water Rabbit will begin on January 22, 2023 and will last until February 9, 2024. In Eastern cultures, the New Year is celebrated for 15 whole days, expressing respect for the symbol of the upcoming 12 months, trying to win its favor.

How do zodiac signs get divorced? Pisces.

Pisces will escalate and dramatize, even if they initiated a divorce. It is important for them to "form" the divorce with the right emotions: regret, tears, repentance. But Pisces quite calmly divide the acquired property.

Four zodiac signs that make great stepmothers. Capricorn.

The Capricorn woman is only serious in appearance. There is no need to be afraid if an aunt born under the constellation Capricorn became the new wife of the father. In fact, she is a kind and sensitive woman, the way a mother should be. The women who became stepmothers were born under different constellations. But Taurus, Virgo, Libra and Capricorn have one thing in common - they will become excellent stepmothers, or rather, mothers.

Daily horoscope January 4th.

Capricorn♑️ The day will be busy. Most likely, today you have to deal with several things at once, solve small, but numerous issues. This will require a lot of strength, but you can do it just fine. Some Capricorns will succeed where no one expected it. Aquarius♒️ This day will please you, give you a lot of bright emotions. There will be an opportunity to do what has long attracted and interested you. You will achieve the first successes quickly, moving on will be easy. Successful coincidences are likely that will help you take a fresh look at familiar things, guess what needs to be done to make your wishes come true. Pisces♓️ In the first half of the day, minor misunderstandings and unfortunate incidents are not ruled out. They will not have serious consequences, but they can ruin your mood. Try not to worry about trifles. Look for reasons for joy and new opportunities; there will be enough of them today. The second half of the day is suitable for some useful deeds, solving important issues.