Anchoring in a relationship with a man.

Anchors in relationships are very powerful associations associated with a desired woman in a man. The woman herself creates them. If, for example, during intimacy there is always red lipstick on the lips, then the man will develop a connection “red lipstick-anchor-enjoyment”. You can anchor with music, underwear, touches, phrases. The main condition: all these chips, attributes for fixing anchors should be used only during proximity. After that, you can already use these anchors as associations related to you.

How to save a marriage on the brink of divorce?

1. Start with yourself. Don't try to change your partner. It's impossible. Honestly and calmly analyze: what are you doing wrong? For example: you control every step of your husband, you criticize him. 2. Learn constructive dialogue. Replace reproaches with "I-statements". Not “You didn’t throw out the trash again, how many times should I remind you!”, But “I get upset when house cleaning agreements are violated.” 3. Take an interest in his affairs. Let's be honest: do you know how your spouse lives? What does he dream about, what career plans does he make, how does he imagine the perfect day off? Talk to each other, share experiences and spiritual secrets. It builds intimacy and builds trust.

Don't wait for inspiration.

Don't waste time waiting for the phantom muse. You should realize that inspiration is fickle. If your morning wasn't as cheerfully as you wanted, that's no reason to lose the whole day. Self-control and planning are the FOUNDATIONS for moving forward.

Don't multitask

If you feel like you're taking on too much, it may mean that the reason isn't even the overload itself. It's more likely that you're trying to perform many tasks at once. Quality of performance and productivity thus suffer! Doing ONE thing at a time will allow you to do it properly, without too much physical or mental effort.

Should you live with an alcoholic husband?

On the one hand, the question is strange, the answer suggests itself. It would be necessary to run away from such happiness without looking back. On the other hand, everything is not so simple. If you have already connected your life with a man who drinks heavily, then you definitely got into a co-dependent relationship. Marriage with a drinking man is a complete disappointment and bitterness. In fact, the wives of drunkards adapt and somehow live, or rather exist. Codependent relationships can last for years.

5 signs you're being used in a relationship

1. Reproach for past mistakes. Reminding them every time to induce guilt is pure manipulation. 2. Your interests, victories or defeats are not a reason for conversation. In a healthy relationship, everyone's life is important. 3. Relatives worry about you. You can’t fool other people - they look at your relationship from the outside. 4. The partner claims "that it will be better for everyone." A partner who achieves results with such words is manipulating you. 5. Your "no" doesn't matter. If your “no” is an empty phrase, and the partner’s actions are more and more like violence, put an end to these relationships.

How should you invest in relationships?

Hug and support. Smile! Make breakfast! Restrain yourself and not smash your partner in public, giving him a chance to save face! Sex must have a foreplay, and this is not the responsibility of only men. Your partner also expects surprises and initiatives from you. Rest and do not blame everyone for your eternal fatigue. To fulfill promises. Thank. Imagine holidays. Hear partner. Talk about your desires. Be prepared for rejection.

Save face.

Try to control yourself in the heat of an argument. Respond calmly to criticism and move on to healthy communication: - Okay, I hear you. What do you really want to tell me? This method of dealing with unfair criticism helps you "save face," while reassuring your interlocutor that you understand her/him and that you are interested in his or her opinion.

There is no such thing as an angry person.

In the sense that no one feels anger for no reason. People get angry when they are either hurt or scared. There are no bad people as well, however sometimes others' idea of good and bad doesn't match ours. There is no problem that cannot be solved. There are problems that cannot be solved at the particular moment because of a lack of knowledge and possibilities. Often the only solution is to accept the impossibility of solving it. If you lose an opportunity, it will always be followed by the next one, but in a different time and under different circumstances.

How to support your husband.

You can do something nice for him: • delicious dinner • Erotic massage • romantic walk • listen to him (although you should not let him whine and complain, a strong man needs not pity, but understanding!) • make it clear that you are with him and believe in him A normal man is wildly motivated by such things and does not allow to give up! And you should not give advice or finish him off with the phrase “I told you so!”. Then your support will give him strength and confidence, your man will be immensely grateful to you! ⠀

Error reminder.

Every person is prone to make mistakes. If the situation has already been discussed, and the spouse realized his guilt, it is not worth remembering this and returning to the past. Forgive - forgot. If a woman constantly remembers past mistakes, a man will want to run away from her.

Talk to a man.

Silencing problems is one of the biggest mistakes women make. The more you endure, the stronger the emotional outburst will eventually be, which will lead to a showdown and scandal. Talk to your partner right away about what really bothers you and what you don't like. So you can look for compromises and ways to solve problems together. Remember that complaints should be made calmly, in the correct form.

Don't forget to sleep!

SLEEP is not a waste of time, but one of the most important processes in the body! If you always go to bed after midnight and sleep less than 5-6 hours, your body will be under chronic stress! Hence fatigue, increased appetite, overweight, bad moods, aggression, reduced work capacity, as well as problems at work and scandals at home. Sometimes, in order to make your life better, you just need some SLEEP.

Believe only in yourself.

Ask yourself the question: "What stops us from achieving our goals!?". Sometimes when we ask ourselves this question, we see the faces of our bosses, colleagues, neighbors, parents, or a wife! Sure, that's them who are responsible for the fact that we were sent to the wrong school, got the wrong job, missed our talents and not promoted up the career ladder! Remember once and for all: everything is only YOUR FAULT! And the responsibility lies only with ourselves.

How to understand what a man loves.

He declares his rights to the woman. For example, when meeting friends, a man emphasizes her status: "Meet Viktoria - my girlfriend." He plans his future with a woman. He uses the word "we", makes plans for a life together, is interested in the opinion of a woman and takes it into account. He provides for the woman. He is pleased to spend money on his beloved, to help financially. He is protecting the woman. A man wants to protect a woman from emotional upheavals - at work, in communication with friends. He controls his behavior and does everything to make his beloved feel calm.

Loneliness: is it really that bad?

Loneliness is an opportunity to do what you want, relative independence and freedom. Time for yourself, travel, entertainment. You can consider this period as a time of preparation for relationships, which you are free to spend on self-improvement, work with yourself, self-education - those things that family people often do not allocate time for. You just can’t imagine how sometimes married people, especially those with children, lack personal space. And how they would like to be alone for a little while. And the funny thing is that time alone with yourself will most likely end exactly when you learn to really enjoy it and realize that you don’t want to change anything.

That you can never forgive a man.

There are women who can be in a relationship for years, where they are bullied both psychologically and physically, but they still continue to be there. Because it's acceptable for them. Consciously they suffer, they try to somehow influence the partner, but they cannot break off the relationship. And there is only one way out - to seek help from a specialist. There are women who, at the slightest encroachment, not just on their life and health, but even on some kind of severe violation of personal boundaries, immediately put an end to the relationship. Definitely - where there was a threat to life and health, you can never forgive and stay there. And even if a man repents now, no one knows how he will behave in the future.

How to decide on a divorce?

So, if you have weighed the pros and cons of divorce for your family, for yourself personally, then act. Outline an action plan. Do not rush to collect things and go into the void. Evaluate the pros and cons of divorce for children. Prepare them for such an unpleasant event. Solve issues with housing and work, consult with a lawyer about the main nuances of divorce.

The magic of affirmations

To increase the power of faith in your own irresistibility, use affirmations (positive statements) like: "I love and accept myself" or "I'm a wonderful person and I deserve all the best in life". Imagination is welcome. Put such written affirmations on various personal items that you often take in your hands, such as a mirror or a business card in your wallet. Let them often remind you of who you really are.

Know how to concentrate fully.

A simple method for improving concentration: Take any book off the shelf, open it on any page and start counting the number of words in a paragraph using only your eyes. NOTE. Don't use your fingers, pencil or any other objects! After that, count again to check yourself. It won't be easy at first. If you take just five minutes per day to do this exercise, you'll be surprised by your progress in a week.