Technique "7 questions"

Do you know such a state when you need to make an important decision, but you just can’t decide and take any step? You are tormented by doubts and fears, you cannot understand your true intentions. You seem to be missing something important. I think we all have faced the same situation more than once. I want to advise you one very interesting technique. It is called "7 questions", and is simply indispensable when you need to make the right decision or understand your true desire. This technique can be used perfectly for any impasse in life where there are many solutions.

Men are more likely than women to flirt at work for a promotion.

Men are more likely than women to flirt for a promotion, and among them the most active are narcissistic and insecure employees in low positions. To such conclusions after a series of experiments came scientists from the University of California.

How to negotiate with a man?

What is the main mistake of a woman? The fact is that instead of resolving the issue, she begins to emotionally attack the man, solving the momentary task - to defuse her resentment. That is, if you are not satisfied with the situation, it is necessary to resolve the issue. But not at the moment when you once again do the dishes for two after a hard day at work and are already angry. And reasonably and calmly, choosing a convenient time for a conversation. Claims will not help here: they will only put a man in a situation where he wants to protect himself, and he will no longer be up to justice.

Disadvantages of a long distance relationship

Consider the disadvantages of long-distance relationships: • Lack of physical intimacy can get boring sooner or later. • a different mentality of a partner can show itself from the most unexpected side for you. • different time zones are not always convenient for communication. • pressure from others, because there will always be a person who will blurt out: “What if he cheats on you there?”.

Think about the cost of a fight.

When you are arguing with a loved one about some little thing, think about what it will cost you to win this dispute. Let's say you like your own idea a little more, you persevere and emerge victorious. And you become a little happier. But how much will you lose because your partner is upset? Is your opinion about some little thing really more important to you?

Concentration hour.

Schedule at least one such hour a day on your calendar and during that time focus on the work that matters most. No distractions or entertainment. Set a timer to know when the time is up and get started. One hour is often enough to get quite a lot done. And scheduling this distraction-free time is easier than trying to be productive all day long. If you have the opportunity, set aside two or three hours of total concentration.

Develop the ability to focus.

Develop the ability to focus. It is generally accepted that leadership is the ability to make important, but unpopular decisions. This is only part of the truth. To become an outstanding leader, you need to be able to abstract from the superfluous. Success will be achieved by the one who ignores everything secondary. Otherwise, the routine will drag you back.

Who's right?

Remember. Always, in any situation, there are only two options: 1. Prove yourself. That means to escalate the situation, to take offense, to accuse and ruin relationships, accumulating negative memories and emotions (which come out at the next slightest quarrel: "Do you remember what you did that time? Do you remember what you said back?" and so on). 2. Or simply accept the fact that other people have their own truth. It may actually differ from yours and even may be wrong, but you shouldn't try to correct everyone all the time. However, if you want to build a strong and trusting relationship, then you should try to choose the second option in disputable and stressful situations as often as possible.

This is what can help you overcome anger:

• Do breathing exercises to calm down • Write down all your feelings • Get some workout • Listen to energetic music • Punch a pillow (or something soft, no need to hurt yourself or anyone)

Agree to everything, so long as you don't leave.

Any conformism is violence against oneself. Being silent and agreeing that you feel bad does not mean making the situation good. It won't turn "bad" into "good". And even more so marriage. And if the relationship is bad, they will fall apart anyway. For family life to be good, both should try. Do not spare your men, talk to them about what you don’t like, or leave immediately when it’s useless to talk.

Compatibility criteria.

1. Physical (sexual). When partners cannot find common ground in sex. But everything is fine on a spiritual level. This happens if a man and a woman have a different sexual constitution. 2. Emotional. The emotional component helps to smooth out sharp corners, find a compromise, feel a partner. Close people are not shy about frank conversations, they are ready to empathize. 3. Intelligent. If partners are bored with each other, such an alliance is unlikely to succeed. Practice shows that men and women are looking for a partner who is equal in terms of education and interests. 4. Financial. Attitude towards money plays an important role in building a strong union. Therefore, it is necessary to discuss the nuances of maintaining a family budget on the “shore”.

How to survive a breakup.

1. Let go of yourself. If you want to shed tears, then cry, you can even scream, sing, dance, lie in bed for hours. 2. Allow yourself to feel the feelings. Answer yourself honestly: what qualities in a partner did you love and whether he actually possessed them. It is also important to understand what you wanted from the relationship and what you got in the end. 3. Don't blame yourself for the breakup. Two people are always to blame for the breakup of relations, because contact was gradually lost between you. 4. Keep your distance. Immediately after parting, it is necessary to keep a distance from each other. 5. Do not look for a replacement for the former. Flirting or casual sex can help, but not for long, because now you are very vulnerable and suddenly you will begin to pin hopes on casual relationships. 6. Start planning for the future. Everything that makes you happy should be on the list. It is important to regularly replenish the list, and when sadness and depression pile up, be sure to re-read it.

Indifference to other people's opinion.

"It doesn't matter" doesn't mean you have to act like a boor who spits on everyone and everything. DON'T confuse "don't care" with disrespect, stupidity and marginality!"Don't care" doesn't mean that only your opinion matters. It means being in tune with yourself, acting according to your principles, even if everyone around you claims you do wrong."Don't care" is the power of the spirit that makes you feel good about yourself without degrading those around you.

How to develop yourself 24/7 with a minimum of effort?

Search the Internet for the answer to every "why?" question that pops into your head. Read at least 5 pages of a useful book or an article before going to bed. Communicate with people who are better than you. Switch on subtitles of the language you're learning when you watch a show. Download an app with interesting facts and read them in your spare time.

Self-care and productivity.

1. Every morning: • A glass of water with lemon • A workout • Body/facial/hair care • A healthy (but delicious) breakfast • Plan your day 2. Every day: • 10 new foreign language words • 30 minutes of reading • Go to bed before 11:00 p.m. 3. Every week: • Go to 3 workouts • Watch 1 movie • Listen to 1 podcast • Visit a new place • Do a recap of the week • Check in with your goals

Worried about making the right decision?

Try the following technique: Imagine you've chosen the first option (of the two you can't decide between), take a piece of paper and try to describe how your life might turn out after making this decision. Imagine you've chosen the second option. Similarly, describe how your life might turn out in this case.

A few simple but very useful rules

- Do not spare money for pleasure. - Always remember that you will not have another life. - If you are guilty - immediately tell about it and do not look for excuses for yourself. - In life, always count only on yourself. - Never argue. - If you want something - Ask. If you want to meet - Invite. If you want to be understood - Explain. Like - say. It's not clear - ask. - Don't hang out with fools. - Don't be a bore. - A person's problems are only in his head. - The world around is not evil and not good, it doesn't care if you are or not. - Try to get pleasure from every event. - Live today, because yesterday is already gone, and tomorrow may not be. - The main thing in life is love, everything else is vanity.

I can't get married.

To begin with, let's figure out why many girls are obsessed with marriage: 1. Negative installation "It is necessary". “Something you’ve been sitting up in the girls”, “The clock is ticking, you’ll stay alone!”, “When are the grandchildren?” Many girls often hear such statements from relatives. Panic sets in: “Why am I still not married? Am I worse than the rest? 2. Fears. An unmarried girl may have a fear of repeating past negative experiences, a fear of losing her freedom, a fear of becoming a bad wife, and insecurity in her partner. 3. Standby mode. Situation: the couple has been living together for several years, but the coveted ring is still missing.

5 signs of sacrifice that are mistaken for love.

1. In your family, your mother was not happy. She lived the role of a caring wife, a good mother, a performer of all affairs. And it seems to you that this is normal - to endure, to hush up, to allow. Everyone lives like this. 2. The female victim is very empty inside, there is no energy and strength. Hence the tears, tantrums, insomnia, sad expression, lack of desire, self-confidence. 3. The female victim is very generous and kind. The man takes it, and then leaves, and the “vase” falls to the floor with a crash and does not know how to live now. Or he constantly shakes this “vase” morally so that it falls apart on its own. 4. A female victim is beautiful, and sometimes she has abandoned herself. The one that abandoned is tired of fighting. And the one that is beautiful is trying for her man. 5. A woman of this type constantly gives, gives, achieves, deserves, begs for something. She firmly believes in the saying: "Love requires sacrifice."

Schedule with buffer.

The essence of this technique is to add to your schedule a few periods of time for which nothing is scheduled, in order to minimize the impact of unforeseen circumstances on your to-do list. How to use. 1. Plan the number of buffers and their duration. 2. Space your buffers evenly around your schedule. 3. If something went wrong. If a task takes longer than necessary, or an unexpected task falls on you, just keep doing them at the expense of buffer time. 4. If everything is ok. Use the buffer time for rest and recovery, use the buffer to do things that are not tied to a specific time or can be added to the next.