Stop comparing yourself to others

Neither in reality, nor on social media. On the Internet, everyone tries to create the appearance of an ideal life, which should not be trusted. There's absolutely no need to compare yourself to some illusive virtual image. Can't get rid of the feeling that everyone is better than you? Then do the following: instead of comparing yourself to people you're interested in, try to find out how they succeeded.

Be kinder to yourself

We make too heavy demands on ourselves and blame ourselves for faults we would forgive another person immediately. Don't do that. Stop putting yourself down, be kinder to yourself. Treat your own actions and thoughts with compassion and respect.

6 ways to hurt his male ego (on purpose or not)

1. Point out his physical defects. Even if he is not perfect and does not seek to change, he does not want to hear about his shortcomings. 2. Doubt his salary. They are offended when a woman boasts that she earns more than him. If you earn less, then he may be offended that he earns little. 3. Fix it in front of other people. Most men want to believe that they know everything better than anyone. 4. Talk about other men. Any compliment or words of encouragement addressed to another man hurt his ego. 5. Talk positively about your ex. Any compliment to the former is a blow to the ego of the current. 6. Show dissatisfaction with him in bed. If a woman is not happy, this is a big blow for him.

Gestures of a man when he likes a woman

• The body is turned towards the woman, his leg is put out in front of her - as a sign that he is taking a step towards the interlocutor. • A man watches his posture, straightens his shoulders, raises his chin. • The man is excited: straightens his tie, sleeves, rubs his palms, straightens his hair. • Spreads legs wide, means that he feels relaxed. • Looks into the eyes, holds the gaze and periodically switches it to the lips.

Ask Personal Questions

Use this trick if you need to get someone to like you immediately. It also works the other way around. Tell something personal about yourself to earn a person's trust. But don't spill your guts at once. Give it out gradually. Repeat your interlocutor's body language. If both repeat each other's movements and facial expressions, it means that the contact is established. That way you can even check how well the conversation is going. Try to sit a little differently and see if the person does the same.

Keep Your Emotions Under Control

An intense emotional reaction can be perceived by a toxic person as a manifestation of weakness and insecurity, which will trigger them to even more provocation: inappropriate jokes, manipulation and unfair criticism. Keeping an emotional distance requires awareness. Periodically, you will find that you are in a situation where you need to stop and choose the best course of action. Sometimes the best course of action is to smile and nod, and in the meantime, pause and plan your next steps.

How to achieve harmony in work with an egoist

Egoists think only about themselves. In worst cases, this is combined with toxic behavior and narcissism. Narcissists differ in that they do not know how to appreciate other people's good ideas and tend to exaggerate their own importance. If you are a boss, try to deal with this behavior rather sooner than later and directly. When you see an employee is taking advantage of others, let him know that this behavior is unacceptable. If the egoist is your colleague, use the same approach. It is better to immediately stop such an attitude and unequivocally make it clear that you will not tolerate it.

More about healthy relationships

The ability to show and feel empathy for each other. In fact, it is obvious that you should always be there for each other, especially when emotions overwhelm you. Most couples take their relationship status for granted and forget how important the person next to them is until things start to fall apart. Being constantly aware of your partner's emotions and expressing that awareness in a sincere and caring way is paramount in any relationship.

Is cheating allowed in a couple?

It seems that a loved one should not lie in any case, because this undermines trust and the foundation on which a joint happy future is based. But some are sure that lying in a family between a husband and wife is a completely normal phenomenon, and there is nothing wrong with that if the spouses do not cross the permissible boundaries.

Is it important to be officially married if you love each other?

“Why do we need an official marriage, we already love each other” “It is not necessary to sign if you trust your partner” “Paper papers do not matter, the main thing is feelings!” Familiar? I'm sure yes. For each of us, family and relationships mean something different. Everyone chooses how to live. And what is the significance of formalization for your relationship? Is the stamp in your passport important to you or are you for cohabitation?

Set boundaries in your relationships

Picture a situation where a large family gathered for a festive dinner, everyone is lively discussing something, and suddenly your aunt asks you a question: "Are you going to get married?" Silence hung in the air, and now all attention is focused on you. At this moment, it is important not to get lost and say, for example, the following: "This has nothing to do with the family feast. Let's discuss the upcoming vacation together instead”. Such a firm, but clear and polite answer will make it clear to the interlocutors that you know how to define your personal boundaries — in the future it will help avoid such awkward conversations.

Fighting Fear

Firstly, it is impossible to fight fear. All you can do is recognize it, but most people will never do it. Why? That’s because the desire to change yourself or to change something that inspires fear is weaker than the fear itself. Whether it's ending a relationship or moving to another city, quitting a hated job or starting a business, you'll never do it unless your motives for doing it are stronger than your fear of the unknown.

3 situations when a bad relationship is your "merit"

1. Expect the worst from a man The monumental mistake of women at the beginning of a relationship is to expect a dirty trick from everywhere. 2. Thinking about a man is one thing, but talking about another The essence is similar to the first point: in a relationship with a man, it doesn’t matter at all what you declare if the opinion / expectation sitting inside you does not coincide with your words and actions. 3. "Coach" a man You went to see Tony Robbins, took courses in Neuro Linguistic Programming, gained the power of self-motivation. You understood what your problem was, understood how to solve it. And you really need to share this knowledge with your partner, teach him, and even worse - hope that he will change!

If a man destroys your personal space

How to act if you understand that your partner is simply “choking” you? Often we do not notice the line where care ends and total control begins. In fact, the neglect of personal space in a relationship is the psychology of an abuser. Numerous calls with questions: “When did you have lunch?”, “What time will you be back?”, “Don't forget to write when you get to the office” - this is not a concern, this is violence! If you feel like you're in a vice, don't take it! First of all, make your position clear. Let your husband know that you are a grown woman and do not need such overprotection. Alas, in most cases the abuser ignores such requests. In reality, he is not interested in anyone's boundaries. If all attempts to rectify the situation have failed, the only way out is separation. And in order to no longer fall for the hook of a toxic partner, create a strong alliance according to your own rules.

What is a healthy relationship?

You mutually love each other and this love grows stronger over time. And this means: • You didn't go into a relationship to attach a man like a plantain to your pain. You closed this pain first. • You feel that you are together, there is no feeling of loneliness. • There are no manipulations, the couple is sincere and open to each other. • Your partner does not forbid you anything, does not infringe, and you have no desire to control and forbid. • There are no insults in quarrels, no criticism and depreciation. • There are common goals and plans. There is support, a desire to help and care. And such relationships begin easily, and the dynamics of their development is quite fast and stable. There is no such thing that a man disappears, then appears. Healthy relationships give joy, a sense of security. Sometimes there are storms. But they endure and only get stronger.

Why do men like bitches?

Nice girls are not a challenge. Sometimes "easy" means "boring". Men are hunters by nature, it's in their nature. They want competition, and if they're told they can't have something, they won't back down until they get it. Good women seem boring because men don't have to make any effort to win their hearts. But bitches are hard to reach, and most men are gamblers and won't give up until they win a prize.

I'M ANGRY

And that's okay. Yes, it's NORMAL to feel ANGRY sometimes. It is as natural as any other emotion. It is inseparable from our nature whether we want it or not. No matter how you slice it, emotions just don't have an ON button. Even if you succeed in switching off anger, all other feelings go away as well. If you don't accept anger, suppress and ignore this emotion, it can lead to two extremes. The first is uncontrollable outbursts of anger causing crashing furniture and fighting. The second is passive corrosion, toxic aggression and psychosomatic illness.

About setbacks

Setbacks are inevitable on the way to your goal. When you decide to live a new life for yourself (lose weight, run in the morning, quit drinking beer, get a second degree), and are determined to do your best, but after a week or two you suddenly snap. So here's the point: setbacks happen – it's not a problem. They are absolutely inevitable, since nobody can change at the drop of a hat. The whole point is whether you give up, or willfully pull yourself together to crush it again. That's the difference between those who succeed in changing their reality and those who only think they intend to change something. There are no quick results on the road to deep personal transformation.

It's time for a change

When should you change your life? At 20, 25, 30? Is a positive transformation possible later? Transformation is possible when you have made a decision, developed a plan, and are moving toward your goal point by point. The thing is that the earlier you start moving toward your goal, the better your chances of achieving it. The problem is that if a person does not change mindfully, his or her life changes for the worse over time. A person suffers more and more, becomes more and more frustrated, goes deeper and deeper into resentment and a sense of injustice, because he or she is more and more dissatisfied with the way he or she lives and what he or she gets.

If you take out the negative

Do you think that constant conflicts, quarrels and showdowns are a real passion? Even if a quarrel occurs, a healthy discussion of the problem will help resolve the conflict, and not slamming the door, throwing everything that comes to hand. Girls, learn to distinguish passion from toxicity! And these insults to you? "Shut up" "You are dumb?" "Fuck you!" Do you have to hear such words addressed to you when your husband is angry, and when everything is getting better, he asks for forgiveness? And then everything repeats over again? It's a red flag that something is wrong with the relationship.