You never saw how beautiful you are.

You see yourself only in the reflection of the mirror, and when you look at the photo with yourself. And you often don't like what you see. But you have never seen yourself at the moment when sparks in your eyes light up with happiness. You have never seen yourself when you look at someone or something with eyes in love to tears ... You have not seen yourself when you rejoiced at unexpected surprises or events ... You are beautiful every second, every moment: when you smile when you cry, when you sleep or when you laugh. Love yourself the way you are!

"A man loves not the woman herself, but his condition next to her"

A real woman is not at all the most beautiful, not the smartest and not the most successful. A real woman gives a man not a mind, not beauty, not a body, not success, but a state. A woman who creates a special superman state in men will always be loved. She creates this state by enjoying the company of her man and admiring him. And a man will always be drawn to this special state, as to a magnet. Have you heard of this theory before? Agree?

How to understand that a man loves you?

Male and female love are different from each other. If a man: - wants you - it's a passion. He wants to possess you. - invites you to do something together - this is a sign of emotional closeness. He is interested in you, your affairs, calls you somewhere, he wants to spend time with you. - provides you. He earns and gives money to you. Are you saying this isn't enough? Are you not enough? Yes, girls, women's love is a little different.

3 reasons to immediately mark the boundaries.

Here are three typical situations when it's time to set boundaries for your partner: 1. Your opinion has been multiplied by zero. Everyone thinks only of themselves, and you are at their service. Either the mother-in-law thinks that you are a servant, or the husband does not consider it necessary to warn about his plans, then drop everything to the child and give it right away. 2. You are insulted, devalued and offended. You are always extreme, guilty of everything, a bad wife, mother, it's time for you to change so that everyone likes it. 3. You are being mistreated. This includes all correspondence in social networks and other signs of attention to other women. They control you, they forbid you, they demand from you and do not thank you. More often than not, we don't know what to do. We get offended, we get lost, we look for reasons in ourselves, we scandal, we freak out, we get divorced. But remember: you can do this as long as you allow it.

Who is a male provocateur?

His favorite game is to provoke you to emotions, and unpleasant ones, those that will make you feel uncomfortable. There are several types of them: • Amateur provocateur. The person for whom the only correct opinion is his own does not tolerate dissent. • Provocateur-strategist. Most often, they do something behind their backs to achieve their own success or to put themselves in the best light. • Ruler-ruler. Plays with those who are psychologically weaker, looking for a victim, and then asserts himself through manipulation.

Being offended is a sign of low emotional intelligence.

Women often use this trick in communication with men: "I am offended". However, it's just an excuse to purse lips... In fact, BEING OFFENDED is a clear sign that a person lacks emotional intelligence. High-EQ people know how to forgive and keep control over their behavior if they offend someone. What's to be done? Increase the level of your emotional intelligence and fight resentment as well.

Pick the right moment to talk.

To do this you have to study a person, to know more about his/her daily routine, work schedule, habits, favorite places, and company. For example, many managers try to do most of their work at the beginning of the day. Monday is the most hectic day, while on Friday people think less about business. So it's worth choosing a time in the afternoon in the middle of the week. Choose the most optimal time to arrange your effective meeting.

Never talk about past partners.

No one needs memories of past partners, they can only interfere and hurt. You should not talk about them even in passing, and even more so in detail or expressing regret or admiration. It's one thing to theoretically know that someone was, and another thing when they talk about it directly, and even express emotions. There are people who think that by learning or talking about previous relationships, they insure themselves and their partner against repeating the mistakes of the past. But it doesn't work that way. Old experience will not help, but only hinder.

Prepare a romantic dinner.

Think of a menu. The meat dish should not be heavy and fatty, it is better to choose seafood. Arrange fruits beautifully on a plate, you can in the form of a heart. You can make a light dessert. For alcohol, choose champagne or light wine. Romantic setting. It is better to light candles or incense sticks in advance so that the aroma has time to spread throughout the house. Music should be pleasant and relaxing at the beginning and exciting at the end of the dinner. Dinner with your loved one by candlelight should be arranged towards the end of the week, when both of you will be more relaxed. And of course, do not forget to take time for your appearance, because the main dessert for your beloved man is you yourself.

Two people in the kitchen or how cooking brings spouses together.

Pleasure from ordinary things. Create a relaxed atmosphere. Turn on the music, exchange jokes. Then you will look forward to this event. Time in the kitchen makes up for the lack of communication. You can discuss everything that happened to you and talk about plans for the future. Talk while eating, enjoying the fruits of joint creativity..

Hold your interlocutor's attention by changing your speech pace.

If you speak in a MONOTONE, even when giving interesting and important information, your interlocutor will not capture the essence of your words. Change your speech tempo, like a composer changes the tempo of a piece of music. Use chunking and make pauses. It will make your speech sound coherent, clear and interesting.

If you love me, THEN...

This manipulation is intended for people close to you, who have a positive attitude toward the manipulator. A powerful fear of rejection and losing love comes from childhood. Many parents unwisely try to manipulate their child by saying, "If you don't listen to me/do what I say, etc., I'll stop talking to you/loving you/caring about you, etc." The antidote: Love is not a bargaining chip, but the result of a relationship. If you notice the exploitation of your feelings, consider how much you need it.

Simple, but such necessary advice.

♦️ Do not wait for ideal conditions to start doing what you have long dreamed of. ♦️Not every friendship lasts forever, that's okay. You can appreciate what the relationship has given you, even if it's over now. ♦️Be patient and persistent. In life, it is not so important what you have achieved, what is more important is what you had to overcome. ♦️Everything can change in a week, month or year. Don't give up, keep believing in yourself. ♦️Don't equate one terrible day or month with a terrible life. Remember that there are many wonderful moments ahead.

How to get rid of the habit of comparing?

• Start loving yourself. You deserve everything you dream of. You have talents. Perhaps they are still hidden from you. Because instead of looking inside yourself, you look at others. • Keep a success diary. Write down all your achievements there, even small ones. • Try to be inspired by someone else's example. Set goals and learn how to reach them. • Catch negative thoughts and switch. • Work with your destructive attitudes. Everything starts from the head.

How to painlessly part with your husband.

• State the reason for the divorce. Talk about what devastates you, list the problems that do not suit you. • Talk about actions, not personality. Take the case of change. What do most wives do? They shout, every day they remind their spouse what a scoundrel he is. It is better to tell your husband how painful it is for you to realize what happened, and that you cannot accept this act, this is unacceptable for you. • Burn bridges. When leaving, leave, that is, no pauses and "I need to think." Sometimes ex-spouses continue to sort things out, write messages to each other. You need to cut off all ties and not communicate. • Imagine that you have already broken up. Work out in your head a scenario that suits your situation. Write down all the little things: what you say to your husband during a conversation, how you pack things or look for a new home. All these details will help to realize that there is life after a divorce.

Desire to manipulate.

There is a category of women who use manipulation as the main feature when communicating with a man. Instead of talking or simply asking for help, the woman "stands in a pose": she looks dissatisfied, blackmails with sex, refuses to cook her spouse. This means that she was offended by the man. In families where such rules of the game operate, a rare day goes by without conflicts and quarrels. Resentment in a relationship is a very insidious thing. An offended spouse exudes negative vibes that kill all the good in a man. He does not want to earn, to try. The point, I think, is clear.

Sometimes it's better to keep silent.

If someone's words hurt you, cause discomfort and unpleasant emotions, and you do not want him/her to notice it, then keep silent. This way you will baffle your opponent and he will feel like a complete fool.

Suppose you were accused of making a mistake.

How to respond? Forget it. It’s not necessary to react. People point out each other's mistakes, not because they're really bad, but because it makes them feel good. You enjoy being dominated too, don't you?So, instead of getting into meaningless negotiations, just accept your opponent's remark, even if you don't agree with him or her.

How to get out of a fight.

Stop blaming. Each accusation and presentation of claims only exacerbates the situation. Express dissatisfaction calmly, wanting not to injure, but to sort it out. Cool down. Do not need too much passion, on the contrary, give each other more air. There is no right in the situation. You must understand that everything you are in now, you created both. Speak kind words. No matter how hard it is, leave room for nice words. You can radically change the situation by saying words that you haven’t said for a long time, praising or thanking.

5 warning signs.

• A man does not introduce you into his environment, tries not to appear with you in crowded places. And if you cross paths with his acquaintances, then he does not say that you are his girlfriend, bride, lover. • He doesn't make plans, doesn't talk about the future. Moves away from such topics, avoids uncomfortable questions, comes up with excuses, answers vaguely. • A man has little interest in your affairs, hobbies, problems, dreams. He also does not seek to enter your social circle. • He keeps certain boundaries, hides a lot. It seems like he has a lot of secrets. • Your relationship is built only on his terms. He does everything when it suits him. There is no development.