In search of uniqueness.

Why are we afraid of making mistakes? Because we've been told since childhood: "It's bad to be wrong, it's dangerous to be wrong, you mustn't be wrong". These are the most common misconceptions that prevent people from trying new things, changing, and improving their lives. You should be PROUD of making mistakes since this is the ONLY way to overcome mediocrity and find uniqueness.

Shut off your brain.

We all live in an endless stream of information. Social media, news, work issues, etc. Our brains CONSTANTLY process and reproduce various thoughts. Think back to the last time your head rested from information overload. The brain is actually active even while sleeping. Being in a constant state of stress indeed reduces our energy levels many times over. Give your brain a chance to RELAX, at least a couple of times per day. Turn off all of your gadgets, close your eyes, and just keep your mind silent for 15 minutes.

Don't bring up past mistakes.

Many people use as an argument in disputes the grievances of the past, which it is high time to forget. This shows that there are no real arguments, but only grievances that people accumulate in relationships in order to show them later. If the situation of the past still causes violent emotions in you, you have every right to them. But it is important to work them out, and not dump them on your husband every time.

Negative attitudes towards men.

In modern society, men and women have a lot of claims to each other. If, for example, a woman has an attitude that “all men are goats”, this is easily read in her behavior and conversations. And most importantly, those around us also feel such thoughts in us. And they react accordingly. Therefore, if you want to build healthy relationships, first of all you need to deal with your negative attitudes.

What to do if you have a fight with your husband?

Frequent scandals tire, deprive of peace, destroy marriages. So: 1. Make time for yourself. Write a list of things that bring you joy and pleasure. 2. Get rid of the orderly tone. If you are used to solving all problems through ultimatums, change tactics. Start communicating with your spouse in the language of flirting and compliments. 3. Make a "beacon of pain." Take a thin elastic band and put it on your hand. As soon as you could not restrain yourself in a conversation with your husband, click this rubber band on your wrist. 4. Choose the right time. No boring conversations at the end of the working day or at dinner! If you want to convey your requests to your husband, do it when the missus is in a good mood, full of energy for the implementation of all plans.

Know how to listen.

Being a charismatic man doesn't mean you have to say A LOT! Even if you can speak like Churchill. If you don't know how to listen, and the person you are talking to doesn't feel that you are keen on her/him, you won't become an interesting conversationalist. To develop your own charisma you need to learn how to listen, support, inspire, encourage, and even comfort others.

Notice your successes!

Even minor ones, and particularly when it comes to significant victories. Establish a TRADITION to celebrate your good FORTUNE. It is NOT necessary every time to go to a bar to hang out with friends. Do just something nice for yourself that day and share THIS with your beloved ones. By the way, Vishen Lakhiani, the CEO of Mindvalley, rings a special bell every time something good happens.

Ask someone who is tired.

When someone is tired, they are more receptive to all requests. The reason is that a tired person is exhausted not only physically, but emotionally as well. When you ask a tired person for a favor, you'll probably get an answer like: "Okay, I'll do it tomorrow", because at this point she/he doesn't want any more problems to solve.

John Kehoe "The Subconscious Can Do Anything"

We recommend reading. As relevant as ever! Our thoughts are the main creative force in the universe. Kehoe teaches that the power of the mind can achieve the fulfillment of desires and influence the events of everyday life. And recently I came across an article that talked about a basketball team that was divided into two groups. One group had to practice shooting balls for an hour a day for two weeks. The other was to lie on the mats for ten minutes every day for two weeks and imagine that they were successfully throwing balls into the basket. After a two-week period, both parts of the team were tested. None of the basketball players played like Michael Jordan, but the results were still stunning: the half of the team that actually trained improved by 25%, and the part of the players whose training took place only in their imagination, by 24%.

Release negativity from your life.

Every life is a picture. Parents give a canvas, fate - a frame, society - paints, well, but we have to draw ourselves! Remember the zebra: the stripe is white, the stripe is black. But if you do not step over your troubles or even tragedies, then you will remain forever on the black stripe.

What drives men to cheat.

intellectual needs. A man is not interested in a woman, he has nothing to talk about with her, they have no common goals and values. emotional needs. A man from his wife does not receive enough love, care, support, understanding, respect and other positive emotions. bodily needs. The husband does not receive good sex from his wife, high-quality delicious food, comfort and coziness in the house. The need for recognition. A man next to his wife does not feel important, significant and appreciated. If you want a man not to cheat, realize that he has these needs and try to satisfy them as much as possible. If some important needs are not met, the partner feels "hunger" and begins to satisfy it on the side. Therefore, a man seeks on the side what he does not receive from his wife.

Forget being smart.

Being interesting and being smart about lofty topics are completely different things. Do not rush from the first meeting with a man to prove to him theories of the creation of the world. The woman is not about that at all. So, a man will feel boasting and even vulgarity. This does not mean that you need to pretend to be a fool and blink your eyes all evening. Be natural, do not try to show off to everyone at once. Give him the opportunity to teach you something himself. Then he will experience real pleasure.

4 signs he has a crush on you.

Specific signs of a man who has a crush on you and if you don’t see them, you better look at someone else: He initiates communication. The more often, the stronger the fuse: the first one writes, calls for no reason. ▫️ Tries to be helpful: looking for a way to help, spares no time and effort for you. ▫️ Caring. Invites somewhere, wears flowers, gives something. It's a straight up bastard! ▫️Touching. Well, carefully: hug, giving a coat, give a hand, hold on to the elbow. If you like him, be open, benevolent, encourage his actions.

Gesture with open palms when speaking.

The demonstration of open palms, as well as the front side of the body, subconsciously associates with honesty. That's why this gesture is ideal in case you need to convince your interlocutor or lie to him.

What's to be done if you are put in an uncomfortable situation?

If your interlocutor is asking inappropriate questions, then interrupt him and ask him questions. Mirror his speech, change the subject, and the most important, don't let recover, and it'll make him/her stop asking.

There are 3 ways to stay with your nose without getting anything from a man:

• Be silent You feel uncomfortable saying what you would like to be happy. You are shy, it seems to you that if you ask, he will refuse at best. At worst, it will go into the sunset. Notice! Not a single man has problems with demands in our direction. • Fill up your price I'm not like this! Everyone needs it, but I don’t, I’m light and free. And again, the man has no idea that something is needed from him! Often, such a crown grows in the spirit of “Say thanks that I am here at all.” And who told him otherwise? You? • All by myself! When a man does nothing, he does not appreciate what he has, does not appreciate comfort, does not appreciate what he receives. You yourself convinced him that nothing needs to be done for you, and he deserves everything just like that.

Checklist of harmonious relationships.

Warm and calm nearby. Most of the moments together are neutral-positive. Not an emotional swing from anger to violent joy, but peacefully and lightly. Rest your soul in the presence of each other, fill up. Emotional intimacy. Freely share desires, dreams and experiences, you know that you will hear each other. The secret quality of happy couples is the ability to withstand other people's anger, sadness, fear - not to merge, not to reduce to a joke, devaluing. Respect and equality. There is no dominant party and submissive slave. Fairness in the distribution of finances and household duties. Team play. The common WE is slightly more important than the interests of each individual. Sex compatibility. One direction of desires and tastes.

Take the first steps.

According to men, when a woman loves, she wants to have sex with him. For them it is important. Especially if the initiative comes from her, and she herself calls on her husband for intimacy. Make an offer he can't refuse. After all, the house has not only a bedroom, but also other rooms that can be used for these purposes. What if you change something or try something new? In general, experiment!

Draw conclusions.

Remember, the one who summarizes and recaps what was said controls the negotiations. By summarizing, you can emphasize what is beneficial to you, to conform reached agreements, and sometimes to influence others' decision. Use phrases such as: - So, we have agreed on the following... - Let me draw the line... - Let's recap...

Arguing: simple rules.

There are few people who have never thought they were smarter than others. Here are some tips to help you avoid this trap. Try to ARGUE with your opponent WITHOUT AGGRESSION. Anger prevents us from remaining objective and thinking coherently. Don't be afraid to admit that you don't understand something or don't know enough about an issue. It's not a shame not to know something. The only shame is to pretend that we know everything.