3 basic things that a man needs in a relationship.

1. Self-sufficiency. This is the ability to enjoy life, regardless of the circumstances. Therefore, a man, coming home, clings to her to feed. 2. Generosity. The ability to believe in a man, even when he shows weakness. 3. Knowing how we are. Accept that we are all different. But you can love and be happy with a person completely different from you!

The price we pay for weaknesses.

Self-discipline consists of two basic tools: reward and punishment for weakness. For example, your goal is to lose weight. But you let yourself eat a piece of cake. You'll have to pay for it with an extra gym session or extra pounds. If your goal is a red diploma in college or a career in general, then you will also have to sacrifice time and other personal resources to achieve it. Accustom yourself to the fact that you will have to pay with an extra effort for any setback

There are no "failures" or "tragedies".

There is only reality, your personal reality, for which only you are responsible to yourself and to the universe. It's not so easy... This perception requires practice, attunement, and responsibility. However, this approach to yourself and life ultimately rewards you and gives you total freedom to be yourself. Since only this approach lights the inner fire – the most powerful inner energy that fundamentally changes your life.

Signs of a weak man.

1. Self-affirms at the expense of others. Insists on the implementation of absurd prohibitions, often raises his voice, indicates to whom and what needs to be done, humiliates and insults. 2. Jealous of every post. Total self-doubt and fear of loss make the weak control any step of a woman. 3. Shifts responsibility to others. A man with a strong-willed character will never say that everything went wrong, because the stars did not converge, he is unlucky, etc. A loser will blame others for everything, run away from obligations. 4. Does not know how to express his opinion and defend it. Such people avoid saying something, making serious decisions, so that later they will not be responsible for their words and actions. 5. Goes with the flow and does not go anywhere. On questions about plans for the future, you can easily understand what your chosen one really is. Sometimes they make a lot of promises, dream out loud beautifully, but do nothing.

The art of compromise.

A man doesn't have to have the same opinion as you, and that's okay. Relationships are not a battlefield. Let the female wisdom that you possess help you every time your points of view openly diverge.

Suggest a solution.

Blaming, shifting responsibility, lecturing - approximately in this vein, women make claims against a man. How to present your dissatisfaction? If you declare a problem, be ready to find a compromise, offer your vision of the situation. For example: “Darling, I understand that you are busy with work right now. And I'm proud of your success. But rest is also very important. I suggest you do the following. Let's make sure to carve out two Saturdays of the month in order to go out into the world, to devote time to each other. What do you think about it?". Agree, such a speech is much more effective, instead of the phrase “Again, I’m alone all day!”

What kind of love does a man need?

Love-trust in the male understanding is a form of expression of love, in which the following conditions are met: • Partners fully accept each other, not trying to remake "for themselves." • A woman openly demonstrates to her man that she needs him. She does not try to do everything herself, but simply asks him for help. • A woman believes in her man and is always ready to inspire him to the next achievement.

Three steps ahead.

The fairly common verb "calculate" literally means - the ability of a person to design or adapt for a purpose. Form good habits not only in business matters but in everything. Calculate any situation at least three steps ahead. This will help make the RIGHT decisions avoiding unnecessary risks. Logic games might be helpful to develop this ability. For example, playing CHESS is excellent to improve strategy and tactics, it will teach you to forecast and prevent the occurrence of unpleasant moments.

Nature is the best teacher.

Only the strongest survive. This rule of the jungle is applicable to our lives. Somewhere in Africa, a gazelle wakes up in the morning and it keeps in mind it must run faster than a lion. Otherwise it will be eaten. There, in Africa, a lion also wakes up. It's mindful of the need to survive as well. It should run faster than the gazelle. What's there to learn? It absolutely doesn't matter whether you are a gazelle or a lion. When the sun comes up, you have to run. You don't have enough time to think about what to do next. It's not worth composing your thoughts for hours to start doing something. You have to get up and run. Run until you realize that today you are a well-fed lion, not a mauled gazelle.

Note to women.

Remember how mistresses who are given apartments / cars behave: they flirt, give sex - a passionate night of love, set them free, receive gifts! What do most wives do? Correctly! They do not trust and constantly control. Instead of “I’m waiting for you, my love,” they shout into the phone: “Hello, where are you?”. Forget about flirting, about women state, they do not know how to enjoy life and give this joy to their man. Do you want a secret? Men are naturally unemotional! They need recharging with positive emotions from women. They are charged and delighted, looking at our satisfied eyes, get high on how we enjoy. They are attracted to women who know how to have fun! From themselves, from their man, they motivate him to succeed, "blow his wings." They want to be close to such a woman and throw everything at her feet!

The tactility of a woman.

This is what all men pay attention to. Since childhood, a maternal image has been formed in his head. In psychology, it is he who forms the idea of a woman, her care, affection and warmth. Therefore, I recommend all women to stroke their men for no reason, simply because you love them.

How to get out of a destructive relationship.

For a woman, this is not an easy step, since in such a relationship she is most often a victim. Sometimes this is even a dangerous decision, the behavior of a partner can be unpredictable. What to do: 1. Keep your distance. It is very important to physically distance yourself. Try to completely move into your space. 2. Become uninteresting. Do not make excuses, do not be frank and do not explain anything. 3. Believe in yourself. This is difficult, especially when your self-esteem has been trampled on for a long time. But remember: everything that your ex says is not about you, but first of all about him.

"Alarm bells" in communication with a man.

1. Aggressive behavior towards animals, service personnel and children. If a man allows himself to shout or raise his hand to those who are weaker or occupy a subordinate position - think about it. His intemperance will touch you one day. 2. Craving for alcohol, drugs, gambling. Remember that for many addicts, the phrase “I will definitely quit” is just a convenient front for manipulation. 3. The division of work into "male" and "female". Do you feel that a man does not help you with housework, constantly reminds you of “female duties”, but is in no hurry to take financial responsibility for the family? It's time to do outreach and show your partner that both should invest in the relationship.

We are all on the watch for it...

It happens that walking the labyrinth of our thoughts, we come in NOWHERE. Questions remain unanswered and situations remain desperate. When suddenly, the inner turmoil turns into the insight explosion. The answers come from nowhere, and the solution comes effortlessly. The problem collapses like a house of cards in an instant. Everything becomes crystal clear: what to do, what to say, where to go.

What is your speed of life?

The speed should be such that your eyes had time to see the beauty. Your hands could feel the surface. Your body had time to enjoy itself. You should have an opportunity to recognize smells and sounds and feel alive. When we lose that feeling, we have to slow down. When we gain it, it means we do everything right.

Don't be afraid to leave what you don't need behind.

Following the path of life, you need to learn to leave behind without regret everything that makes your path forward difficult: bad memories and old grievances, past mistakes and past disappointments, and most importantly, people who have proven by their words and deeds that you are no longer comfortable with them. way...

2 reasons why you fall in love with unworthy men.

1. Your dad was cold, didn’t praise, didn’t stroke, maybe he left and forgot. Maybe he beat and called him a dumbass. So you are looking for a replacement for your “dad”, that you never fell in love, in order to be super good this time and break the loop, falling in love with this frostbitten and proving to yourself that you still deserve love. 2. Low self-esteem attracts poisonous snakes. Yes, that's how abuser attraction works.

Why are you no longer interested in him?

You can't choose. In this case, a “teacher” will come to you, and not a partner who will drive around the patient. Such men do not appreciate, do not hear, change. You don't value yourself. This leads to constant dissatisfaction on your part and depreciation on his part. If you don't value yourself, how can a man appreciate you? You don't know how to build trust. Conversation on difficult / painful topics quickly develops into hysteria, tears, interrogation or edification. What is important to you, you are trying to get through blackmail, resentment, manipulation. As a result, mental coldness develops into physical. He doesn't want you anymore. You don't know how to keep your dignity. You don’t know how to stop attacks, criticism against you with dignity, set boundaries, put him in his place so that he realizes and apologizes.

How to take power over communication with the help of time?

Yes yes, it is possible! Especially when you are not yet personally acquainted with a man. Imagine that he asked you on a date and this is your first meeting. Before the man specifies the time, say the phrase: "I can at 7 o'clock" (write your own time) This psychological technique automatically allows you to take control of the situation!

Being heard.

This is probably the most important thing in verbal communication. Being heard and accepted. To have a place where your feelings are acknowledged and accepted. This is the foundation of harmonious relationships that empowers us to change for the better. Hearing and being heard it’s what we need.