Дышите и медитируйте!

Расслабьтесь и представьте себе нежно-розовые лепестки роз, падающие сверху (с потолка или неба). Лепестки нежно ложатся вам на голову, на плечи, на все предметы вокруг вас, в том числе и на людей. Наслаждайтесь тем, как все вокруг наполняется нежностью, спокойствием, любовью и волшебным ароматом этих прекрасных цветов. Если вы ослабите бдительность и доверитесь этой технике, вы сможете заметить приятные изменения в своем внутреннем состоянии.

Breathe and meditate!

Relax and picture soft pink rose petals falling from above (the ceiling or the sky). The petals gently fall on your head, on your shoulders, on all the things around you, including people. Enjoy how everything around you becomes filled with tenderness, tranquility, love and the magical aroma of these beautiful flowers. If you lower your guard and trust this technique, you will be able to notice pleasant changes to your inner-state.

We are all beautiful, but each in our own way.

Our self-respect largely depends on the ability to appreciate our own beauty - both external and internal. Don't you dare think badly of yourself! Always think lovingly of your body, features, hair, every inch of your physical self. Every day, repeat to yourself: "My inner light radiates through all the pores, all the cells of my body. Those around me are attracted by my inner and outer beauty." Spend time and money on things that make you feel better and feel better about yourself, whether it's a massage, cosmetics, a manicure, or a new haircut. Do what gives you joy and you will radiate the beauty of a truly happy person. Appreciate and increase your natural attractiveness. Your beauty is most noticeable when you are happy and content with life.

You don't need to please everyone.

I'm not looking for new signs, it's getting harder and harder for me to get involved, to explain, to introduce new characters into the plot. I already have the series οgpοmny, I can hardly keep up with the action. I’m doing it, I’m going to know how to get into the NABE-NAMP and they’ve to be won ... Win that they are very beloved, they are easy to do, those who are not traction, CTA will not wait for me and FEEITHING, does not set up too much always understands ... More and more people in οkryg, and less and less of me. When I remember pοtοm from this time, five people, and tο, the closest ones. I'm no longer interested in extensively expand in vain, I want intensively, deep in...

It seems to me that all problems in a relationship begin when we stop feeling each other.

Over time, people relax, move away from the general wave, to which both were tuned at the very beginning. You seem to be together, but there is no unity when you finished the phrases for each other. Rude and hurtful words are spoken more often, and apologies are spoken less often. It is already possible to leave the house without kissing goodbye and return later without warning about it. It's all the little things that don't matter anymore. However, it is on such trifles that a happy life together is built. Therefore, when in any quarrel you are faced with a choice - to hurt a loved one or not, choose the second. And it doesn’t matter if it’s a word or some kind of action, bite your tongue and go into silence. Problems should be solved calmly, without negative emotions. After all, it is very easy to break even what has been built for years ..

Just stay calm!

When in a state of passion, our body aims to relieve built-up tension in any way. It is almost impossible to stop the hysteria with a strong-willed effort. Still, let us try. If you want to, but feel unable to restrain laughter or tears, try the following: Wash your face with cold water. Drink. Swallowing helps calming ourselves. Do several exercises on the shoulder muscles: "windmill" with your hands, head rotation, push-ups. Breathing. Just focus on breathing, choose any rhythm, and make sure to maintain it. It is important that the exhalations are longer than the breaths. I want you to understand that it is important to find the cause of your outbreak and eliminate the source. Do not console yourself with “everyone lives like this." Hysteria means your nervous system just "can't do it" anymore.

Citizens have a healthier psyche than villagers.

A new study has found that Americans who live in rural areas tend to have lower levels of openness, conscientiousness and psychological well-being. At the same time, they have a high level of neuroticism compared to urban residents. Researchers attribute this to the fact that people in villages have less access to psychological help.

Psychological trauma — first aid

This is the most common reason why people come to see me. The main thing is to allow yourself to reflect on what has happened. Just give yourself some time. ▫️ Take care of yourself - both physically and emotionally. I'm talking about proper nutrition, sleep and fresh air. ▫️ Try to protect yourself from further damage that the betrayer might do to you. I mean in case you've been cheated on, but still not going to break up. ▫️ Tell someone you trust about your feelings. I insist, communicate with those who appreciate you and know your best qualities as much as possible to support your self-esteem. Do not take the blame for what's happened. Show sympathy for yourself and keep in mind that betrayal is a fairly common thing and many have experienced the same. Moreover, nothing lasts forever, and this is not an exception.

No one will know about your personal boundaries

... if you don't declare them out loud. Seriously, how would Uncle Paul understand that it's better not to ask you about your personal life if only you don't put a taboo on it yourself? You have to learn to demonstrate your boundaries to others aa well as respect their own ones. Try to negotiate a timetable with your family members. Each should have an untouchable 15-30-45 minutes of privacy a day. If the arrangements don't work and you suddenly snap and yell at everyone, don't give up because of feeling guilty. It is better to realize that this explosion is a result of the lack of privacy, and to consider it as a reason to try even harder, and follow the established rules and schedule.

Personal boundaries

I am going to give you a simple classification of the psychological sovereignty aspects, which you can analyze in order to understand whether your personal boundaries are respected: ▫️Tactility. Is bodily contact with loved ones always voluntary for you? ▫️Personal space. Do your loved ones understand that when you're there, you can't be touched? ▫️Personal items. When you buy something specifically for yourself, does your family always respect it? ▫️Social connections. Do you have the ability to communicate freely with those who matter to you and not to communicate with people you don't like? ▫️Values. Do your family members respect your views, even if they differ with their mindsets, or demean them? Answering these questions, it is worth being honest with yourself, no matter how difficult it may be.

There are 9 types of people.

7. There are people - Granite. With them, you can always be sure that nothing will happen and that you are always protected. There is someone to rely on and rely on in a difficult situation. 8. There are people - the Abyss. You know that it will end badly, but it pulls, pulls to look over the edge, to touch the unknown with your hand ... 9. And there are people - Diamonds. You look at him. And each time a new facet of a person opens up: negative or positive, does it matter? Just study and admire.

There are 9 types of people.

4. There are people - Labyrinths. They are unpredictable, you will never guess what is around the corner and what kind of jungle the relationship will lead to, but the more complex the riddle, the more interesting the process of solving it. 5. There are people - Green Valleys. With them it is easy and serene, with them you leave aside all your problems and hardships, you manage to relax and unwind, even for a moment forgetting that it is actually rain and slush outside the window, and unwashed dishes in the sink. 6. There are people - Fireworks. They have an explosive temperament, and they give a sense of celebration, a sense of life to the fullest, an endless carnival, as long as there is enough strength. Be happy, because time flies so fast!

There are 9 types of people.

1. There are people - Wind. Today here, tomorrow there, nothing is permanent and stable, hobbies are replaced by one another, without lingering on anything for a long time. 2. There are people - Flowers. You have to be very careful with them, protect and protect them from bad weather, because they are fragile and vulnerable. But this fragility has its own charm and attractiveness - they allow themselves to be taken care of and feel strong. 3. There are people - Libraries. You can always learn something from them, discover new horizons of knowledge, especially if you have patience and are not too lazy to spend a lot of free time.

A woman who knows herself. Continuation.

She no longer agrees to a dubious relationship with a man in the illusory hope that he will change for the better and grow up. She will grow up and find herself, becoming the ideal that she always wanted to see next to her. She leaves illusory attempts to change and educate a man. She is ready to see next to only someone whom she can accept at face value, without modifications and improvements. He will be able to love such a person as he is, realizing that he will live with this, and not with his fantasies. She clearly knows what she is ready for and what she is not. What is within the power and right to change, and what is not. She knows that love and acceptance and life wisdom work better than trying to "do good". But even the softness of love and acceptance does not guarantee her anything, except that she can be happy with herself from the inside. And real, inner, not ostentatious and happiness, which has a solid foundation, will always find an opportunity to create happiness in the outside world. Because external happiness is only a reflection of internal. Be happy, love yourself!

A woman who knows herself. Continuation.

She is no longer looking for a parent in a man. She becomes a mother and sister to herself. She can do a lot and be happy to be alone. She generally ceases to look for anything outside, because she has found herself. And the familiar to many, "searching" female gaze, which any man knows so well, disappears forever, giving way to a look inward. Or look to the sky in search of God. A mature woman begins to look at the world calmly and condescendingly through self-love and understanding of life.

A woman who knows herself.

A woman who has known and learned to love herself begins to live in the world in a completely different way. The one who has accepted and loved her loneliness, turning it into pleasure, makes completely different choices in life. She stops looking at the world through the eyes of an anxious girl, looking for in every passing man the very one who will come, save, love, take care and, finally, ease her suffering, thereby replacing her mother. She stops pretending to be independent. Stops playing the role of independent and successful, waiting for the moment when he can emotionally hang on to someone. Her joy is not feigned and ceases to be a mask to attract men. Her joy becomes simply a condition of life.

Comfort inside.

Comfort inside is more expensive than any temptations of temporary pleasure. More expensive than any temporary people and temporary things. Everything you like is personal, and personal belongs only to the person you see in the mirror. The rest is empty conjecture and conjecture of those who are trying to see something else in you. You are your best like-minded person in how to be yourself and be happy in this crazy world.

One day you stop fussing and proving something to someone.

You look with a smile at the world around you with all its madness, you are not in a hurry to please people, you are not in a hurry to give advice and judge or save someone, you stop answering calls from people who have not admired and are not interested in for a long time, you look more at the sky than at who is busy with what and how he lives, remembers what inspires regardless of the circumstances, does not apologize, does not explain, does not argue, does not waste time on uninteresting and temporary things, and you discover incredible calmness and many things that you did not notice before in pursuit in order to fit into someone's ideas or meet someone's expectations.

Think of YOURSELF! Continuation.

In another version, this will end with an insult to everyone. A person will continue to do everything-do-do everything, think and think about others, but each time he will be offended that he is not grateful enough, that he is not appreciated enough, that they do not understand his enormous sacrifice for them. Naturally, it will be very annoying for everyone else. He will hear from relatives: “We didn’t ask you”, “Why did this have to be done.” He will be offended even more and so on in a circle. Before a conflict, before a quarrel, sometimes before a difficult destructive relationship.

Think of YOURSELF!

Even Bernard Shaw said: "If you start with self-sacrifice for the sake of those you love, then end with hatred for those to whom you sacrificed yourself." In general, the way it is. "But we didn't ask you." If a person constantly does not think about himself, but only thinks about others, then there can be two scenarios of consequences. In one version, he will eventually get sick, because it turns out that this is the only way to get care. That he has been engaged in serving the needs of loved ones all his life and only a serious illness allows him to finally breathe, to receive care from his loved ones, to make sure that he also means something to them, except as a free servant.