How to know in 5 minutes that you will break up?

Watch your fight! Breaking up couples fight each other. They fight among themselves and the subject of the conflict serves only as a pretext for starting a showdown. The scandal quickly becomes personal. Saved couples quarrel over the subject of the dispute. Without getting personal and without putting all relationships into question because of the subject of the conflict. Conclusion: behavior in a quarrel is just an indicator of the deep relationship of people to each other.

The relationship problem

This is the problem of balancing autonomy and attachment (or autonomy and connection). On the one hand, one must learn to be in a relationship with another without giving in to the desire to avoid isolation by becoming attached to that other. But he or she must also learn, while in a relationship with the other, not to treat his or her partner like a means of avoiding isolation. Past love is the source of your strength, while present love is the result of your strength.

In our consumer society, novelty has become the key to everything.

The mechanism of obsolescence is built into products from the beginning and it's supposed to make us buy something new. Relationships are subject to the same tendencies. We live in a culture that constantly promises us something better, newer, more interesting. So now people divorce not because they feel unhappy, but because they believe they can be happier.

Have you ever noticed how after the words "you can't," our brain starts to want it desperately?

Just when we decide to give up alcohol, our body urgently needs a dose of alcohol. Just when we swear not to bless out, dirty words slip out immediately. It happens because of the prohibition, which you want to get around. To overcome this problem, it is important not to stop your forbidden thoughts, but to relax and accept them as a given. Try to understand that there are no restrictions at all, you can break any promise even now, YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE! Instead of hiding from the forbidden fruit, it's better to think about the result of your efforts. It will inspire you to stick to your chosen path.

Do you know the difference between a master and a common man?

It lies in the fact that a master has mastered a particular skill. That is, the person once learned or tried something and realized what benefits he or she gets in doing it. So the person tried it again and again. As soon as he or she find their weaknesses, fears or shortcomings, they eliminate them. The more challenges he or she overcomes, the stronger they become. There's one more important element of this process – self-observation. Endless self-awareness. It's an evaluation of one's own effectiveness and the quality of results.

Sleep Affirmations

We are used to the fact that repeating affirmations are a morning practice. However, bedtime affirmations are also very effective. Your brain is just as active in the evening with hundreds of thoughts running through it. Negative attitudes slip through as well. Let's try to analyze and transform them into positive ones. For example: "I am sluggish, and I didn't manage to take my time again". "I am really good, I did a lot of pleasant things today". Positive affirmations before going to sleep help calm down, refocus our energy and attention on the positive, review the day and keep our mind off mundane matters.

The Power of Gratitude

Inner gratitude for everything that surrounds a person is a sign of a high level of awareness. It is even more than just awareness. It's our POWER. Thanks to this power, we reveal our potential, as well as increase energy and motivation, and the meaning of life becomes clearer and more vivid. Furthermore, you can get to the next level if you express your gratitude through actions, deeds and behavior.

It could have all been different

So it begins... Biting your elbows and lips, brating yourself up over the fact that you should have done everything differently, say it differently, slam the door louder and leave earlier. Quit it! It is important to learn to experience the consequences of wrong choices without self-destruction, self-torture and sleepless nights. There is no point in tormenting yourself with what you can no longer change.

Listening and hearing are two different things.

It's not a question of impaired hearing and mechanical noise, which sometimes interferes with our ear. What we mean is when a loved one doesn't want to hear you - it hurts, it's confusing, it's sad, it's annoying, and sometimes drives you mad! An extreme form of "you don't hear me" can eventually turn into "you don't notice me!" And that's where most of us cannot cope. It is important to understand one simple thing. The fact that you are not heard does not always mean IGNORED. Sometimes it’s a way of interacting. After all, it’s not a disaster, only a way for events to unfold. And if you are not heard SYSTEMATICALLY, perhaps there is a reason to think about finding those people who will really be interested in what you have to say.

Half an hour of silence.

Robin Charm wrote that Buddhist monks have a technique for strengthening willpower, keeping silent for 3-5 hours. However, there’s a technique you can try out today already – daily silence for 30 minutes. If you really need to speak, then you can limit yourself to just a few words. Believe me, the results will speak volumes.

Don't hide your true face.

We live in a time where hiding your true face is more difficult each day. Life is showing us, using many different ways, that it is necessary to be yourself, to be honest with yourself, to hear yourself, to be in touch with yourself. Therefore, it is worth getting rid of illusions. You want to live a real, happy life, don’t you?

What is MEDITATION?

Techniques such as yoga, meditation, Zen, usually help you to restore contact with your inner self. These are ways that can help you, forget about the periphery, leave it for a while and relax in your inner being so deeply that the external factors lose weight, and you can focus internally. All meditation techniques are aimed at making you brave, strong, ready for adventure, so that you can stop holding on and allow you to discover yourself.

The woman is insanely mutual.

Thus, a man can turn his woman either into a blooming Garden of Eden, where he can come to rest after hard trials and find peace, vent and peace, or into a clear and hard deadly mechanism that will finish him off with control in the head, before that passing through a meat grinder, breaking pride, and in some cases life. Once again, a woman is madly mutual. If you see a gentle, caring, calm, loving and devoted woman in front of you, then you are a true man. Honor and praise to you. If you see a cold-blooded, insensitive bitch who will step over you without even turning around, then in the past you have tried very hard, and the limit of female forgiveness and patience has been exhausted. Remember. When you look at your woman, you look at yourself. So don't ask for what you can't give yourself.

The woman is insanely mutual.

Men, unfortunately, often do not understand elementary things, for example, one simple truth - women are insanely mutual. They absorb the attitude of a man towards himself on an energy level - what actions a man does for them, what words he says, whether these words coincide with actions, and so on. Over time, a man receives a boomerang, which he himself launched, the result of his own behavior, - a woman who is woven either from the pleasant impressions that he gave her, from the attention, care, tenderness and warmth with which he pampered her, from time and the strength he put into it. Or exactly the opposite. For a woman always returns this accumulated energy back to a man. This is the law.

Take care.

From someone else's evil, so that it does not become yours. From assessments that poison, but do not help to see more widely. And from appraisers who think they're always right. Take care. Keep your inner home clean. Do not accumulate rubbish, wipe the dust, water the flowers. Don't let anyone enter your world without knocking and with dirty shoes. And do not leave the door open for those who will not enter it. Take care. His vulnerability, sincerity and courage to be in a single copy. Don't disappear behind other people's backs. Do not turn off the light in yourself, even if someone does not need it. Take care. Sometimes this is the only thing left to swim across the river and get out on the other side.

What do they fall in love with?

They don't fall in love with our traits, strengths and weaknesses. Fall in love with the state that partners experience next to you. And it's not about quality. If I fall in love with the strong and independent - it's my own inner vulnerability, I need protection. If I fall in love with household ones, my life probably lacks the order that I would like. And I also fall in love with the free, if I myself am squeezed into the vise of family rules. And men do the same. If he is pleased to feel needed, he will fall in love with a woman-problem: either she broke the car, then she left the house without keys. If you want to hang out in childhood, he will choose the one with whom he can feel like a boy. There is a search for the state in which a person is as comfortable as possible, and, perhaps, he will experience this state with you. What do people feel around you? Think about it.

How your money destroys relationships.

A financially independent wife can either save or destroy her marriage, depending on the scenario chosen: • She can turn her money into an object of manipulation, all the time poking her husband with her nose that he has no power over her. But soon she will hear: pay for everything yourself, since she is so smart. And out of pride, she will plow, pay, and will never see any help and care. • She puts her money in the service of keeping a man. No money for a restaurant? I'll pay myself. Keep an expensive gift, I took out a loan. Need to borrow? Take it! It is not necessary to return or I will not dare to ask. This is very detrimental to a man. The result: a slacker and gigolo who always pulls money out of her. Understand, it is important for a woman to have her own income! This deprives a man of the temptation to press and threaten. And it gives confidence that you have a choice: leave or stay.

Don't try to find out if he has a mistress.

- Dear, do you have a mistress? - Oh sure. I'll show you the pictures. Do you really expect such a development of the dialogue? Of course, perspiration will come out on his forehead. But this will not be proof that he eats dumplings on the side. Maybe he's just about to. Or maybe he's not hungry at all. Or maybe he has stomach problems and is worried? In response to your aggression, the husband will clean up the browser history, export bookmarks with porn, change the password on the phone and walk around with the face of a holy martyr sentenced to be burned. But this does not mean that he had a mistress. Men in general tend to be afraid that you will find out "something is wrong" long before the problem arises. Even more, they tend to worry that you are restricting their little freedoms, like the freedom to believe that they have freedom.

Hugs: why is it so important?

Psychologically, you need 8 hugs a day to feel good. Hugs are the strongest process of exchanging positive energy. It is not only pleasant, but also useful. Positive emotions have a beneficial effect on health, and this is not self-hypnosis. Hugging increases the level of a number of hormones in the blood. Conclusion: girls, hug more often with your men, children, loved ones and relatives!

Types of men to stay away from.

Critic. He condemns everything you do. You need to understand the difference: criticizing is not the same as giving advice. passive aggressor. With such a person, you feel as if you should walk on tiptoe. Denial of feelings, sarcasm, questionable compliments are indicators that you are dealing with a passive aggressor. Narcissus. With all his behavior he shows that his existence is the best gift: he knows everything, he is the best in everything and does not hesitate to remind you of this every minute. Stone wall. A rock wall is a person who refuses to engage in conversation and share their feelings when problems arise. He constantly dodges direct questions. antisocial personality. Aggressive and explosive behavior. He also has psychopathic tendencies, a lack of remorse and empathy, a tendency to take advantage of others, greed, vindictiveness.