Myth: Men are polygamous

There is a category of people who are accustomed to justify the betrayal of the stronger sex. Like, nothing can be done - the male seeks to fertilize as many females as possible. In fact, any normal man wants to find his woman, wants to protect her, be faithful to her. And in general there is an immutable truth. If the partners are happy in marriage, passion and love reign in their couple, then no one will have a desire to go “left”. And even when problems arise, for example, female indifference to sex or frequent conflicts, then an affair on the side will definitely not help. So do not believe in widespread polygamy.

Types of mistresses

1. Holiday girl. She loves to party and is always on the lookout for someone who can pay the bill at the club and receive her in a "gift" package in return. 2. "Blind" mistress. Such women often become victims of deception, unwittingly becoming one of the sides of the love triangle. The man hid the fact that he already has a wife. 3. Gray mouse. She has low self-esteem and does not believe that someone will ever meet who will love her. On the offer of a married man to become a mistress, she responds willingly, wanting at least sometimes to be needed by someone. 4. A born lover. She knows that he is married, but this suits her, so she does not seek to insist on breaking up the marriage and moving into the status of a wife. 5. Huntress. The hunter aims at the wife's place. She starts a relationship exclusively with a promising man.

Interest Fades Quickly

While many people are quick to take up something new, they just as quick to tire of it without really getting any results. Their whole life is, in fact, a bore between flashes of inspiration and fading away. At the heart of this is a naive notion of success and development, as if it were so easy. On top of that, a lack of skills and competencies matters. Doing what you love doesn't mean that there will always be a continuous buzz and drive. That's no more than a childish perspective on work. Day-to-day routine and immediacy underlie any business. Every kind of conscious work is full of challenges that have to be dealt with. To be able to work means first of all to understand the fact that there's no goal without a challenge. Those who don't realize this or don't accept it are doomed to light up and fade away in vain.

Moving from Immaturity to Maturity

The shift happens when you realize and accept that you are responsible for everything that happens. Since that moment, there is no one else to blame for the fact that you don't earn enough money, work in the wrong place, or have a relationship with the wrong person. It's no one else's fault, and most importantly, it never has been. Not your parents, not your husband or wife, not the president, neither the economy nor the dollar rate. Your current reality is the result of your own numerous decisions that have led to what you have now. As long as you can find someone to blame for how you live your life and how you feel about yourself, you remain immature, helpless, and unsatisfied.

Never say "I don't care"

No need to try to advertise your indifference. This is not an indicator of your independence. Indifference is paralysis of the soul. How do you feel when someone says "I don't care"? It becomes empty and cold inside. You cringe and protest. Most often, to myself ... After all, the interlocutor ... "doesn't care" ... Just some two words, but how deeply they penetrate into the soul, dig into the heart like a splinter and remain to rot, sometimes reminding of themselves. A person cannot live without the certainty that someone needs him, that he is loved. He languishes, worries, withdraws into himself, dies. The worst crime we can commit towards people is not to hate them, but to treat them with indifference; this is the essence of inhumanity.

Life Lessons Many of Us Haven't Learned

14. Talking nonsense from time to time or lying a little bit sometimes is normal. 15. Who does not take risks does not drink champagne! If you realize that your job has got you, just quit. Unleash your inner self! 16. Don't pump alcohol on an empty stomach. If you don't want to look mega-stupid, of course... 17. There is no such thing as enjoying guilt. Many, without suspecting it, like to torture themselves and suffer once again. It's unhealthy. 18. Sometimes it's better to do something first, you always have time to apologize. 19. You must be able to stop in time. For example, leaving a party on time. Because usually nothing good happens after 4 am. Everyone knows the feeling when you want to continue to have fun more and more. Know how to leave at the peak. If you hesitate, all the fun will go down the drain.

Life Lessons Many of Us Haven't Learned

9. Self-esteem is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. But getting it is much more difficult. 10. If you have caught yourself thinking that you are constantly losing your job, friends, important relationships and connections, perhaps it's time to admit that you are the root of all the problems yourself?! 11. You don't owe anything to anyone. If you think otherwise, you will be constantly unhappy and dissatisfied with life. 12. To achieve something in this life, you need to work hard and even work hard. If you want to know the answer to the question, "Why don't I have what I want," you should examine your work habits and work style. 13. Moving to another city does not save you from all misfortunes. At least in most cases.

Life Lessons Many of Us Haven't Learned

5. You don't have to be close to all of your family members. If any communication with your family poisons your life, it is in your best interest to establish certain boundaries for such communication as soon as possible. 6. If you buy a piece of clothing that does not fit you, but you are going to use it as an incentive to lose weight, you will never wear it. 7. Constant remorse and guilt about doing bad deeds only proves once again that you will do them again and again. 8. Stop being jealous of people who are more successful than you at your age. Direct this energy to achieve your own goals.

Life Lessons Many of Us Haven't Learned

3. You must be able to stand up for yourself. The world is full of villains who strive to seize superiority over you. Nobody can afford to be defenseless. You will have to learn to be stubborn and pushy (in moderation, of course) to get what you want. 4. Today you are adored, and tomorrow you are no longer. Man is a fickle being. We go to bed in love and wake up betrayed. Sometimes the end of a relationship can mean nothing to you. And sometimes it's a tragedy. In any case, after a breakup, getting depressed about your unattractiveness and looking for flaws in yourself is a waste of time. You will have many more chances to fall in love! The only obstacle in your way is your own fear of a new relationship.

Life Lessons Many of Us Haven't Learned

1. You need to accept people as they are, or not at all. Because it is almost impossible to change them. Seriously. If you are trying to remake them and make them the way you want them to be, you can only wish good luck. Since this idea is doomed to failure. 2. Your definition of happiness is different from other people's. What works for you doesn't necessarily have to work for them. You are not a justice of the peace to judge life decisions made by friends. As one famous biblical postulate says: "Judge not, lest you be judged."

Why do you need the approval of others?

I mean, if you know for sure that this is your path, and everything you do is exactly what you want to do and what you dream about, why should you expect your relatives' or friends' approval? No, that's not bad when people who love you express their support and approval patting you on the shoulder. It's cool when your family shares your interests and supports you in every little thing. But it shouldn't and can't be your MAIN motivation. Because you are the only one who is RESPONSIBLE for your life and every action. You have the sole right to decide WITH WHOM, WHERE, and HOW...

The desire to be liked by everyone

This is an extreme degree of insecurity, as well as an example of deep neuroticism, partly even perfectionism. In addition, the more you express yourself as an individual, the more haters you'll attract. After all, great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. Only underwhelming people have no enemies. And therein lies the paradox: if you don't care about others' opinion, more and more people who ACTUALLY like you come to your life along with the people who hate you.

Most of all, people get tired of themselves.

From their experiences, fears, conjectures and anxieties. Feeling guilty and trying to control everything. From the impossibility for at least some time not to run ahead (simulating situations) and not look back (looking for analogues and clichés). Stop comparing, stop scaring yourself, don't have illusions, don't think for others, stop talking in your own head...

Keep anger and irritation under control

Anger and irritation are not the best advisors in negotiations. I would like to share a technique that will help you quickly bring yourself back to your senses. Do you feel like the conversation has reached an impasse and irritation is growing? Take a break, go to another room, and try to focus on your breathing at least for 5 minutes, imagining that you exhale RAGE with the air. Breathing should be slow and deep. After you've calmed down, you can go back to the dialogue.

Resist temptations

Do it before they grow into bad habits. Limiting access to your temptations is a great addition to your willpower that can be crucial to increasing self-discipline. If you tend to be distracted by Facebook, block yourself from being online during work hours. Are you addicted to weekend shopping and can't stop? Leave your credit card at home and take only a limited amount of cash.

I just want to help

There are people who are so confident in their own omnipotence and power that they strive to help everyone. Without any regard whatsoever! It doesn’t matter if you need their help at all! After all, the person on the receiving end may not know that he needs the help, whereas these people know exactly who requires some. Relatives and close friends of these people live difficult lives. The constant projection of kindness and forcing your good deeds onto people can cause more harm than good.

Compromise

Compromise is what so often helps to save, what pride does not allow to accept, but what the soul so desires. Compromise is so simple, you need to give in a little, not give up, but change the conditions ... But it's so difficult. It is so difficult because it seems that giving in means showing weakness, but in fact, compromise is a huge strength of personality, love and mind.

The harder the climb, the better the view

There is no magical staircase that will let you “reach the top” instantly. There will be ups and downs, but in general, you should always aim to move forward. Yes, it will be difficult, it will be hard, but when you reach the top, you will not regret it for a fact!

Signal phrases-triggers.

There are trigger phrases that often mean that the feelings of a lover have long faded. “I can’t tell you everything!” If your conversation causes a storm of negativity, then he has something to hide. And in order not to blurt out, he prefers to reduce communication to a minimum. “These are your problems.” This coldness is a concrete sign that he doesn't care about what's going on in your life. “Do what you want” If you have to ask for support, and beg for attention to yourself and your problems, then there is no smell of healthy and loving relationships here.

Feminine and masculine energy.

Male and female energy in a relationship balance each other. And if someone takes on other people's functions, then the second one does not automatically perform them. For example, if the wife performs male functions by 70%, then the husband is left with 30%. And that's exactly what he will do. When we build a family, it's better for everyone to do their own thing, and not climb into someone else's. This does not mean that the woman is not involved in the process. Believe me, our role is very important. It is we who give the spouse most of the energy for accomplishments, create conditions for relaxation, and inspire new feats.