Postponing for later

Putting things off for later is a common thing for a lot of people. But when the next day passes the same way, it turns into a habit. Sit down and think about what you really want to achieve, and think about how long it will take you to reach it. Picture the ultimate goal. Promise to reward yourself for your efforts, organize yourself and develop the most important part of a successful person, self-discipline. This will bring you more joy and pleasure than a routine of sitting on the couch and watching a bunch of movies. If you want to change something in your life - start with this rule

Manipulation is distinguished by a hidden motive

The manipulator wants to achieve something, but does not state it directly. It will also be useful for us to understand that very often the purpose of manipulation is hidden from the manipulator himself — a person acts in this way not intentionally, but subconsciously.

Hone your powers of introspection

Take a piece of paper and divide it into three parts. In the first part write down your ten strengths, in another part write down your ten achievements, and in the third part write down ten things you like about yourself. It is not necessary to write down the most significant achievements or major character traits. Being able to bake the perfect pizza may actually be considered a power. This list is just for reminding yourself how talented you are.

Flirt with other men

No, I am not pushing you to cheat, because there will be no sense from it anyway. But light flirting and the opportunity to feel beautiful and desirable again will help to cheer up. Allow yourself to exchange a couple of remarks with a colleague or chat with an old friend on social networks. How else, if not through communication with another, shake up your feminine and remember that you are, why love? In 99% of 100%, you will get bored after a couple of hours, but the pleasant aftertaste will remain.

What are intrusive thoughts

Excessive experiences and repetitive dialogues arise spontaneously. You can go about your daily activities or get ready for bed, but suddenly a thought appears that draws all attention to itself. For many, it seems to get stuck in place, causing discomfort, disrupting biorhythms and disrupting plans. Obsessive thinking is a series of images that are repeated in combination with negative perceptions. The severity of their influence can range from mild but annoying to severe and all-encompassing. Particularly debilitating cases that prevent a person from living a full life are considered in psychiatry as an obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Learn...

Learn to enjoy and benefit from solitude with yourself. It is good for everyone to be alone with their thoughts. Rethink everything that happens in life. Self-analysis will only benefit. Don't expect too much from people. They can't give you that, it's just your expectations. People are generally not able to understand and empathize, everyone is loaded with their own problems.

Men and women

Men and women are so different that it is even surprising that they can exist not only on the same planet, in the same society, but even in the same family. It is also surprising that a man and a woman, being the absolute opposite of each other, complement, fill the missing, make life multifaceted and rich. Of course, it is possible to live without half of the opposite sex, but it will be a palette without half of the colors.

Open doors are not so open

Executives often say that everyone is free to express their opinions. They like to repeat: "My door is always open, literally and figuratively." But when you dare to speak out, you are met with hostility. Most people just don't know how to take feedback and perceive any sort of criticism as a threat. So try not to be too candid. A little restraint won't make you fake: it's a manifestation of empathy. Learn how to criticize correctly. Don't repeat the mantra of "honest" people who say that the rest of us just need to grow up and not be offended. That's a stupid approach, because you will never change others.

People never appreciate what they have until it's gone

Whenever a relationship or opportunity comes to an end, there is always difficult times of mourning and sad feelings associated with it. Respect that. Remember that every end entails a beginning of something new. Everything that should eventually end – ends, and you must be happy with it. Moreover, every time it happens you probably realize this fact at heart. But what can actually change your life is your ability to take time to invest in your future instead of dwelling on the past.

Signs that you are ready for a new relationship

▫️ You no longer need to talk about the former. Immediately after a breakup, many people get hung up on former partners, scroll through the stories associated with them in their heads, looking for explanations and those to blame. If this monologue is still in your head, you need more time. You don't have a goal to make your ex jealous. If all you want is to hurt your ex with a fast-paced new relationship, you're doing it wrong. You don't get upset when you see another's happiness. For those who have gone through a breakup, it can be difficult to accept that their significant other can be happy without them. If pictures of your ex on social media upset you, you're not ready for a new relationship.

Appreciate a man who...

▫️Faithful to you. Who is not looking for an opportunity to "compare" you with someone else, because for him you are already the best. ▫️A man who is able to understand and solve your problems, and not create new ones. Appreciate a man who is ready to make certain concessions and compromises for the sake of you and your relationship. Appreciate a man who knows how to appreciate and be grateful for everything you do for him. ▫️Remember that a dream man is not only "loves and does not change", but also makes life happy..

What kind of man do you need?

Of course, I cannot give a clear answer to this question, because everything here is purely individual. However, I want to let you know that before starting a relationship, it is very important to realize your desires. Analyze all the relationships and all the problems that were present in the past. Remember your desires that you dreamed about while being with a man. What was missing in it? What qualities did you like about him? However, it is important not to create an ideal image in your head - this simply does not happen. You just need to put together in your head a few qualities in men that you need in a new relationship.

Talk to the mirror

As strange as it may sound, you need to learn to talk to your own reflection in the mirror. And not just talk, but convince it that you are the best, the most gifted, the most capable, and the most confident. This idea may seem ludicrous. Ignore this feeling and get down to practice. Convince yourself of your own strength and worthiness. Doing this exercise regularly will surely yield results.

"Never ask for help, that's how you show your weakness"

If you are a human being and not a robot, it's okay that sometimes you can't cope with something. In such a situation, it is normal to ask for help and accept help, especially, if the overall success depends on your actions. For example, if you fail to meet a deadline and it hurts a team project, it's better to involve your colleagues than to let everyone down.

How to take the initiative

It can come from anyone, the main thing is that it is properly packaged. For example, in the form of questions: "Don't you think it's worth thinking about this?" "What do you think of this idea?" “And what do you think, how to do it?” “I have an idea and your opinion is important to me” Women are naturally more proactive than men. But in a partner family, a woman usually has enough wisdom to make the initiative look unobtrusive.

Casino effect in relationships

The casino effect is when a person spends his resources, but there is no result. But he still continues to throw a lot of energy into it. Someone wants to be married for a long time, but this does not happen. Someone is trying to fall in love with a cold partner. What to do if you understand that you are subject to this effect? You need to realize that if a person really takes you seriously and is ready to take some steps, then he will take these steps. And he would have gone forward a long time ago.

Your colleagues are not your friends

HR managers tell us that their company has a friendly environment, and that teamwork and honesty are appreciated. So you get the impression that everyone is your best friend. Don't believe it. We all tend to compete with each other, and it would be just naive to pretend otherwise. There's nothing wrong with that. Just don't treat your coworkers like friends, don't expect too much from them. People actually work to get money for their job. It would be a mistake to think that they can sacrifice their salary for the sake of friendship. Base your relationship on a different model. Be friendly, have fun with your colleagues, but above all remain professional.

Learn to deal with your enemies

Everyone who has achieved something or strives for a meaningful goal has enemies. The best tools against them are equanimity, composure, composure, a sense of humor, ignoring and banning. Equanimity, composure, and calmness help avoid irritation when dealing with them. A sense of humor smooths communication, no matter personal or online (emoji are what you need 🙂) Crazy haters, if at all possible, should be banned immediately. If you can't ban them, ignore them. The easiest way to defeat the enemy is not to communicate with him or her. The less you know about him or her, the happier you are.

Make friends with deadlines

Deadlines can discipline, focus, and mobilize. As well as drive you into prostration, panic, and even paralysis. To avoid becoming a victim of a deadline, it's better: ▫️ not to try to meet very tight deadlines and take time to spare (you can say like, "I don't work well under deadlines. Please give me one more day"); ▫️ to plan everything and start doing things ahead of time without any distractions, keep focused; ▫️ to split the project into sprints; ▫️ and, of course, not to put everything off until the last days/hours.

Why doesn't he do anything for you?

Women have a special memory: where the keys go, she does not remember. But when and how her husband offended her and did not give her enough, he recalls in detail every quarrel. Where he is right, he will never hear. But where it's wrong, it's in the details! Why he is bad, what was missing, what else is needed, where he screwed up, what didn’t work out - everything flies into his brain. Such men get sad, burn out, they have failures at work, their libido drops, their escape from reality into gadgets and a bottle progresses. And such husbands need a mistress to save the marriage. They go to her in order to regain everything that their spouse bit off at home.