Pen is mightier than the sword…

During a heated argument people can say a lot of things which could sour or plague one’s relationship with another. Many people genuinely don’t understand what it was they said that could have been so offensive. “I told my wife her patty cakes were horrible and so was her hair! So what? It’s the truth!» «I told my husband out of spite that I have someone to compare him to. He was somewhat nicer, too. So he slammed the door! What is wrong with men these days? Bighead!” Now imagine every word you speak is a big, sharp kitchen knife. It’s dangerous if you pick it up and start swinging it in front of people. You might hurt somebody. Injure them badly or even kill them. Especially when that person trusts you and doesn’t expect it. In fact, despite the above analogy, there’s an accurate saying, which goes: “Words cut deeper than a knife”. Use the knife to prepare delicious holiday dishes instead!

No year reviews, just rely on yourself.

It's actually very difficult, because we are more willing to trust anyone but ourselves. "Who am I to believe myself?" "Believing myself, I'm bound to be wrong." That's the way most people reason and that’s why choose to believe others. As if others have something that insures them from making a mistake. No expertise will ever guarantee you anything. Shit happens to everyone. Mistakes help you grow and make you stronger.

The laws by which the universe lives.

6. The law of tithing. The universe will always take its tithe. It's just a law of gratitude to the source of support - 10% of everything you have. You never know how your tithing will come back to you. Money is common. But it can also come in the form of reconciliation with someone, new friendships, recovery, and so on. 7. The law of forgiveness. If you cannot forgive people, you cannot accept your wealth. If your soul is filled with hate, love cannot find a place in it. You must get rid of the negative feelings that devour you and do not give you rest. This list was compiled by the famous psychologist Randy Gage.

The laws by which the universe lives.

4. The law of creativity. A person can achieve prosperity through the energy of his thinking, intuition and imagination. 5. Law of retribution and receiving. If you give something away, it will be returned tenfold. When you receive blessings, it is very important to share them with others. If you have a gift, and you do not use it, then you offend your Divine essence. To properly honor your abilities, you must rejoice in gifts and share them with others. If you do this, you will attract even more blessings into your life.

The laws by which the universe lives.

1. The law of emptiness. If you need new shoes, throw away the old ones. If you need new clothes, clean out your closet. You must voluntarily give up your stereotypes. 2. Law of circulation. Be willing to let go of something you own in order to get something you desire. 3. The law of imagination. First you must see prosperity in your imagination. Write a description of your ideal day and don't show it to anyone except someone you trust. Keep this description somewhere handy and reread it at your leisure.

How to pamper yourself?

Try to start with simple steps. Make self-care regular. Here, it’s like with a diet or playing sports: doing something half-heartedly, but constantly, is more useful than giving 100% once and quitting everything. Be attentive to yourself. You need to listen carefully to your own needs. Keep track of your condition. Understand what really makes you happy. Do a very simple test: divide the sheet into two parts and answer yourself the question “What do I love?” In one part, and “What makes me happy?”

How to check the level of your self-esteem?

Mentally, BUT honestly, answer these four questions: 1. Is it difficult for you to refuse if a friend asks for something, although you are now uncomfortable? 2. Can't ask for a raise without stress and fear, even when you know you deserve it? 3. Do you care about the opinions of others, and if you are criticized, does your mood and desire to do something disappear? 4. If your husband wants something that you do not want, do you agree with him to avoid a quarrel? If you answered “YES” to at least 1 question, then you have low self-esteem. Alas.

Neural connections.

The more those connections our brain has, the better our cognitive abilities. Therefore, our brains need daily exercise. What's to be done?There is one working exercise that doesn't require any special conditions. Just close your eyes and try to move around your apartment, take a shower with your eyes closed, put some stuff in its place. Try to feel the value of a coin lying in your pocket. Try to learn Braille, a tactile writing system used by people who are visually impaired. What's the object of doing that? By doing this you boost neural connectivity and activate some brain areas, which usually perform little or no work. It's also a great exercise for the whole brain.

We see the world through the prism of our soul

If you are able to see BEAUTY, it is only because you carry beauty within you. The world is like a mirror, in which everyone can see his or her own reflection. Everything that happens once can never happen again. Take your time to find joy in every sunrise and sunset, in a cup of morning coffee, in a Christmas bustle as well as in everyday life. Always say how you feel and do what you think is right! Sometimes silence breaks the heart and causes unhappiness...

Childhood experiences are our foundation.

Our brain perceives words and phrases heard in our early childhood as facts. However, if you recognize negative beliefs and reactions that interfere with your life, then you can break your absurd and ridiculous limits, and move forward. True freedom starts with your mind! Observe your beliefs, patterns, habits, and allow yourself to call them into question. Maybe I should think different? Maybe it's not a sure thing?

How can self-respect change our lives?

If you start respecting yourself, then ▫️ The relationship with yourself will improve. You will take time for self-care: physically, mentally and psychologically, you will stop communicating with unpleasant people, you will also begin to filter information, etc. ▫️ You will get interest in yourself and learn to love yourself, so you won't have to wait for love from someone else to fill the emptiness inside, but be grateful to yourself. ▫️ You will be able to get out of toxic relationships. You will be able to avoid unpleasant situations, which means you will completely change your life.

About kindred spirits...

“Everyone should have a person who is not ashamed to invite to visit when the apartment is a mess. If he calls and says that it will be in 10 minutes, you can not tuck your socks under the sofa, do not hide the mountain of ironing in the closet. Because you are sure - he absolutely does not care about your mess. And so unconditionally that he won’t even raise an eyebrow when he steps on Lego from the threshold or sticks his bare foot into a puddle of compote. some stupid “Ku-ku, here I am!” And in his hands he will definitely have a package of amazingly stale cookies from the nearest kiosk. You don’t need to meet him at the entrance, bow and fuss with things. He knows perfectly well where the bathroom is in your apartment and how to get to the kitchen. He will come up, take your hand, he will drag you away from the stove and seat you at the table, quite calmly brushing the crumbs from the table onto the floor. He himself will go to the sink, take out two mugs, saucers and spoons from there, wash and put on the table. And then you will drink tea and dip dry cookies. Or maybe even find candied gooseberry jam on the mezzanine and eat it straight from the jar. And when he leaves, you won’t even remember what you talked about with him. But the mess in the apartment will miraculously evaporate. Now replace the word " apartment” with the word “soul” and read it again.

To be loved...

You don't have to be the best to be loved. Do not try to overtake someone, win, come first to the finish line. Fame, success and other things of the material world can wait for you on this pedestal. But love is not measured by pedestals. To be loved, it is not necessary to be right and do everything right. You don't have to be right about everything and always. It won't bring love, you can take my word for it. You don't have to be good to be loved. It does not matter what other people think about you, what they say about you and how you are perceived. The only important thing is what they think of you in the Heavenly Chancellery, although there they just don’t appreciate it, but simply love it. They love not because you are like this or that. They love because you are you. Such as it is. Let imperfect, imperfect, with a bunch of flaws and features, but the only one of its kind. They love not for something, but most often - in spite of something. They just love everything.

Signs that it's time to get rid of things.

If you forgot about her. Necessary and favorite things will never fall into this category. Therefore, we train on such subjects to let go of the unnecessary. If it is broken, torn or damaged. Almost everyone has a broken device that has long been waiting for repair. Or a thing that needs to be sewn up or altered. If you haven't used it for a long time. There are more “just in case” things in our homes than those needed for daily use. Remember, 80% of the time we use 20% of our assets. And we can easily fit these 20% into a small suitcase.

Keep close to you those with whom you do not see a common future.

Do not create alternate airfields in case of non-flying weather on the main. Let's not give vain hopes to those with whom you are definitely not on the way. Don't torture people for whom you don't feel anything. Do not use someone else's love to your advantage. A strong person is not the one who tied to himself as many people as possible. A strong one who is not afraid to be alone, no matter what happens.

What happens between two people in a relationship should stay inside.

You can not share these moments with anyone, if only because it concerns only two. This does not concern friends, even the closest, or relatives, all decisions should be made only by those people in whose life they occur. Only then there will be no guilty ones, only then harmony is possible. Happiness loves silence, and difficulties need to be solved, and not poured out on others.

Why isn't your life smiling to you?

It shows that you unconsciously resent it. The world mirrors the soul, so it's important to go first and start smiling. ▫️To learn to say "thank you" for everything. ▫️To be curious, realizing that there is still much to be discovered. ▫️Try to find happiness in small things, even in a cup of morning coffee or tea. ▫️Start smiling to yourself. A sincere smile triggers all inner positive processes and accordingly attracts good events and people. That is positive thinking attracts positive experiences.

The point is to be able to let go.

When you know how and can not take revenge in response, not humiliate yourself and not live with the negative of the past. Yes, it is very important to be able to let go of other people and situations related to them. It is also very important to be able to forgive. Myself! For the fact that I once got stuck, stumbled, made a mistake, lost my head, trusted where it was impossible. Let it happen. Forgive yourself at last and let go of everything that was. This is the only way you can find your happiness! Believe me, all the events in your life are not accidental. Sometimes only with time you understand the whole essence of this or that situation. And experience, even negative, is your experience and you needed it at this stage of life in order to become stronger, wiser, more tolerant.

Never put a collar on the man you love.

Not souls with jealousy, suspicions, do not demand devotion, devaluing his feelings and humiliating yourself. Don't take away oxygen, but be oxygen, without which he can't breathe. There is nothing sweeter than the feeling when you do not hold, giving a man freedom of choice, and he chooses you every day. And he never gets enough of you. This is that sweet feeling of confidence in him when you enjoy every moment alone, when you get goosebumps, when you bite your lip with pleasure, when he proves to you with every gesture, every thought and emotion that you are desirable. Don't try to take it by force, force it to love you. Remember - a man should not sit on a chain and lick your hands. He is near not because the whip is in your hands, but because his heart has chosen you. The heart cannot be commanded, it cannot be held by any chains. Freedom is the only worth seasoning for love.

People have forgotten how to appreciate in a person a kind heart, a beautiful soul, his actions.

Now the main thing is what kind of work do you have, do you have a car and how much money do you have in your pocket. Even a soul mate is chosen according to status and, as a result, they live in wealth, but in misfortune. And only by realizing that the most important wealth is human warmth, we will become the happiest on earth...