How to create a happy family? Secrets of psychologists.

There are several universal tips to help unite a family and help people build happy relationships effectively and comfortably, achieving the maximum level of interaction in families, breaking the usual social patterns and achieving perfection in their own life experience, even, by the method of trial.

How to create a happy family? Secrets of psychologists.

Everyone will answer the question about family happiness differently, but nevertheless, family happiness has certain features inherent in every family. Love, quarrels, food, games, spending money, making vital decisions, prospects for the future - all these aspects of life just make up the very backbone called a happy family. The joint implementation of all of the above actions is an important and integral feature that unites people into a structure called the family.

Why it's important to learn:

▫️Brain development and thinking: taking on new tasks, finding solutions, processing new information. ▫️Knowledge! New knowledge creates new opportunities and inspires new ambitions. ▫️The ability to concentrate on one thing without getting distracted increases. It does not necessarily have to be a university/school, but any courses, webinars, foreign languages, and interesting books.

Excuses as a reason for delayed life.

I'll get it done in the morning, I'll just get up early. Sounds great, doesn't it? But unfortunately, in 90% cases, it's just self-deception. Because tomorrow the reluctance to do anything will be the same, in addition you'll definitely want to sleep longer in the morning. You can try to write an inspirational quote and hang it right in front of your eyes. Come back to it every time you have to push yourself to do something. My favorite is, "If it were easy, everyone would do it." Or just set a several alarm clocks with 5 minute intervals.

Where does resentment come from?

Resentment arises only where there were expectations. In fact, it is completely normal to have expectations, but they must be in the context of the situation, that is adequate and voiced. Adequacy is determined by whether the person can actually give you what you expect from him or her. And it is also important to understand why someone should do what we want. The grounds must also be adequate.

"If youth knew, old age could eat..."

The wise French have golden words: "If youth knew, old age could eat..." But there is a section in the middle of the path, when wisdom and strength can go side by side. This wonderful age combines two short words: ''more'' and ''already''. So it is easy and pleasant to live at this time: everything is available to you ''more'' and everything is ''already'' clear to you. Be young at heart, be wise in mind, just don't leave your life for later...

You quickly get used to loneliness.

It frightens only at the very beginning, when the habit of being with someone is still pressing hard on the psyche. But after quite a bit of time, you begin to feel the charms of a free life, to realize its advantages. No lies, no betrayals, no one shakes your nerves, no one plays on your feelings, no one takes advantage of your kindness. You belong to yourself, you do only what you want and need. You depend only on yourself, and the only one who can let you down is you. You won't do that, right?! And now you are directing your life in the most necessary and stable direction. And it draws you in. You won't let anyone destabilize you again. This will start the best time of your life. There is only one “but” - you no longer want someone to wait for you at home in the evening.

Love is either there or it isn't.

I have long understood - to run after someone, to persuade: "Come on, take my love. Look how pure and sincere it is! Everything is for you, everything is at your feet" makes no sense. At best, you will be ignored or used in bed. At worst - gutted like a roach. They use all your financial, mental, physical resources, wipe their feet and leave. You can take a person with exhaustion and perseverance, but he will not love you from this. She will regret it if she only thinks: "This is easier to give than to explain why not," but after a while she will fall in love with another and leave anyway. It's like putting plantain on a gunshot wound. Nothing will help, because self-deception. Sometimes you just need to stop. Realize that begging for love is a road to nowhere. You can't beg for love, you can't earn it. Love is either there or it isn't.

In life, you always have a choice.

Whatever it concerns: the choice of closets, who you spend your time with, what gifts you give, what you believe in and what thoughts you focus on. Chaos is your choice. Anger is your choice. Resentment is also a choice. Just like the breadth of the soul, flexibility, compassion, tenderness, stamina...

Laws of the Universe

1. You cannot know what is good and what is evil. 2. But know for sure: imposed good is evil. 3. You don't know what the universe needs. 4. There is nothing bad, there is something that upsets you. 5. There is no good, there is something that makes you happy. 6. The universe is too big for you to hurt it. 7. Perhaps your mistakes are what the universe needs. 8. Trust what happens. Trusting keeps you strong. 9. Don't be sorry. Don't be afraid. Do not ask. 10. Past and Future are born in the Now. 11. Outer is equal to Inner. 12. If, something is not pleasant in others, therefore, it is present in you.

Simple truths

If you're rejected, it doesn't mean anything. You don't get worse or smaller, nothing really bad happens. Your man is in the world, and he will accept you. If you are accepted, one day you will part - not in life, so in death. Treasure what you have, do not regret what you will lose and do not be afraid to lose. Rejoice that there is a person who shines for you. Shine yourself - the more light, the less fear, the less fear, the less darkness in the soul. The leaf that wants to return to the tree can swim against the current and fly against the wind. But the tree will not grow it to the old branch. The more you love, the more love you give, the more remains. If, while giving love, you feel pain or hatred, then you gave the person poison in chocolate icing. It is hardly worth demanding gratitude for such a gift.

Learn to love yourself.

When you learn to love yourself, those who will use you will stop appearing in your life. When you respect yourself enough, your fate will no longer be visited by people who can only consume your feelings and time. When you realize that you are a miracle, a unique creation, worthy of everything that this life can offer you, someone will appear on your way who will support your faith in the truth of these feelings every day. There will be no more whiners disappointed by everyone and everything, no consumers who only know the word “give”, no owners offended by life who need another shadow of themselves, and not a person nearby. You will cease to be a bait for them when there is not a gram of food left in you for their decaying insides. And fate will reward you with new meetings. With those who make your light brighter. With those who want to warm your hands, enjoying the radiance of your soul.

"Appreciate what you have."

If I had the opportunity to say something that is most important to every person on the planet, I would say "Appreciate what you have." You never know which kiss will be the last, which rebuke will never be repeated, which conversation will never be repeated, with whom you will never argue again and where you will never return. You never know how the next story in your life will end, but while it lasts, appreciate every moment, every second, every moment.

About self-presentation

I want you to come to a basic comprehension - you need to talk about yourself in terms of how these people could benefit from you, and why they should, for example, hire you. Why would they want to do that?And this is where you should present your capabilities, experience, projects that could benefit the company which is going to hire you. Emphasize the value of your work and your participation in the company by showing that you are indeed precious. For example, if you're a real estate agent, say: I help people find good housing. If you're a financial advisor, say: I help people plan for their financial future. If a hairdresser: I help women find their own style and match their hair to their face.

Love it...

7. To love is to work on building trust. A lover does not deceive, does not lie to you all the time. He doesn't question you about where you've been and what you've been doing every minute of the day. He doesn't "walk" over your friends. He doesn't flirt with others. The lover does not seek to hide or keep back. 8. To love is to create space. For you. A lover gives you and himself the opportunity to have personal space. Couples should not be glued to each other 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Sometimes you need to increase the distance. Everyone needs personal time. Time to be with your friends. Time to go visit. Time to indulge in your hobbies that the partner may not share. 9. To love is to listen. The lover listens to you, even if you do not say something important. He just listens. He does not have ready-made solutions and he does not know all the answers. But he has patience and willingness to listen.

Love it...

5. To love is not to control. One of the first signs of potential domestic abuse is your partner's desire to control your every move: who you call, where you go, who you look at, what you do. The lover does not. He doesn't check your phone, he doesn't look at the speedometer, wondering where you've been. He doesn't tell you what you should think or wear or say. He doesn't tell you how you should feel. 6. To love is to respect. A lover does not label you or humiliate you in front of others. He does not destroy you and does not shame you in public. The lover respects your boundaries, respects your time, respects your ideas, respects your emotions, respects you.

Love it...

3. To love is not to fight. The lover does not back up his arguments with personal attacks. He doesn't hit in the gut. Does not step on your throat and does not lead you to death. He is looking for a solution and is ready to compromise. He does not seek victory at any cost. 4. To love is not to be selfish. The lover does not think that the world revolves around him. He takes and gives, not just takes, takes and takes. He may not always recognize, but at least he hears that you are tired, sick, upset or dissatisfied. A lover is able to empathize and sympathize. He washes to reach out and lend a shoulder. It's comfortable with him. The lover does not do whatever he wants, regardless of others. He respects your time and energy. He knows how to share.

Love it...

1. Loving is not stopping you from growing. A lover won't offer you a piece of cake if you're on a diet. He won't add sugar to your tea if you have high blood sugar. And he won’t offer you a drink if you decide to live sober. Just as he will not require you to comply with his picture of the world: do not drink if he decided not to drink, and live the way he wants. 2. To love is not to play mind games. The lover does not "blame" you or manipulate you. He doesn't say, "It didn't happen," if you clearly saw that, yes, it did. He doesn't call you crazy if you refuse to go along with his lies.

What you should learn in your 20s in order to to avoid pain in 50s.

The most important choice in your twenties is to decide where to go and with whom. That means, most importantly, determine WHAT you want to do. And make the necessary steps in this direction. When a person is not burdened with a family and children, he or she has the right and must invest time and knowledge in him or herself. The WORST THING you can do in your twenties is to waste your health immensely on alcohol or other rampant fun. Your body won't forgive that at fifty. You should learn to communicate with people, how to say 'no,' and stay open-minded at the same time. Set goals and priorities, and be able to uphold them. It's very important to learn to handle money, and build financial goals and priorities in your twenties. Do it at 20, and you will be immensely grateful to yourself some time later.

Online dating. A few simple NOTs.

You should NOT start communicating with templates. Such as "Hi, how are you" or "your eyes are like stars!", and other mediocre greetings. If there is a questionnaire, you should NOT ignore it. It is unlikely you want to spoil your mood and waste time on "not your" person. So do NOT be lazy to fill out your profile and carefully read others'. Do NOT insist on a meeting right away. Especially if you are looking for a serious relationship, not just one-night stand. Learn more about your partner, since many important things can come up in the process of correspondence. By the way, nothing prevents you from asking for your partner's social profiles before the meeting, and google her or him to see if he or she is wanted, or to check for any bank debts. And be sure to tell your loved ones where and with whom you are going to date. Do NOT send nudes. Even if you are very proud of their content. It can all be used against you. Is it really worth it?