Let go of your people.

This position is not pride, but adequacy. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop appearing in the company of people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop giving love and energy to people who are not ready to love you. It will steal your time, energy and sanity. When you begin to live your life with joy and interest, not all people will stay with you. It doesn't mean you need to change. If the people you spend a lot of time with are insulting, forgetting, or ignoring you, stop offering them your energy. You are not for everyone, not everyone is for you.

Age Crisis

An age crisis is a period peculiar to each stage of life, which is necessary for the transition to a new level of mental functioning. It is a certain upgrade or improvement of the psychic mechanisms. An age crisis, unlike a personal crisis, comes into everyone's life. One can either overcome an age crisis, i.e. become a better person, or end up defeated, and this failure will immediately or afterwards affect the person's behavior. For example, a midlife crisis (35-45 years old) is a reassessment of life: of the rationality of the choices made ("existential crisis"). During this period, a person has to solve the issue of self-expression, to accept him or herself and to realize his professional potential (what have I already achieved, and what's to be done next?). Have you already experienced a midlife crisis?

Anxiety and anxiety disorder - what is the difference?

Anxiety is a normal human reaction to unpleasant and potentially dangerous events. Evolutionarily, this response arose so that we could mobilize and act quickly. Anxiety occurs during times of change, before important tests or meetings and helps you focus on something, make more effort, and adapt better. As for chronic anxiety, it can lead to an anxiety disorder. This is a serious disease. It causes sleep and appetite disturbances, tension pains, irritability. While you can no longer control anxiety, it settles into all areas of life and begins to control you. High levels of anxiety make you avoid everything new, prevent you from working efficiently, building relationships and living your life to the fullest.

Loneliness together and its causes.

When we create a family, we believe that we will have a close person with whom we can always share joy and grief. But sometimes it turns out that everyone in the family feels lonely. Spouses come home after work trying to retreat to their own room, and the computer becomes the best friend for the child. Why does it happen? ▫️ Busyness. ▫️ Internet and TV. ▫️ No common interests. ▫️ Strict control. Try to follow certain rules and build some healthy habits, and you will soon notice how the climate in the family changes. For example: Make a family tradition. Turn off all gadgets one day a week, cook something together, go for a walk. This is very helpful and gives us a sense of oneness...

Guilt Trip - What to Do About It?

Parents reproach their children for not calling them every single evening. Children reproach their parents for not giving them something. Mom through the feeling of guilt manipulates her son and makes him "her own man" to serve her needs. Because she "spent her whole youth to raise him". Wife is constantly manipulating her husband, who once cheated on her but stayed in the family... If you are really guilty to someone, the most HEALTHY attitude is to ask for forgiveness and find out what you can do to make things right. BUT! That doesn't mean you have to pay for one transgression, mistake, or favor for the rest of your life.

Don't waste your energy!

Never prove anything to anyone, because the losses of this energy are simply colossal: we extinguish ourselves, extinguish other people, extinguish the resources of the situation and our entire reality. We spend psychic energy on conversations and problems that lie outside the scope of our authority, we spend energy on what we cannot change: we try to educate others, manipulate them, instead of doing our own thing. The best way to prove something is our own life in harmony with the inner and outer world, with a joyful and grateful acceptance of everything. Eastern philosophy calls this process "action in non-action", which in fact means letting everything happen and not proving anything to anyone.

Acceptance as the main way of interacting with reality.

When we agree to conditions that are not in line with our beliefs, we experience a certain mental discomfort. But if there is a circumstance, it exists for something, whether we like it or not. To accept means to recognize the right of another person to be as he is. By recognizing the reality as it is, we are able to contact it and influence it. Without accepting, we cannot use what is given to us for something important. By resisting certain people or circumstances, we waste a huge amount of energy that could greatly improve our lives.

What is the need to prove something?

Rejection of other people's positions causes negative emotions in us, but if you look from the other side, an attempt to prove something is a mirror of what we do not accept in ourselves: - confidence that we know exactly what is needed; - condemnation of the actions of others as a reflection of rejection of oneself; - beliefs that are already hopelessly outdated; - subconscious unwillingness to change. Every person already from birth has the ability to think and learn, everyone is born in order to get their own life experience: learn to love, think independently, create their own world, do not prove anything to anyone, do not reject anything, but accept the points of view of others as they are people (which does not necessarily mean agreeing with them).

Don't prove anything to anyone.

Each person lives in his own psychic reality, which is created from his beliefs. The main reason for disagreement between people is that everyone considers their own view of what is happening to be the only true one. Observation of reality helps to understand that these are just different views on the same thing, and the criterion of reliability is our own life experience. Having learned to analyze from different angles, we will understand that any position will turn out to be unreliable - just a point of view.

If a person spat in your soul, do not try to find an excuse for him.

Even if he is very dear to you and dearly loved by you. This is a utopia. Of course, you can say that situations are different, that everything happens in life, that pride is your enemy. But then try to project the situation onto yourself: are you able to hurt your loved one? No?! Draw conclusions: you are not so dear to this person, because loved ones are protected, not injured. So, there is a huge probability that he will do this to you more than once if this very “everything” comes up again. And then the choice is yours: endure once and forget or endure over and over again and eventually die!

How to overcome passivity?

When you are strong and confident, you behave differently. You are energetic, charming and intelligent. An important idea that will help you become internally active again. Explore your fear. When we avoid activity, fear is most often behind this - the fear of failing, of not living up to our own and others' expectations. When fear develops into anxiety, it becomes difficult for us to work with it. Try to identify specific situations in which your fear manifests itself. Recording your observations in a diary will help you become more aware of your experiences and gain a sense of control over your condition.

Hurry up slowly

This phrase is about being present in every moment of life, about living meaningful minutes, about feeling the world. Hurry slowly and you will know the beauty of the moment. While waiting for your bus at the bus stop, close your eyes and expose your face to sunny kisses. Let the warm light redeem you in its radiance, penetrate into every cell of the soul and body. When peeling an orange from a rough red peel, inhale the citrus joy with a full breast, bring orange clothes to your nose and feel the sweetness of the pulp on your tongue. Hastily writing down something, put a crumb of your attention into each letter and number. Imagine that you are holding a pen, and you are a sophisticated calligrapher. Even if the shopping list pleases the eye. In a hurry, stop. Catch the cherished feeling of joy because there is no need to rush anywhere. You can do it all if you slow down.

Body habits of a woman who loves and appreciates herself

5. Well-groomedness is not a feat to go for a manicure once a year, but a constant grooming of oneself. Like a habit that does not depend on external circumstances. Not for the sake of a man or society, but for himself. Appreciate yourself - take care of yourself always! 6. Have sex at will - yes, it is at will, and not because the partner wants or according to the schedule today. Self-respect implies sex as a pleasure for oneself, only then is a woman able to give pleasure to her partner. Appreciate yourself - love your body and do not force it!

Habits for a woman's body. Continuation.

3. Tasty and healthy to eat - not in vain they say "you are what you eat." A woman who loves herself does not shove any filth into herself, but behaves like an adequate caring parent for herself. Appreciate yourself - feed yourself tasty and healthy! 4. Move enough, no more and no less - the body needs movement. Everything that does not move is destroyed. But extra movement also destroys the body. In everything, the main habit is good - a sense of proportion! Movement burns what you ate tasty, movement turns on the hormones of joy, movement - life. Even when you are sad - you jumped, ran and you already feel different. Appreciate yourself - move on!

Habits for a woman's body. Continuation.

1. The habit of getting enough sleep is essential both for beauty and for the harmony of the mind and soul, since lack of sleep leads to the destruction of the physical body, disrupts the hormonal background, leads to anxiety, irritability and depression, not to mention bruises under the eyes and extra wrinkles. Appreciate yourself - pour yourself out! 2. Rest when tired - "switch to another activity", and not build a hero and good for everyone. After all, it is precisely insufficient rest that leads to not wanting to do something important, irritability and depression, as well as to being overweight! And, if you are already falling off your feet, but you NEED to go to the gym or urgently fry cutlets or finish this report, THEN YOU DO NOT NEED IT! Relax, at least 20 minutes of auto-training and then please. Appreciate yourself - relax yourself!

Body habits of a woman who loves and appreciates herself

The body is our foundation, and the talk “I'm all so smart and spiritual, so fat and scary” is not entirely about a woman who values herself. More like laziness. And all this definitely affects your psyche directly! If the body is not in order, the soul will not be in order, and vice versa! And the benefit will be only when you, after reading this article (in the following posts), IMMEDIATELY begin to introduce something from it into a habit!

How to cheer up at the beginning of spring?

✔Make a list of changes. We believe that spring is a time of change, and to change we wait for warmer days. In fact, interesting events can happen at any time of the year, even the darkest, and it is not necessary to wait for spring. ✔Eat some vitamins. This does not mean that you need to drink vitamin C in large doses and buy fruits by hundreds — now there is not much use in them. Just buy a jar with a vitamin complex and regularly consume its contents in the doses specified in the instructions. ✔Go to the pool or water park. The water miraculously reminds us of summer, the sea and rest. Have a swim to remind yourself that summer is just around the corner.

Psychological defense

We constantly alter our reality in order to cope with it. Each time certain events occurred that caused psychological trauma, or when we were faced with a painful experience, we formed psychological defenses to live through this traumatic event and cope with it. In other words, psychological defenses protect us from the pain of reality, distorting it for us, and thus do not allow us to face it directly. Therefore, phycological defenses come to the rescue when we feel trauma. Roughly speaking, the subconscious mind has an attitude: "Anything but this!" And you are immediately like "in a bunker" without windows and doors.

To bed, now!

Many people consider sleep a waste of potentially productive hours. But this approach is fundamentally wrong, since sleep increases the ability to think. One hour of sleep gives several hours more high productivity in the next day. Driving for 24 hours without sleep or having an average of only four to five hours of sleep a day every week does not matter. Both are equally deadly for our cognitive abilities.

Motivation

Motivation is a powerful force. When a person wants something very badly, he or she is ready to move mountains. • Something did not work out? Then you did not really want it! After all, when you want a cake very much, you're ready to go three miles to the night supermarket, aren't you? So do we really need to teach ourselves to want something the right way? Exactly! Our crafty brain is aimed at saving energy, so decided evolution. • And it will come up with new excuses to discourage us from unnecessary work again and again: "Well, why do we need it? We're fine as we are! Oh, look, there's a new message in messenger! Look, look at these cute kittens in the picture!"