How to be confident

1. Learn to let go People, interests, experience. All this gives you confidence: when you say goodbye to what you no longer need, something no longer relevant, you begin to look forward to new perspectives and new changes in life. 2. Don't gossip about, don't discuss, and don't judge others Don't look for flaws in other people – work on yourself, only then will you be able to build your self-esteem. Don't waste your time discussing someone else's life. Focus on yourself. It will be a more competent investment of time and energy. 3. Respond to failures and mistakes adequately Yes, it's upsetting, yes, it's unsettling. But this is not a reason to give up and doubt yourself. Try again and again. Everything that happens helps to reconsider your views, form an opinion, learn new things and, perhaps, turn to the truly right path. Stop being afraid of mistakes – if they happen, then it's a sign that something in your life needs to be changed for the better.

Just imagine.

How much easier it would be for us to communicate and compromise when, in our dialogues, instead of "you're wrong," we would say, "your choice is different from mine." If only we simply acknowledged the right of our loved ones to make their own choices. If only we realized the subjectivity of our point of view and opinion. Just imagine how much easier our life could be!

Life is a multi layered picture.

A canvas is our genetics. The first large brushstrokes in your composition refer to the foundations of our character, the direction in life, main courses and important attitudes. But as you the canvas, the strokes get smaller, the colors get more complex, and it takes more and more time to make a meaningful movement. You step back from the canvas, look at the painting from afar and make corrections. You just have to look carefully and notice where the flare is already added. You just have to let it flow in order to fully express you inner being.

Happy relationship. What is it?

Well, there is no single formula. A happy relationship is one that develops in the best possible way, taking into account the possibilities and limitations of both parties at the particular moment. Plenty of completely different scenarios may take place: you can feel happy either with someone you see all the time or being at a distance. There're also some people you'd better never meet at all.

ART Therapy — what is it for?

This is when the content of each person's inner self is reflected in certain visual images. This technique allows a person to: 1.To express these images through working with colors, which helps harmonize our mental health greatly. 2. ART therapy will be extremely useful if there are indications to: Fears, phobias, difficulties of emotional development, depression, impulsivity of emotional reactions, loneliness, interpersonal conflicts, emotional burnout, dissatisfaction with family relationships and much more. All in all, everyone has a reason to take up brushes. And it really works.

Men are better at reading emotions from emoticons than from facial expressions.

Italian psychologists rushed to compare how people read the manifestation of emotions in facial expressions and in emoji on the Internet. To do this, they conducted a study involving 96 male and female students. The results showed that men are much better at understanding the emotions of emojis than real facial expressions, especially when it comes to negative feelings such as anger, sadness and disgust. It was easier for women to judge a person's feelings by facial expressions. Scientists believe that men prefer digital images of emotions because they are less ambiguous and make it easier to correctly interpret them.

Humor is a mental processing stimulant

A good sense of humor can help quickly react to a situation. Humor helps quickly detect obvious contradictions and make it known in the most vivid and precise description. All this together represents the speed of thought. ▫️I recommend you read as many comedic stories as possible and watch funny cartoons. ▫️It is important not just to read or memorize witty jokes or drawings, but also to strive to understand what is the point of a joke, what’s funny about it? Do this regularly to enhance the positive effects of a good laugh.

Getting rid of chronic fatigue syndrome

As you know, chronic fatigue causes low performance, poor physical and emotional health, and in some cases, depression. This is quite a serious problem that should be dealt with as soon as possible. Here are some habits that will help you deal with this: 1. Make sure you get a good night's sleep. Go to bed no later than 12 a.m., because otherwise you risk upsetting your hormonal balance, which is responsible for your physical well-being. 2. Take vitamin therapy. Start taking vitamins every day because they are excellent for producing enzymes, energy and thus replenishing lost strength. 3. Move more. Different types of sports improve our metabolism, give a good mood and energy, not letting chronic fatigue have any chance to appear.

Is there a correct way to have a fight?

"Right here, right now" To avoid fighting, it’s important to discuss your problems on time. People forget the details of events, emotions subside, then, suddenly, someone comes along and begins to remember what happened six months ago. "Fighting fire with fire" Words can be compared to a weapon, like a bat. When a person attacks a loved one, he must be ready to get a response, because the other person will defend her/himself. "Timeout" At such moments it's important to give yourself a break — a few minutes alone with yourself.

I’m so jealous⠀

This happens when we think that a person is living their life free of charge. Well, imagine that suddenly a foreign luxury car is your new ride. For free. Well, isn't this the life? But when we understand how the life we envy is paid for, we take a more sober approach to things. For example, a luxury car is accompanied by a burden of liabilities from five different loans as well as lack of free time. Envy is then substituted with calculations of your financial capabilities and decision-making.

7 tips that will fill you with love.

4. Do not strive to have everything at once. Even when it seems that there is nothing - there is always something, and what is missing - the giving hand of a friend, brother, sister, non-random passerby will stretch out. Be moderate in everything. 5. Meet with a smile, with love, everyone and everything. But never say goodbye, because nothing is ever final. Say: "Thank you, and see you again." 6. Be open to people, space, God - call it what you want. Believe that everything in your life is working out for the best for you. Even when, it would seem, there is nowhere worse, there is where ... You never know where you will find, where you will lose. 7. To put on a clean shirt, you need to throw off the old one.

7 tips that will fill you with love.

1. No need to rush anywhere. But you have to be where you feel good. If you feel that you are not there somewhere, get up and go where your inner voice calls. Remember that you don't have to go anywhere to find it. This is a very fine line, the key is constant presence. 2. Do not seek to control people and events. Don't plan, don't wait, don't wish, loosen your grip. Know how to endure a pause during which nothing happens. Let people come to you and things happen. They happen to you for a reason. 3. Give yourself the freedom to be yourself and let others be different. Remember that everyone has their own path and their own lessons. If your paths intersect, that's great, but if they diverge, that's also good, because everything is always for the good.

Nothing will be the same

We must adapt to the rapidly changing reality. But the stress makes it harder. I suggest you learn a technique that will help you pull yourself together. Exercise: "being a bystander". Imagine yourself as an outsider in this situation. Look at yourself from a different perspective, as if you are a character in a movie. In no case should you get involved, you have to make sure you’re not under any stress. Just observe the situation: who is involved in the conflict, how they behave, what they’re saying. The main thing is to remain a silent spectator, an observer. If necessary, mentally build a barrier in front of you that will not allow you to plunge into conflict again.

The «What if I died right now?» guilt trip manipulation

Says, for example, your mother. Is that supposed to be a joke? Well, it’s not funny at all. In fact, it’s a very common type of manipulation. With a very difficult internal decision to make as a result - to go along with it! A sense of duty and a sense of guilt will follow, planted in the brain by an experienced adult in the most subtle way. What is bad about such a relationship? 1. Exhausting megatons of your energy. 2. These relationships last for decades. 3. Some children were "lucky" to grow up in such an environment. How to fix this? To begin with, understand that this is pure manipulation. And since there is no way to distance yourself from the object (it’s your mother for crying out loud), then start changing your attitude to the situation. Do not react, rather ignore her statements. It’s important to ignore such behavior METHODICALLY.

Love should be earned

What does that mean? A person in a relationship begins to "pay" with his health, do more than he wants, expect reward, sacrifice, give the clothes off their backs. Why does this happen? Most often, this is not a sign of great love or devotion, but a sign of approaching childhood trauma and codependent relationships. This person is reminded how, as a child, they could not just get love and so they paid with themselves, their body, desires or emotions to earn love, because children have nothing but that. Nothing to pay with but yourself. And that’s monstrous.

Perhaps you are missing yourself.

If you constantly need someone else’s presence, it's possible that you’re not enough for yourself. If we are satisfied with being on our own and do not need anyone else, it does not mean that this other person is not valuable or does not make sense. It simply means that our values are not controlled and do not depend on others, only on ourselves.

People are not born evil

Experience makes them evil.⠀ Experience hurts and scars people, causing them to see danger everywhere. Experience dictates what good is, which often does not coincide with our understanding of it. Experience dictates a certain form of love, but sometimes this form does not suit us at all. In many ways, experience shapes consciousness. Together it’s a lot more than we inherent from mother nature.⠀

What makes a good parent?

Firstly, the ability to restrain as well as restrain oneself. Don’t bite the bullet, rather refrain from expressive emotions to avoid interrupting communication. Secondly, it’s understanding why we are making this or that decision. Why do we forbid, why do we make mistakes. Understanding how our decisions will affect the character and fate of our child. Thirdly, the ability to clearly distinguish between the boundary of your desires and the desires of the child. For example, you were engaged in hockey, but for a number of reasons did not achieve the desired results. And so you shift your hockey dreams onto the head of your own son. And he, by the way, dreams of playing the guitar.

Developing communication skills

Everyone knows how important it is to be a good speaker. So, let's go straight to the tips that will help improve your communication skills: 1.Show initiative. Don't be shy about making contact first. If you want a conversation, just start it. 2. Be open-minded. Don't be afraid to show your emotions and thoughts, because with openness you are more likely to find good friends. 3. Listen without interrupting. It's a very simple tip, but many people forget about it anyway. Listening without interrupting is a good way to understand others and match them.

How to build resilience?

There are situations in life when there is too much stress and you need to be able to be resilient to it, otherwise the end will be dire. Here are 2 tips that can help to improve your stress tolerance: 1. Mental attitude. Stress release depends on our thoughts among other things. It's important to be on the positive side, then the release of the stress hormone will be less. 2. Tea. Tea contains L-theanine. This unique amino acid fills our body with energy and boosts our stress tolerance.