The point is to be able to let go.

When you know how and can not take revenge in response, not humiliate yourself and not live with the negative of the past. Yes, it is very important to be able to let go of other people and situations related to them. It is also very important to be able to forgive. Myself! For the fact that I once got stuck, stumbled, made a mistake, lost my head, trusted where it was impossible. Let it happen. Forgive yourself at last and let go of everything that was. This is the only way you can find your happiness! Believe me, all the events in your life are not accidental. Sometimes only with time you understand the whole essence of this or that situation. And experience, even negative, is your experience and you needed it at this stage of life in order to become stronger, wiser, more tolerant.

Never put a collar on the man you love.

Not souls with jealousy, suspicions, do not demand devotion, devaluing his feelings and humiliating yourself. Don't take away oxygen, but be oxygen, without which he can't breathe. There is nothing sweeter than the feeling when you do not hold, giving a man freedom of choice, and he chooses you every day. And he never gets enough of you. This is that sweet feeling of confidence in him when you enjoy every moment alone, when you get goosebumps, when you bite your lip with pleasure, when he proves to you with every gesture, every thought and emotion that you are desirable. Don't try to take it by force, force it to love you. Remember - a man should not sit on a chain and lick your hands. He is near not because the whip is in your hands, but because his heart has chosen you. The heart cannot be commanded, it cannot be held by any chains. Freedom is the only worth seasoning for love.

People have forgotten how to appreciate in a person a kind heart, a beautiful soul, his actions.

Now the main thing is what kind of work do you have, do you have a car and how much money do you have in your pocket. Even a soul mate is chosen according to status and, as a result, they live in wealth, but in misfortune. And only by realizing that the most important wealth is human warmth, we will become the happiest on earth...

To believe in a lie for the sake of temporary pain relief is a utopia, a road to nowhere.

I don't let myself be "ridden over my ears" anymore. I no longer sort things out with a person. If I see a lie or any other shit, I shut up. Just watching what this person is capable of. And I'm waiting for the peak of my disappointment, which will destroy my feelings for someone who is not worth them!

I respect my body

Human is an integral structure in which everything is interconnected, and if you seek positive changes in your life and just want happiness, it is important to pay attention to your body. Treat it with care and respect, always identify and meet its needs, keep it clean and balanced, then it will thankfully serve you and will never let you down. In addition: — Feed it delicious, high-quality and healthy food; — Give it an opportunity to fully recover every day; — Give it proper and comfortable exercise.

Doesn't anxiety make life unbearable?

Anxiety makes a person a VICTIM. Life and the world around become unsafe. More often than not, anxiety exists for a very long time without a person noticing it. Anxiety becomes noticeable when stressful situations accumulate. While stress is suppressed, anxiety grows. People tend to come to therapy with excessive anxiety, which is already impossible to tolerate. It often ruins our sleep, makes us less productive, destroys our relationships, and kills happiness. What's to be done? Firstly, sort yourself out. Observe carefully. When does anxiety appear? How stable is it? Figure out whether it comes after some events or it's chronic. Find the cause, talk it out loud, and start working through a particular fear. If you can’t figure it out on your own, contact a specialist.

Getting rid of negativity

If your thoughts return again and again to an unpleasant event, find something to do and distract yourself. The most effective way to stop yourself from getting worked up is to exercise or simple monotonous physical work. Jogging would be ideal for such an occasion. If that's not possible for whatever reason, you can do house cleaning, organize things in your closet, wash the dishes. Physical activity stimulates the production of endorphins, which push away negative emotions and causes fatigue that can distract you from bad experiences.

Talent is a gift from above

That's certainly YOU whom the universe has decided to MAKE HAPPY. Sometimes talent matters more than education because it determines our PATH. It is awful when a person is really talented as an artist or musician but is forced to sell kitchen appliances. Don't resist your nature, develop it, keep growing and improving, try to identify your talents and utilize them, search your heart. After all, the door to happiness opens outward.

How to let go of the past

Don't impose standards on yourself. It's a trap! There is such a thing called "the standard of expectations." Most people are absolutely certain that any standard situation must have its standard course. And, accordingly, most traumas and hurt feelings from the past are failed expectations. For example, a woman gets married because she expects her husband to provide for her, while the husband earns very little and does not try to earn more, so the woman gets divorced and gets angry at the whole world, thinking that all men are vile and lazy. The divorce took place many years ago, and if it were not for her continually angry and depressed state of mind, the young energetic woman would have simply found herself another man among those who aims to make money, and does not consider it a feat. However, all of her energy is spent regretting the past and the wasted best years of her life.

Step-by-step happiness

Living in a fast-paced city and the lack of time are the main enemies of happiness. Speeding up life makes us feel like we are sitting on a fast car's passenger seat, where our emotions and feelings begin to flash like lights behind the window. We don't have time just to feel anything. Our lives blur and we fall into a strange space of "emotionlessness." So take your time, let your feelings slowly develop, and your happiness will blossom.

We have learned to enjoy the little things.

We are no longer shuddering from New Year's fireworks. We stopped expecting miracles. We have become too mature. The older, the more serious faces. Learned to hide feelings, as if it were something shameful. We are afraid to burst into tears in public, to show our weakness. If earlier we dreamed of falling in love, now this feeling brings fear and horror to us. It became scary to trust someone with your soul. Closed from all a hundred locks, hid. We keep everything in ourselves, and then at night we can’t sleep from thoughts. We are always waiting for a trick, betrayal, a stab in the back. We should learn spontaneity from children and believe in fairy tales again ... The sum does not change from a change in the places of the terms. If you do not change anything in your life ... it will be monotonous and joyless.

What is a "real" man?

"A man must be seasoned and strong. Brutal, unshaven, with a look that burns through oxygen and people through and through. So that he can survive in the jungle, and at the same time chop trees with his hands. Let him be so wild that his people are afraid, but respected. All these boys in in tight pants, languidly lighting thin cigarettes, sometimes cause a gag reflex. I want to feel the sweet aftertaste of the mind and instincts in one bottle. But the most relish is when goosebumps run from his love!"

An inappropriate substitution

"What makes me happy?" - many people ask themselves, and what do they eventually choose to do? Drinking alcohol, hanging out, overeating sweets and doing nothing for months, or something even worse. Well, isn't being healthy, self-sufficient and successful the happiness?Distinguish true happiness and short-term pleasure. They are different things and so are the results.

People evaluate relationships that ended in a breakup worse than they actually were.

At the moment of a breakup, people are more likely to focus on the negative aspects of the relationship rather than the positive, and "find" more signs of discord in the past. Psychologists believe that the brain can interpret knowledge about the past in different ways to reconcile it with the final result.

Married people do not regret their infidelities.

After romances on the side, married people do not repent, do not regret their betrayals, experience satisfaction from them and believe that the affair on the side did not harm their marriage, which in other respects can be called healthy. These conclusions were reached by American psychologists after a survey of two thousand users of the Ashley Madison website - it helps married people find lovers. Most of the respondents are middle-aged men.

Psychologists have identified a quality that prevents one from becoming a bribe-taker.

They found that people who tend to feel guilty are less likely to accept bribes, especially when it would cause obvious harm to other people.

Spend more time reading!

With every book we read the world around us grows and we open up to it in a whole new way. ▫️Unfortunately because of the internet, reading books isn’t so popular anymore. But reading literature through electronic gadgets doesn’t convey the characters’ emotions and meaning behind their actions as well as books do. A hard-cover book can convey what the character is feeling and what is going on in their hearts. Books are food for our thoughts and warmth for our souls.

Time to live!

Anxiety, worries, fears, grudges - this is what concerns every person every day. Only for some reason people prefer to look the other way. If the stomach is bothering you, for example, you go to the doctor. ✔however, when they have depressive thoughts and a burden on their chest - they bottle up their emotions and they live on. And the situation only gets more complicated. Enough is enough! Stop lying to yourself that you don't have the time, energy or money to take care of yourself. Tale care of your thoughts, your beautiful soul and break the circle of survival. ✔a circle where you struggle with problems, difficulties, sometimes even with relatives. ✔Take the firdt step, do it! Only you and your own to feet are able to do it.

Second opinions.

Freedom of speech and equality, to which the whole world is actively striving, can sometimes backfire. There are information attacks and hoaxes, news which are absurd but still lots of people believe. And there is a single reason for all of this — everyone seeks to impose their own opinions. Sharing personal views is not so bad, but what if a person is completely incompetent in what they say? Everyone wants to give their 2 cents where nobody asked. And you, as a reasonable person, should be able to understand and sense the difference between what is worth listening to and what is not. Don't even try to explain anything - they will still try to prove the opposite to you with foam at the mouth. However, if you see that a person is disposed to criticism, then this is not such a bad idea — you can thoroughly discuss it.

11 Things Worse Than Cheating

Cheating is a quick and 100% way to ruin a relationship, but there are lots of other things that are just as, if not more, dangerous when it comes to risks to marital happiness. ▪️ Lying and hiding things from your partner. ▪️ Not being completely attached to the person. ▪️ Quiet disagreement. ▪️ Lack of communication. ▪️ Stubbornness, not compromising. ▪️ Arguing over trivial things and everyday issues. ▪️ Condescension. ▪️ Staying in a relationship of convenience. ▪️ Manipulating. ▪️ Jealousy. ▪️ Pretending.