The Perception of Gamers by Popular Psychology

This topic periodically appears in our gaming community, and I decided to clarify a few things... Specifically, how popular psychology perceives the world of gamers. To start off, I present a small quote from a lecture in the academic world that made me laugh for about 10 minutes. Enjoy the stream of nonsense disguised as an obvious 'biblical story.'

5 signs of sacrifice that many mistake for love.

1. In your family, your mother was not happy. She lived the role of a caring wife, a good mother, a performer of all affairs. And it seems to you that it’s normal to endure, hush up, allow, everyone lives like that. 2. The female victim is very empty inside, there is no energy and strength. Hence the tears, tantrums, insomnia, sad expression, lack of desire, self-confidence. 3. The female victim is very generous and kind. The man takes it, and then leaves, and the “vase” falls to the floor with a crash and does not know how to live now. Or he constantly shakes this “vase” morally, so that it eventually falls apart into pieces. 4. A female victim is beautiful, and sometimes she has abandoned herself. The one that abandoned is tired of fighting. And the one that is beautiful is trying for her man. 5. A woman of this type constantly gives, gives, achieves, deserves, begs for something. She firmly believes in the saying: "Love requires sacrifice."

It's important to be on time...

• Say "I love you", "Thank you", "I'm sorry", "It hurts me". • Warn loved ones that you will be late because they care and will worry. • Explain what you did and try to make amends if it hurt a loved one. • Call things and feelings by their proper names. • Move away from intrigue, pretense, harsh words. • Quietly leave the performance in which the actors are fake. • Remove dreams that do not warm, tasks that are not completed for weeks. • Stop hoping that everything will change from Monday. • Honestly look into your fear, anger, disgust and shame when annoying someone from the outside. • Say goodbye to those around whom it is crowded, sad, empty, uncomfortable. • Don't smile out of politeness. • Separate someone else's from your own. • Cry when you cry. Laugh when laughing. Silence when you don't know what to say. • With the evil - in justice. With the good - at the behest of the heart. With relatives - mercifully.

A restless mind needs to be calmed down.

Even if we don't take action, our mind often continues to fidget. According to Wu-Wei, not only the body needs to be calmed, but also the mind. Otherwise, we will not be able to determine whether we are acting in accordance with the world's energy flows or simply indulging our ego. Lao Tzu said that each and every one should observe and listen to their inner voice and to the voices of the environment.

Lack of action does not equal idleness

Wu-Wei means in Chinese non-doing or 'doing nothing'. Chinese philosophers considered it a natural way of life as opposed to actively pursuing goals or forcing events. Wu-Wei, however, should not be confused with idleness. It is not an excuse to sit back and criticize others. According to this teaching, one should not waste energy but act only when the time is right. If this concept is interesting to you, we'll take a closer look at Wu-Wei, just let us know!

They know how to feel life, not think about it

Conscious people know that the best decisions are made not by the mind but by the heart. The mind is limited. Although it tries to take control of all our life, there are secret tendencies, elusive connections, and much more that it can't manage. The intuition going from the heart is truly sensitive — it is what we need to trust. If you practice these intuitive skills, someday you will notice that you are not just mindlessly going with the flow of events but live every single day of your life with joy and pleasure.

Remember this!

Yes, you can't control how other people behave towards you, but you can choose how you treat them. You cannot control what others say about you, but your personal boundaries are your control zone. You do not take control of the emotions and feelings of others, but you control how you deal with your own feelings.

What DEFINITELY WILL NOT HELP if you have depression!

There are methods that simply will not help, but there are those that will also harm in addition. For example, when people try to treat depression with alcoholic beverages and psychotropic substances. Yes, this is a problem. Yes, it's worth talking about. Many people, in an attempt to escape from mental problems, get stuck in alcohol and drugs, the effect of which is not only short-term, but also poses a health hazard. Do not impose a tangle of problems on yourself: then you will not be able to unravel it on your own, or even with doctors it will not work.

Don't chase men!

Yours will be yours, you will feel it yourself. Meet, communicate, but connect your life only with those who really show themselves as a man in relation to you. He will show his attention, tenderness, care, who will endure your tantrums and whims, hugging you and kissing you on the top of your head. Your man will always be there, even if he is far away, you will always feel his care. A man who does not offend, will cover, protect and take in his arms, of course. Love must be mutual to awe.

General interest.

It turns out that people are brought together not by sympathy, not by passion, and not even by love, but by a common interest. Only thanks to interest you can be together even when love ends, only with a common interest, you can talk for pleasure and always find a topic. Everything is important, but at the heart of a long-term relationship is an interest in two.

Boosting self-esteem.

The first step in overcoming any bad habits is being aware of them. Observe yourself. Instead of engaging in self-condemnation, try to get to know yourself by analyzing the way you behave. Change your social circle. Take note which people are present in your life and what is the essence of your relationship with them. Perhaps, if you objectively evaluate your environment, you will see that you give people more than you get from them. Never forget about your strengths and don't be too hard on yourself. For personal use only, make a list of your inherent strengths and what you do really well. Keep calm and try to mitigate stress. Avoid the hustle and bustle. Develop stress resistance. You will gain self-confidence if you do the tasks you set yourself.

How to overcome the delayed life syndrome.

Delayed life Syndrome is dangerous to your overall health, finances, and life in general. It is an illness that must be dealt with. Improving self-esteem, doing things immediately without putting off "for later" will completely save a person from obsessive thoughts, and she or he will become the happiest and healthiest person in the world.

Delayed Life Syndrome

People who constantly puts things off and say to themselves phrases like that: "it's for a holiday," "I'll wait for a special occasion," "I'll rest after retirement," etc. suffer from the delayed life syndrome. It all comes from a deep childhood and low self-esteem. Parents often impose these views on their children, and then children do the same on their children.This syndrome can be compared to a road to "nowhere". The person takes no action except things that he or she is ordered to do. Such a person is completely miserable, because life is passing by him or her. Thousands of people hate their school, their university, their job, the country they live in. Yet they continue to do nothing, complain about life, and continue to postpone pleasant and important things in life. When a person of this kind is sad, he or she begins to fight depression by gorging on foods, which leads to health issues.

Manipulation.

Narcissists love to quarrel on purpose, consciously, at the right time. This is an element of manipulation. Here are a few situations, the repetition of which should alert you. 1. For example, quarrels happen before giving gifts. Now, obviously, a person is not obliged to give you anything, and, as always, you are to blame. 2. A quarrel is arranged in order not to fulfill a promise. They promised you something, but they were not going to fulfill it. (I wanted to buy you, but because of your behavior and tantrums, I changed my mind.) 3. The narcissist creates a situation so that the victim does not leave to meet friends. Because ideally the victim should be isolated. After all, your entire life "should" revolve around the narcissist! Several fights and now the victim no longer wants to go hang out with friends. It is easier for her or him not to meet her friends than to relive this nightmare.

The law of chance.

Our life is determined by the thoughts in our head. How much do you think about them, and in what way. It certainly has an impact on our lives. What a person believes and considers possible, then comes to his life. If you think you can't manage your life, then you are. If you are sure that your whole life depends only on you, you are also right. Every person has the right to choose what to believe and what to consider possible. It is everyone's right to choose.

It is your life!

Do what you love and do it all the time. If you don't like something, change it. If you don't like your job, end it. If you don't have enough time, stop staring at the TV. If you're looking for the Love of your life, stop. She will find you when you only do what you love. Stop trying to analyze. Life is beyond analysis. Life is simple. All emotions are wonderful. When you eat, enjoy every bite. Open your head, hands and heart to the new. Open yourself to people. Remember that we are united by our differences. Don't be afraid to ask. And don't be afraid to answer. Don't be afraid to share your dream. Travel. Perhaps you will find yourself where you are lost. Many opportunities appear only once. Grab them. Life is the people on your path and what you create with them. So start creating. Life is very fast. It's time to start.

We are what we believe in.

How many great discoveries were made in adulthood. How many wonderful love stories happened exactly when the passport was already "strongly for ...". When it seems to us that we cannot do something, it only seems to us. There is someone inside of us who can do anything. This is the secret of success.

5 tips on how to gain self-worth as a woman.

We hasten to notice that - advice, they are only advice, but in order for you to feel your self-worth, actions are definitely needed. 1. Appreciate your accomplishments. Knowing and remembering your virtues, you fill yourself with positive thoughts to yourself. 2. Don't criticize yourself. Criticism or self-criticism does not bring any benefit, it only worsens self-esteem and spoils the mood. 3. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Any problem that has been solved by you adds to your knowledge of the world, which means that your experience becomes more valuable. 4. Learn to say "No"! And then it will become much easier for you to defend your borders from too arrogant comrades. 5. Don't be afraid to show ignorance or weakness. When you realize that it is normal not to know and not be able to do something, then your bar is lowered, and you begin to appreciate what you already know and know.

How to understand that a person is jealous?

You need to CAREFULLY observe the reaction and behavior of the person. If two or more of the points described below match, then they envy you: A person can not sincerely rejoice at your success; In principle, a person is more pleased to discuss your problems; Whether consciously or intuitively, the person is preventing you from succeeding. Remember! This will help you better understand the people around you.

Tears for good: sometimes crying is necessary.

Many people are ashamed to cry, believing that in this way they demonstrate their own weakness. However, such a bad reputation is in vain so widespread in society. In fact, tears can be of great benefit. And before we tell you how tears help us, let's figure out why people tend to cry. Tears can be caused by intense stress, resentment due to the bad attitude of others, or severe physical pain. Even an adult is allowed to cry in such situations.