The Desire to Have vs the Desire to Be

There is a wonderful proverb: 'Everyone wants to have a friend, but not everyone wants to be one.' Nowadays, more and more often we want to 'have.' 'I want a child' instead of 'I want to be a mother,' 'I want a husband' instead of 'I want to be a wife,' and so on. Behind these linguistic subtleties lies a person's attitude towards life, their motto: either 'I am for someone,' or 'someone is for me'... In our desire to have, we break lives, shatter hearts, and suffer from loneliness... A 'possessing' person will always find that what they have is not enough. Not enough money, not enough power, not enough wives, not enough friends, not enough fun, not enough of oneself. A consumer, lacking their own essence, consists of what they possess.

Nothing passes without a trace

No matter who you part ways with, there will always be moments when you miss exactly that person. Their signature word, their smile, the tone of their voice, the way they speak, their figure, their lifestyle, or their thoughts. At some point, your subconscious will remember that this was exactly what your life had, and it was connected to a certain person. You will remember that you were once connected to them in some way and realize that it would be nice if the same thing happened again right now. Not a single person passes through your life without leaving a trace.

The Power of Keeping Your Relationship Private

Your relationship should only be known by the two of you. It eliminates unnecessary ears, eyes, and gossip. It's so great to have your own secret, your little mystery. When no one knows how you call each other, what plans you have, what you talk about, how you spend your time. Relationships become stronger, and you want to spend more time together. All this show-off is unnecessary for anyone. Love should be only for the two of you and no one else...

Why Do We Love Bad Boys?

Let's go back in time to primitive tribes. Who was the leader then? The strongest and the boldest. And this instinct and genetic memory still remains in us. That's why we are attracted to bad boys. But in the modern world, strength for every girl is not in a bold man, and certainly not in the strongest one, but in the one who loves her.

The Pleasure-Filled Woman

A woman gathers moments of pleasure like a bee gathers nectar to fill her life with. Pleasure makes her life joyful and easy, and the lives of her children, her beloved, and those around her become the same. She glides through her destiny, deriving pleasure from every moment of existence, and then everything starts happening the way she wants: the right people come, difficult issues get resolved, brilliant poetry gets written, and the greatest mysteries unfold. And deep inside, the woman knows that while she is in this state of pleasure, everything happens effortlessly, but when she loses this state, everything starts to crumble.

The Energy of Pleasure and Joy: How Women Attract Opportunities

When a woman is filled with pleasure and joy, energy, she creates a certain energy field around her, which attracts both men and opportunities. She glides through life, enjoying every moment: the taste of honey with truffles, the play of sunbeams in her hair, admiring the frozen eternity of an icicle, the gentle sounds of music, the intricate patterns of fabric in her dress, the laughter of a child, and chitchats with friends.

Commute to Work Increases Risk of Depression, Study Finds

Long commutes to work are associated with an increased risk of depression, according to a study involving over 23,000 residents of South Korea. The research revealed that lengthy commutes can impact the body and lead to deterioration in mental health. Participants who spent over an hour commuting to work were 16% more likely to experience symptoms of depression compared to those with shorter commutes of less than 30 minutes.

Scientists prove that the internet does not harm mental health

Scientists have proven that the internet does not harm mental health. They have studied the data of two million people aged 15 to 89 in 168 countries and concluded that the spread of the internet does not significantly harm psychological well-being. They compared information on the number of internet users, subscriptions, and the use of mobile broadband access with indicators of anxiety and depression. The research results showed that over the past two decades, there have been only small and inconsistent changes in global well-being and mental health.

Workaholics Feel Worse than Others, Even at Work

Workaholics feel worse than others, even at work. Studies by Italian scientists have shown that the majority of workaholics have, on average, worse moods than others. This mood persists throughout the day, regardless of workload. Scientists have also found that the link between work addiction and bad mood is more pronounced in women than in men. This is likely due to pressure stemming from gender expectations.

Cow Hugging Therapy Gaining Popularity in the UK

A farm owner in East Yorkshire has introduced cow hugging therapy as a means to alleviate stress in the United Kingdom. Visitors can partake in a three-hour session for the price of £50, during which they can stroke and hug cows, groom them, or take them for a walk around the farm.

Why do we choose the wrong partners and turn marriage into a mistake?

We don't understand ourselves. When we look for a suitable partner, our requirements for them are quite vague. Something like: we want to find someone kind, cheerful, attractive, and ready for adventures. Not that these desires are wrong, but they are loosely connected to what we will actually demand in hopes of being happy, or rather, not constantly unhappy.

Why do we choose the wrong ones and turn marriage into a mistake?

We don't understand other people. The problem is exacerbated by the fact that other people are also stuck at a low level of self-awareness. They are unable to understand what is happening to them, let alone explain it to someone else. Naturally, we try to get to know each other better. We meet each other's families, visit places that are important to them, look at photos, and meet their friends. This gives us a sense of completing our homework, but it's like launching a paper airplane and claiming that now you can pilot an aircraft.

Why do we choose the wrong ones and turn marriage into a mistake?

We are not accustomed to being happy. We believe that we are searching for happiness in love, but it's not that simple. Sometimes it seems like we are seeking such close relationships that can only complicate the attainment of happiness. We recreate in adult relationships some of the feelings we experienced in childhood when we first realized and understood what love means.

Why do we choose the wrong person and turn marriage into a mistake?

We are convinced that being alone is horrible. Unbearable loneliness is not the best emotional state for making a rational choice of a partner. We must come to terms with the prospect of long years of solitude in order to have a chance to form good relationships. Otherwise, we will love the feeling of no longer being alone more than the partner who saved us from loneliness.

Why do we choose the wrong ones and turn marriage into a mistake?

We believe that we are special. Statistics are ruthless, and each of us has seen plenty of examples of terrible marriages. We have witnessed acquaintances and friends who tried to break these bonds. We know perfectly well that marriage can bring major problems. Yet, we struggle to apply this understanding to our own lives: it seems to us that it happens to others, but it cannot happen to us.

How to Survive a Breakup

Less attention to social media, more attention to yourself. Meet new people, call/visit your loved ones, go to the museum you've always wanted to visit, go to the theater, cinema. Think about what you have been putting off for a long time? Maybe you have long dreamed of doing yoga or learning to dance, or taking up crafts. Now is the time for it. Especially if the activities are group ones. This will allow you to distract yourself and fill the emotional void.

How to Survive a Breakup

Stop seeking the past emotions. After a breakup, we still seek for the past emotions and experiences. We continue to look at photos, scroll through social media, and reread conversations. If you don't have anything that ties you together (shared property, children, pets), it's better to abstain from contact.

How to Survive a Breakup

Accept the Pain. When experiencing loss, the brain activates the region responsible for physical pain, which is why it feels like it actually hurts. It is perfectly normal to experience different emotions, it doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. The worst thing you can do is deny that you are struggling. Give yourself time to mourn the past.

Second-born children more likely to exhibit delinquent behavior

Second-born children, especially boys, are found to be more prone to rebellious behavior, according to scientists. The reason may lie in the fact that they look up to their older siblings rather than their parents. The researcher added that this is largely connected to the fact that parents spend slightly more time with their first-borns than with their second-borns.

The Illusion of Endurance: Love Can't Bear Everything

Never think that love can endure all. This is a great misconception. A person can love you more than life itself, but if they feel unhappy, sooner or later they will reach their limit. Eventually, a basic fatigue from offenses and bitterness will come. Love should not endure, it should live and make a person happy.