Everything Passes

Everything in this world passes. Even the most unbearable pain. Even the one you thought you'd never recover from, which scarred your heart with numerous scars of varying sizes. It leaves on its own the moment something inside you lets it go, no longer able to cope with it, or perhaps, who knows, someone above decides that you've had enough, that you've suffered enough. In any case, no matter how strong your pain is now, remember that one day it will pass, making room for joy.

Surprises for Ladies

I believe a girl deserves gifts not only on her birthday or another holiday. There is no need to wait for the right moment to give flowers or make a compliment. And for attention and tender words, any time is suitable. And most importantly, a girl always expects this. Unexpected niceties are a thousand times more valuable than those we anticipate, they remain longer in memory and warm the soul!

Poor Love Strategy

Everyone is familiar with the phrase that the unattainable seems attractive. But for some reason, almost no one understands how it works. Many intuitively try to create difficulties to attract the attention of a partner who is likely to spend a lot of time and possibly money, but ultimately end up with even more difficulties in return. And the other side, watching the suitor's efforts, may take it as a display of love. As a result, those who have gone through your grindstones do not appreciate and respect you - you irritate them. And others do not want to participate in such competitions; they seek reciprocity and respect. Who ever came up with the idea that love should be born in suffering?

How to Cope with Guilt After a Conflict with Loved Ones

What to do if it's very difficult to cope with feelings of guilt after a conflict with loved ones? In this case, it is best to ask your loved one what you could do to make amends. Of course, it should be something reasonable. And if your loved one says they don't need anything, but that doesn't reassure you – ask them to come up with at least some small favor. This will help you feel that you have made amends with the person, and it will be easier for you to let go of the situation.

The Biggest Mistake in Relationships

The biggest mistake in relationships is thinking that if a person loves you, they won't go anywhere. In the beginning, when people just start getting to know each other, there is respect and tenderness in the relationship, and everyone tries not to show their flaws. But then everything fades away. Egoism takes its place when a person is so relaxed that they no longer watch their words and actions, taking out all their anger, bad mood, and emotions on their loved ones. It seems: well, where will they go?! Attention, care, and pleasant little things disappear, and it's not surprising that soon the beloved person will disappear too. If warmth is lacking, we are forced to look for it with other people. Do not let this happen! Cherish those who are nearby! Fate provides such people only once.

Inner comfort is more valuable

Inner comfort is more valuable than any temptations of temporary pleasure. More valuable than any temporary people and things. Everything you like is personal, and the personal belongs only to the person you see in the mirror. The rest are empty speculations and guesses of those who try to see something else in you. You are your best ally in being yourself and being happy in this mad world.

The Discovery of Inner Peace

One day, you stop being frantic and trying to prove something to someone, you look at the surrounding world with all its madness with a smile, you don't rush to please people, you don't hurry to give advice or judge or save anyone. You stop responding to calls from people who haven't fascinated or interested you for a long time, you look more at the sky than at who is busy with what and how they live. You recall what inspires you regardless of circumstances, you don't apologize, don't explain, don't argue, don't waste time on the uninteresting and temporary, and you discover incredible peace and many things you hadn't noticed before in your pursuit to fit into someone's idea or meet someone's expectations.

This Is Your Life

Do what you love and do it constantly. If something doesn't please you - change it. If you don't like your job - quit it. If you lack time - stop staring at the TV. If you're looking for the love of your life - stop. It will find you when you are doing what you love. Stop trying to analyze. Life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, enjoy every bite. Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things. Open yourself to people. Remember that our differences unite us. Don't be afraid to ask. And don't be afraid to answer. Don't be afraid to share your dream. Travel! You might find yourself where you get lost. Many opportunities appear only once. Seize them. Life is about the people you meet and what you create with them. So start creating. Life is very fast. It's time to start.

Educational Balloon Experiment

The teacher brought balloons to school and asked the children to inflate them and write their names on them. They took all the balloons to the corridor, and the teacher mixed them up. Then the teacher gave them 5 minutes to find the balloon with their name. The children ran to search, but the time ran out, and no one found their balloon. Then the teacher asked the children: Take the balloon near you and give it to the person whose name is written on it. It took less than 2 minutes, and everyone had their balloon in hand. Finally, the teacher summarized the moral of this experiment: "Balloons are like happiness. No one finds it if they only search for it themselves. However, if everyone looks out for each other, it can be found much faster."

When He No Longer Loves

It happens – time passes, and people stop loving each other. He throws himself into work, she continues to hope. He gets a mistress, she believes it's not forever. He refuses to have sex with her, she tries to become more beautiful to be more attractive to him. He builds a glass wall between them, she learns to live in isolation, only sometimes, to get his attention, she taps with her fists and waves to him from behind this wall.

When he no longer loves

When he no longer loves. She gets used to not interfering, not compromising, not damaging his image, and being a very convenient, inconspicuous wife. She looks for other things to fill her life. If there are children - good, then she immerses herself in caring for them. If the children are old enough to detach themselves, or there are no children, she looks for hobbies: dancing, yoga and macrame, joint purchase forums and friends with their problems and their lives. If she has gone into work, she has less time to notice that something is wrong. From the point where closeness is possible, there is the same distance to each of them. They are both far away, and no one to wave from behind the glass wall.

When he no longer loves

Sometimes, on lonely cold evenings, when he comes home only after midnight, the thought creeps in that this can't go on for much longer, that one day she will not be able to take it anymore... But then the fear comes in – 'How can I be alone? At least now there's a living person nearby, even if sometimes, at least in principle. And there are no lines under the window... Who needs me with two kids or in my forty-something years'. And she decides that it's not all bad.

When he no longer loves

"In the end, from the outside, everything seems fine! And even at work, they are envious: 'What a husband you have!' Yes, even 'what kind,' the main thing is that he is there! Some people don't even have that. But wonderfully, she has learned to reassure and lull herself: 'Everything is fine, everything will eventually get better, he will change, and everything will be fine with us again...' Because the known and stable, even if it's the imperfect 'today,' is better than the unknown and therefore frightening 'tomorrow,' if suddenly 'today' she decides to change something."

When he doesn't love anymore

When he doesn't love anymore. And the woman learns to live awkwardly, increasing her level of tolerance. If earlier she was hurt by the mere fact of the mistress's presence, now she believes that he is at work. There was a time she would throw tantrums if he didn't come to dinner, now it's not so bad that he didn't come to the restaurant on her birthday (he is at work, busy). There's no limit to her patience... She uses immense strength not to feel, not to hear, not to see, not to understand, and therefore not to cry and not to suffer, and unfortunately, to change nothing. If only she used this strength for living... It would be enough for many things.

Two Functions of Relationships

1. Recreation Room – for fun, friendship, sex, laughter, etc. 2. Growth Laboratory – the last place to challenge each of our souls (our inner 'self'), to feel inspired, to grow and develop! Unfortunately, many people perceive relationships solely as a recreation room, ignoring the second aspect. If you are unable to view relationships from the perspective of both functions, when fate challenges you, you think: 'There’s no more fun here. I’m leaving!' But if you understand how relationships fulfill both functions, when you face the challenge of fate, you will move from the recreation room to the growth laboratory, and that will be okay! Indeed, even delightful! Why? Because the most important task in our life is self-improvement!

Two Functions of Relationships

We must always be open to growth, in order to become better! To clarify: you should not need relationships where everyone tries to change the other. Also, you should avoid being in relationships where there is no mutual respect. Instead, strive for relationships where you support each other and grow together, when you see the challenge of fate as an opportunity for growth! This requires strength of character.

Trust and Wait

Everything happens when you are ready for it. Darling, if what you wish for has not yet manifested in your reality - do not worry. Imagine you place an order at a restaurant. And you know it will be prepared to the desired state for you, and brought to you when ready. You do not call the waiter every minute. You just trust and calmly await your order. The same goes for wishes and goals. You simply place an order in the cosmic kitchen and move forward, knowing that the order will be delivered at the best time for you. How does it feel to read this? I love this metaphor. I think it resonates.

Two Joys of a Person

A person has two joys: The first is when they receive, and the second is when they give. The joy you feel when giving cannot be compared to the one you experience when receiving something. The one who receives has human joy, and the one who gives has divine joy. To understand if they are on the right spiritual path, a person needs to first look at whether they feel joy when giving rather than receiving.

Relationships with Married Men

Many women cling to married men themselves and are surprised that they cannot meet "the one." Some even manage to repeatedly enter into such relationships. But it must be admitted that you find it: convenient to be at a distance; convenient to be in the position of 'owing nothing to anyone'; enjoy playing Santa Barbara and suffering because not being in the first place is a life principle; not having to bear 100% of female responsibility. In such relationships, it is comfortable: he comes washed and ironed; each meeting, like an adrenaline-filled party, each sex, like a juicy forbidden fruit. The problem is that by continuing to be in such relationships every day, you lose your value. And every day, the chances decrease that this man will be yours alone.

It's Okay to Make Mistakes

It's normal to make mistakes. Do you really think that life ends after one wrong step? Stop thinking that you are worse than everyone else. There isn't a single person in the world who gets everything perfectly right. Everyone has their flaws... You, me, and even those whose lives seem flawless at first glance all have them. I understand that it might seem to you now as though you're standing at the edge of a chasm, the unexplored void of which gives you chills, but look around, there's no one here wishing for your fall. A mistake is not the end. It's just a reason to become stronger.