This Is Your Life

Do what you love and do it constantly. If something doesn't please you - change it. If you don't like your job - quit it. If you lack time - stop staring at the TV. If you're looking for the love of your life - stop. It will find you when you are doing what you love. Stop trying to analyze. Life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, enjoy every bite. Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things. Open yourself to people. Remember that our differences unite us. Don't be afraid to ask. And don't be afraid to answer. Don't be afraid to share your dream. Travel! You might find yourself where you get lost. Many opportunities appear only once. Seize them. Life is about the people you meet and what you create with them. So start creating. Life is very fast. It's time to start.

Educational Balloon Experiment

The teacher brought balloons to school and asked the children to inflate them and write their names on them. They took all the balloons to the corridor, and the teacher mixed them up. Then the teacher gave them 5 minutes to find the balloon with their name. The children ran to search, but the time ran out, and no one found their balloon. Then the teacher asked the children: Take the balloon near you and give it to the person whose name is written on it. It took less than 2 minutes, and everyone had their balloon in hand. Finally, the teacher summarized the moral of this experiment: "Balloons are like happiness. No one finds it if they only search for it themselves. However, if everyone looks out for each other, it can be found much faster."

When He No Longer Loves

It happens – time passes, and people stop loving each other. He throws himself into work, she continues to hope. He gets a mistress, she believes it's not forever. He refuses to have sex with her, she tries to become more beautiful to be more attractive to him. He builds a glass wall between them, she learns to live in isolation, only sometimes, to get his attention, she taps with her fists and waves to him from behind this wall.

When he no longer loves

When he no longer loves. She gets used to not interfering, not compromising, not damaging his image, and being a very convenient, inconspicuous wife. She looks for other things to fill her life. If there are children - good, then she immerses herself in caring for them. If the children are old enough to detach themselves, or there are no children, she looks for hobbies: dancing, yoga and macrame, joint purchase forums and friends with their problems and their lives. If she has gone into work, she has less time to notice that something is wrong. From the point where closeness is possible, there is the same distance to each of them. They are both far away, and no one to wave from behind the glass wall.

When he no longer loves

Sometimes, on lonely cold evenings, when he comes home only after midnight, the thought creeps in that this can't go on for much longer, that one day she will not be able to take it anymore... But then the fear comes in – 'How can I be alone? At least now there's a living person nearby, even if sometimes, at least in principle. And there are no lines under the window... Who needs me with two kids or in my forty-something years'. And she decides that it's not all bad.

When he no longer loves

"In the end, from the outside, everything seems fine! And even at work, they are envious: 'What a husband you have!' Yes, even 'what kind,' the main thing is that he is there! Some people don't even have that. But wonderfully, she has learned to reassure and lull herself: 'Everything is fine, everything will eventually get better, he will change, and everything will be fine with us again...' Because the known and stable, even if it's the imperfect 'today,' is better than the unknown and therefore frightening 'tomorrow,' if suddenly 'today' she decides to change something."

When he doesn't love anymore

When he doesn't love anymore. And the woman learns to live awkwardly, increasing her level of tolerance. If earlier she was hurt by the mere fact of the mistress's presence, now she believes that he is at work. There was a time she would throw tantrums if he didn't come to dinner, now it's not so bad that he didn't come to the restaurant on her birthday (he is at work, busy). There's no limit to her patience... She uses immense strength not to feel, not to hear, not to see, not to understand, and therefore not to cry and not to suffer, and unfortunately, to change nothing. If only she used this strength for living... It would be enough for many things.

Two Functions of Relationships

1. Recreation Room – for fun, friendship, sex, laughter, etc. 2. Growth Laboratory – the last place to challenge each of our souls (our inner 'self'), to feel inspired, to grow and develop! Unfortunately, many people perceive relationships solely as a recreation room, ignoring the second aspect. If you are unable to view relationships from the perspective of both functions, when fate challenges you, you think: 'There’s no more fun here. I’m leaving!' But if you understand how relationships fulfill both functions, when you face the challenge of fate, you will move from the recreation room to the growth laboratory, and that will be okay! Indeed, even delightful! Why? Because the most important task in our life is self-improvement!

Two Functions of Relationships

We must always be open to growth, in order to become better! To clarify: you should not need relationships where everyone tries to change the other. Also, you should avoid being in relationships where there is no mutual respect. Instead, strive for relationships where you support each other and grow together, when you see the challenge of fate as an opportunity for growth! This requires strength of character.

Trust and Wait

Everything happens when you are ready for it. Darling, if what you wish for has not yet manifested in your reality - do not worry. Imagine you place an order at a restaurant. And you know it will be prepared to the desired state for you, and brought to you when ready. You do not call the waiter every minute. You just trust and calmly await your order. The same goes for wishes and goals. You simply place an order in the cosmic kitchen and move forward, knowing that the order will be delivered at the best time for you. How does it feel to read this? I love this metaphor. I think it resonates.

Two Joys of a Person

A person has two joys: The first is when they receive, and the second is when they give. The joy you feel when giving cannot be compared to the one you experience when receiving something. The one who receives has human joy, and the one who gives has divine joy. To understand if they are on the right spiritual path, a person needs to first look at whether they feel joy when giving rather than receiving.

Relationships with Married Men

Many women cling to married men themselves and are surprised that they cannot meet "the one." Some even manage to repeatedly enter into such relationships. But it must be admitted that you find it: convenient to be at a distance; convenient to be in the position of 'owing nothing to anyone'; enjoy playing Santa Barbara and suffering because not being in the first place is a life principle; not having to bear 100% of female responsibility. In such relationships, it is comfortable: he comes washed and ironed; each meeting, like an adrenaline-filled party, each sex, like a juicy forbidden fruit. The problem is that by continuing to be in such relationships every day, you lose your value. And every day, the chances decrease that this man will be yours alone.

It's Okay to Make Mistakes

It's normal to make mistakes. Do you really think that life ends after one wrong step? Stop thinking that you are worse than everyone else. There isn't a single person in the world who gets everything perfectly right. Everyone has their flaws... You, me, and even those whose lives seem flawless at first glance all have them. I understand that it might seem to you now as though you're standing at the edge of a chasm, the unexplored void of which gives you chills, but look around, there's no one here wishing for your fall. A mistake is not the end. It's just a reason to become stronger.

A Parable

The student asked the teacher: "If someone offends me and tries to provoke me, what should I do?" The teacher pondered: "If someone approaches you with a gift and you do not accept it, to whom does the gift belong?" "To its original owner," replied the student. "The same is true for envy, hatred, and insults. As long as you do not accept them, they belong to the one who brings them."

How we lose ourselves in relationships.

Sometimes it seems to us that to love someone means to completely dissolve in this person, but self-sacrifice often underlies codependent relationships and various forms of violence. We forget about our own interests. Harmonious relationships are not about a leader and a follower. It is the union of two complete individuals, each with their own interests, desires, and goals. But if one partner consistently gives up their desires for the sake of the other, it’s a warning sign. Such a person might even sacrifice their career, forget about a beloved hobby, and other important things. Don't forget about yourself, try to find time for your own desires as well.

Lack of Deep Communication in Couples

How many times recently have you talked about what concerns or delights you, rather than who will go shopping? Unfortunately, in the daily hustle and bustle, we forget that we need to share not only everyday issues but also our thoughts and feelings. It shouldn't be a "serious meeting" - rather, a calm dialogue where everyone can express what's on their heart without fear of judgment.

Love Yourself First

No matter how much you love him, no matter what feelings you have, no matter how attached you become, you must always put YOURSELF first! If a woman does not treat herself like a queen, a man will never elevate her to that level. The way you love yourself, how you value yourself, how you treat yourself, that's how others see you! Appreciate, respect, take care of, pamper, and love yourself! Love yourself!

A Remarkable Woman

A remarkable woman... she is soft and self-sufficient. She is wise and tender. She is passionate and desirable, a cocktail of innocence and recklessness, emotions and tenderness. The right words and the right touches. A combination of unavailability and fire. Distance and the desire for closeness. Such a woman never gets boring. It's not just the appearance. It's character, temperament, intellect, and aspirations. Such... such a woman will not let you be sad or regret anything, and will not let you forget the level on which she, having already stepped, awaits her person, or already echoes or keeps pace with him. Such women are desired. Such women are remembered. Such women can burn you. Such women are lived with.

Stability in Relationships with Women

In relationships with women, ultimately everything is decided by stability. For women, in most cases, this is a key factor in their choice. Stability should be understood as the feeling a man gives her in a relationship. The certainty that he will protect and support her, not leave her alone. Women can be attracted to different men, may want a festive atmosphere, but in the end, they will be with those who give them a sense of protection and confidence. In this sense, a real man is someone who can provide both celebration and assurance...

Five Steps to Forgive Those Who Never Apologized

1. Stay true to your truth. You, and only you, know what you've been through. You don't need their interpretation of events and their validation. 2. Don't say, 'It's okay' when it absolutely isn't. Don't say, 'It's fine, it's forgotten' and other diminishing phrases. Allow yourself to feel the pain they caused. Their unwillingness to apologize or inability to do so does not mean it was okay. You decide, not them.