The Battle of Minds

This mechanism is so powerful and widespread that there is no point in giving advice on how to avoid it. None. The only thing I can suggest is to learn to notice how it happens - with you and your surroundings. The best thing you can do is to wake up yourself and help another to wake up. And see where you both end up. It’s a difficult task, not understood by society and, rather, disapproved of. Therefore, only a small percentage of enthusiasts are ready for this - if you can call those who are nauseated by the familiar state of things so.

Naturalness is the key to wonderful relationships

Naturalness is the key to wonderful relationships. When you don't have to play silly roles of perfect people in front of each other. When you accept everything in him, and he's ready to kiss every version of you: the angry, the silent, the funny. When you love him in an expensive suit and unshaven in ripped jeans, and he wants you just the same when you're dressed as if you have a high-level meeting in half an hour, and when you're unbrushed, sitting on his lap, purring like a cat with pleasure.

Living and Enjoying Life

To live and rejoice is perhaps the most important thing in life. And even when you feel like everything has collapsed, that everything is going wrong, that people are deceiving your expectations, that situations are turning out worse than they could... let go of your automatic claims. Continue to trust in the wisdom of life. Everything will work out. Everything will be fine. Everything will settle. Do what you can for this, without forcing yourself, and leave the rest to life itself. Everything will be fine, let go of the doubts. Believe, no matter what. Everything will be wonderful. For sure!

The Value of Rare Connections

In reality, it's so rare to meet a person with whom everything feels right in every sense. To listen, to look at, even just to be silent. Someone you can turn your back to without fear, knowing there will be no stab. Someone with whom everything is easy and simple, and you don't have to pretend to be something you're not. When you can be yourself and understand that this feeling is mutual. Such people come into our lives extremely rarely, which makes them more valuable, and that's why losing such people is so painful and frightening. Fate sometimes plays cruel games with us, sending us such people and then taking them away. This makes us understand that nothing is eternal in this world.

The Ideal Does Not Exist

The ideal does not exist. We invent it in our heads, based on our needs and tastes. One should not expect that somewhere on earth there is a person who completely matches the picture we have drawn for ourselves. Everyone has flaws, and it is up to us to decide whether to accept them or to continue searching for the ideal.

Can serious relationships be formed online?

With the development of the internet, we communicate more on social networks, make new acquaintances, get dates, like each other, and draw certain conclusions. Online dating can lead to flirting at most, and now, as more and more dating apps appear, we see that people get to know each other, meet, and fall in love. Meeting people online is easy. There's no embarrassment while chatting and it's easier to open up and start a conversation. Through dating sites, you can find out how interesting a person is to you and whether it is mutual. The downside is that you often encounter not entirely successful options, but that's just like life, choose and verify.

Red Background Affects Perception of Authority

People describe faces depicted on a red background as more authoritative. A group of Japanese scientists wanted to find out how changing the background color affects the perception of human portraits. According to their research, we tend to attribute authoritative character traits to people depicted on red.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

Each person lives in their own mental reality, which is created from their beliefs. The main reason for disagreements between people is that each one considers their view of what is happening to be the only correct one. Observing reality helps to understand that these are just different perspectives on the same thing, and the criterion for reliability is our own life experience. By learning to analyze from different angles, we will understand that any position turns out to be unreliable - just a point of view.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

Prove nothing to anyone. What the need to prove something says. The rejection of the positions of others causes negative emotions in us, but if we look at it from another perspective, the attempt to prove something is a mirror of what we do not accept in ourselves: the confidence that we know exactly how things should be; judging the actions of others as a reflection of self-rejection; beliefs that are already hopelessly outdated; subconscious unwillingness to change. Every person is born with the ability to think and learn, each is born to gain their own life experience: to learn to love, think independently, create their own world, prove nothing to anyone, reject nothing, but accept others’ viewpoints as they are (which does not necessarily mean agreeing with them).

Prove nothing to anyone

Acceptance as the main way of interacting with reality. When we agree to conditions that do not align with our beliefs, we experience a certain mental discomfort. But if a certain circumstance exists, it exists for a reason, whether we like it or not. To accept means to recognize another person’s right to be as they are. By acknowledging the reality as it exists, we gain the opportunity to come into contact with it and influence it. Without acceptance, we cannot take advantage of what is given to us for something important. By resisting certain people or circumstances, we waste a huge amount of energy that could significantly improve our lives.

Prove Nothing to Anyone

The loss of this energy is simply colossal: we extinguish ourselves, extinguish other people, extinguish the resources of the situation and our entire reality. We spend our mental energy on discussions and problems beyond our authority, wasting efforts on things we cannot change: trying to educate others, manipulating them, instead of minding our own business. The best way to prove anything is through our own life in harmony with the inner and outer world, with joyful and grateful acceptance of everything. Eastern philosophy calls this process "action in non-action," which in practice means allowing everything to happen and proving nothing to anyone.

Ways to Refresh Your Relationship

You have been together for several years and have learned each other inside and out. All gestures, words, and actions are familiar and predictable, but you long for something new. Unfortunately, many couples begin to think that their feelings have faded. But this is not true. The cause of all this is the 'sensuality crisis' that every relationship goes through. Here are some ways to easily and pleasantly get through the crisis.

Ways to Refresh a Relationship

Do nice things for each other. Strangely enough, those we truly love often receive the least love. We can easily stay late at work or spend the evening with friends rather than with our beloved husband. Yet, we can easily criticize him for scattered socks. Where are the romance, attention, and tenderness? When we forget to show our feelings, they can genuinely cool down. But if we express them regularly, love and passion will not leave you.

Ways to Refresh Relationships

Do not bring work problems home. This truth is as old as the world and is relevant for both in a relationship. Didn't have time to read the documents or prepare the presentation? Leave it and do it the next morning, but don't bring work home! If there are difficulties at work, it is better not to plan any romantic events during this period – you are unlikely to be able to relax. And do not forget to treat similar problems of your spouse with understanding.

Ways to Refresh Your Relationship

Take a break from each other. Surprisingly, sometimes the best way to get closer is to take a break from one another. This doesn’t mean you have to go on separate vacations. Just allow yourself and your partner to engage in your favorite activities. Let him go fishing with friends while you go to yoga with your girlfriends. Rested, satisfied, and missing each other, you will surely want to spend time together.

Ways to Refresh Relationships

Avoid scripted actions. Such actions emerge in all relationships over time. For instance, you're with your husband at a friend's place, had a bit of wine, return home together by taxi and both know that 'this' will happen now. Then the same actions, kisses, etc. Couples start using a tried-and-true method that works 100% of the time, fearing to start experimenting. But admit it, if you eat the same dish every day, even if you really like it, sooner or later you will get sick of it. The same goes for sexual relationships. Variety is the key to maintaining passion in a relationship.

Ways to Refresh Your Relationship

Flirt. You can easily flirt with a stranger or a colleague, but not with your own husband. Admit it, it's strange. Flirting ignites feelings and awakens desire. Smile at your husband, tease him, give him compliments, send unexpected texts – romantic or sexy. And remember, your passion has slightly diminished under a pile of everyday problems, but it is still there, it just needs an outlet. Don't wait for your husband to make the first move: begin to act, and soon enough he will surely respond in kind!

The Secrets of Everyday Miracles

The secret is to never stop noticing those simple everyday miracles that make up our lives. Delicious food, good books, laughter, music, heartfelt conversations, nature, art. Look for them every day, and even when it seems like your world is falling apart, you'll always have a needle and thread at hand.

Inner Freedom in Relationships

Inner freedom in relationships is the art of balancing between 'we' and 'I'. You maintain your identity but are ready to make compromises for the sake of mutual well-being. This requires the ability to listen and hear each other, as well as readiness for change and growth. Such relationships become a source of strength and inspiration for both partners.

Self-love begins with the words - I am allowed...

Self-love begins with the words - I am allowed... I am allowed to be with someone or be alone. I am allowed to be beautiful in my own way. I don't have to follow beauty standards. I am allowed to choose the rules of my life. I am allowed to decide the flow of my time. There is nothing too early and nothing too late for me. In my life, everything is on time. I am allowed to be funny, silly, crazy, bright, sad, happy. And so are you. But next to you, I will remain myself, no matter what you think about it.