Unexpected Disappointment for Men

Men who think that they will always be awaited and welcomed back with tears of joy are in for an unpleasant disappointment: the possibility to return depletes unexpectedly, just like the balance in an account. Yesterday, people were ready to revolve around you right on the stair landing, and today you might easily be bypassed in a rush. When female patience bursts, it completely knocks out all romantic hopes from the foggy mind and abruptly switches off the waiting mode, which, by the way, is not activated at all in some cases.

Developing Empathy

Empathy can be developed like any other skill. Of course, it is extremely difficult to do this on your own, but the development of empathy begins with 'unpacking' your own feelings that you have suppressed within yourself. This is precisely what most often prevents us from showing compassion and understanding to other people.

Take a Break from Social Networks

Take breaks from social networks. Information noise fills all the space around us, and it's important to take breaks from it. Otherwise, your head might just explode. If not days, then at least take hours without the internet and phone. This will help you avoid burnout and unnecessary anxiety, which can sometimes be caused by excessive information consumption.

Learn to Set Priorities Correctly

Yes, it was once normal to go to friends after work, party until morning, drink beer, and go to clubs and bars. But when a person you love appears in your life, it is completely normal to strive to be with them. This has nothing to do with a weak character, being 'whipped', or prohibitions and restrictions on freedom, no! It is a natural desire to be close to the one you love and spend time with them. You shouldn't forget your friends, but you also shouldn't prioritize them first; you just need to set priorities correctly.

Should there be friendship in marriage?

Should there be friendship in marriage? Let's figure it out. What is friendship? It is the relationship between people based on sympathy, respect, common interests, spiritual closeness, mutual attachment, understanding, and trust. When people are on the same wavelength, when they understand each other without words. So, my advice: of course, marriage equals friendship! Without it, you won't get far! And in general, love is the sum of three components... Passion, responsibility, and intimacy. On one of the 'Love is' gum wrappers, there was an answer I really liked: “Love is when she chews a caramel and it feels sweet to him.”.

Personal Space

There are people who unceremoniously invade your personal space, and at such moments, it is important to tactfully and firmly convey the inadmissibility of such behavior. First of all, you need to realize that you, like everyone, have the right to personal space. The less anger, irritation, or inappropriate embarrassment you feel about the violation of your personal boundaries, the easier it will be for you to ask the person not to violate them.

Fear of Lost Time

I am not afraid of loneliness. I am afraid of the time lost on the wrong people. That’s what's scary, thinking that you are loved, that this is your person, that there is a shared future... And then... suddenly... the person is a stranger, no feelings, no closeness. But you get used to it, you hope. You make plans... And everything collapses in an instant... And everything starts over... I would be ready to give my all, to the very last drop, if only I knew it was forever, and not just one line out of an entire novel...

The Importance of Patience in Relationships

Patience is very important in relationships. We often rush, make hasty conclusions, fail to put ourselves in each other's shoes, "act rashly," and put an end to things. But sometimes, we just need to calmly think: "Is it worth ending everything just because you simply didn't understand each other?" We are all very different, with a lot of complexes, shortcomings, and quirky thoughts. However, if you feel comfortable with someone, you feel at home with them. You feel cozy in your soul and heart. Can small everyday problems really destroy this euphoria of emotional warmth?! Yes, of course, it happens that both characters are so strong that neither will ever make a step towards the other. And great universal love, ironically, breaks over an unwashed mug or an unprepared dinner.

You can't change your partner

You can't change your partner. Just remember that. Changing another adult person is a futile task. You can change yourself, learn to hear your partner, understand the motives behind their actions, what actually lies behind their phrases. That's it. And your partner can change reactively - in response to your changes, automatically, unconsciously changing for themselves too. They can realize important things and change. Or they may not change at all. And they have the right to any of these three options. Just accept the thought that you cannot change them. Only they can do that. And one more thing. Don't change yourself in order to change someone else. You will be disappointed. Change for yourself.

Rules for a Successful Date

Rules for a successful date. If you want not just to go on a date, but to make this event pleasant and beneficial for you, use these simple rules! 1. "No to the Uninterested". Go on dates only with men who are interested in you, who want to see you and talk to you in person. This is essential! Because if you somehow manage to lure a bachelor out of his "den", be ready to play the role of the "entertainer" at the meeting.

Rules for a Successful Date

2. Meet on neutral territory. Arrange to meet in a place from which you can easily and freely leave if something goes wrong or if the man who came to the date turns out to be someone completely different from whom he claimed to be. If you suddenly agree to his persuasion and go to his house to see his collection of Hawaiian cigars, be prepared that you will be shown more than just those. Furthermore, all your future meetings will be dedicated to getting acquainted with other attractions of his home.

Rules for a Successful Date

3. Let go of expectations. You should go on a date with only one goal: to have a good and fun time. It seems like you want to say something like: "What if I don't like him?!" Your task is to like yourself! Everything else shouldn't bother you, including his not-so-refined manners. That's his problem, isn't it?! In this mindset, you're content, calm, and relaxed. And that's what it takes to impress a man. You like yourself, and the man likes you. Does it feel like a secret formula for a successful date, and not just that?! Use it to your and the man's advantage!

Rules for a Successful Date

4. "Too good is also not good." A date is not the event in life where you need to look "like a million." There is an exception to this rule: if your companion is a millionaire and has invited you to dinner at an exclusive restaurant where the rich and famous hang out. In all other cases, it will be sufficient if you look slightly better than usual. This will save you from unnecessary stress and stiffness.

Rules for a Successful Date

5. It's not an exam. A date is not an exam where you have to prove to the examiner how good you are at a certain subject. You have been invited on a date. And that means you're already good just the way you are! This is the main and necessary condition not only to have a good time but also ... to make a man fall in love with you! Because that's exactly what you want, isn't it?!

A Hidden Corner

It's essential to have your own 'hidden corner', your personal space where we gather strength, can be in silence, and recover. This is a 'magical place' where no one else is allowed... Such a 'place' shouldn't become a permanent refuge separating us from everyone, but it can be a magic wand that helps us empty ourselves out, to then be filled again. There is always a 'place' where it's warm in any weather. It could be a home, a person, music, or a 'corner' inside you. Go there when you feel tired, when you simply need to relax and gather strength, warmth... And having gathered strength and warmed yourself, be able to warm those who come to you seeking warmth.

10 Steps to Uniqueness

If you are tired of going with the flow and feel your life lacks excitement – it’s time to stray from the mediocre path and walk the trail of uniqueness. This is not easy, but within everyone's power. The main thing is to desire and to start. How to do this - Jon Acuff, a person long on first-name terms with uniqueness, will guide you. 1. Find the mediocrity. Decided to break up with mediocrity? Great. The first step is to find it. Look at which areas of your life are 'weak'? Write them down. This will soon come in handy.

10 Steps to Uniqueness

2. Ruthless honesty with yourself. Embark on the path of change — abandon self-deception and sweet illusions. Look straight at yourself: Who are you? You can start with social roles: son, father, brother, relative. Decided? Now think about what might hold you back or limit you - mortgage, loans, or maybe military obligations. Ready? Now comes the pleasant stage of reflection — think about your achievements and advantages (count everything, even an honorary certificate from a dog breeder club). Honest and detailed answers will reveal a clear picture of your life.

10 Steps to Uniqueness

3. Dream boldly. Let the future not intimidate you. Do not listen to the inner voice if it insists that you will never be a great musician and that playing the bongos is a waste of time (the inner voice loves to convince us of the unattainability of our desires). Dream, write down all your incredible wishes. In the coming weeks, you will make a good hundred steps towards your dreams.

10 Steps to Remarkableness

4. Seek balance. There will be no easy path to remarkableness. Do not wait. However, there will always be a contradiction between life realities (point 2) and crazy dreams (point 3). Acknowledge this and stick to the 'golden mean' - do not immerse yourself in worries, forgetting about yourself, and do not become selfish by focusing solely on personal desires.

10 Steps to Exceptionalism

5. The goal is not the final destination of the journey. Trying to find your purpose in life is one of the most thankless tasks. And if you think that life’s purpose should be singular, that you must determine it in your youth, or that the goal will give life meaning - you risk getting stuck in the mire of mediocrity forever. Forget about finding your purpose. It's an endless process that will deplete you. Instead, live with purpose. Do what you consider important, what brings you satisfaction.