The Desire to Have vs. the Desire to Be

There is a wonderful proverb: Everyone wants to have a friend, but not everyone wants to be one. Nowadays, we often find ourselves in the mindset of wanting to have. We want to have children instead of wanting to be mothers, we want to have husbands instead of wanting to be wives, and so on. These nuances of language reflect a person's attitude towards life, their motto: either I exist for someone, or someone exists for me... In our desire to possess, we break lives, shatter hearts, and suffer from loneliness... A person who possesses will always find what they have to be insufficient. Not enough money, not enough power, not enough wives, not enough friends, not enough joy, not enough of oneself. The consumer, lacking their own essence, consists of what they possess.

Feminine Tenderness towards Men in their Family

Feminine tenderness towards men in their family - husband, father, son. Try not to shout, raise your voice, argue, prove... Avoid these things. Smile. Smile even when it's difficult. Let your man not see gloominess on your face. Fix his clothes when he's about to leave. Even if they fit him perfectly, just give them a touch, adjusting. It's not just about the adjustment itself, it's important to show your attitude. Embrace him. Embrace him often. When he arrives, when he leaves, when he stands, when he sits. Of course, it's important not to overdo it, but you will see for yourself based on the situation. Say that you love him (father, husband, brother, son, grandson, dear uncle, nephew), and that he is very valuable to you. When he leaves, escort him to the door, hold his belongings while he puts on his shoes, wish him a safe journey, and close the door behind him. Compliment him and support him in noble pursuits.

The Strength and Resilience of Women

Dear, do not forget that you are an incredibly strong woman. You are capable of overcoming any difficulties that come your way. Your strength lies not in physical power, but in your resilience, ability to rise after a fall, and belief in yourself. You can be alone, but it does not mean you are lonely. Do not be afraid to be yourself, to embrace your feelings and emotions. Take care of yourself and remember that you are unique and irreplaceable!

The Power of 12 Minutes: How Love Takes Hold

12 minutes - that's exactly how long it takes for a person to fall in love! German scientists conducted a study, which revealed that it takes us about 12 minutes to experience the feeling of being in love. It is during this time frame that our brain forms an image of the person, their scent, and communication style.

The Power of Compliments: Strengthening Relationships

Make compliments to your loved ones. Remind them of how much they mean to you. Express what qualities in them are attractive to you, what traits you find special and wonderful. Not only will this make both you and your loved one feel good, but it will also bring you closer and help the person feel how important they are to you. Do you often give compliments to others?

Before you take a step

When a man leaves, he will still make himself known, or occasionally remind others of his presence. If a woman leaves, it's forever. They don't come back. She will feel bad, it will be awful, but she will endure. That's why I would like men to remember this before taking important steps in their lives. I have managed to temporarily bring back those who have left. Using various tricks and stratagems that I am capable of. But only their body returned, still desiring me. Their soul and heart, however, have gone forever. Eyes filled with emptiness and a glassy gaze. All movements on autopilot.

The True Strength of a Man

A man should know how to cherish his woman like a child. When she faces difficulties, problems, or sadness, he should not lecture her or leave her alone with pain and fears. He should hold her tightly to his chest, so she feels she is not alone, that she is protected. This will alleviate her worries and fears. She will never take this for granted, she will cherish it. She will never betray or turn away from this kind of man. Women are weak, very weak. Do not believe in this feminist nonsense. If you see a strong woman, know that she simply has not yet met her MAN!

Take Action to Overcome Apathy and Depression

Take action! Apathy and depressive state can be eliminated through action. When you start acting, the flow of intention is initiated, similar to magnetic induction. You are like a pure, fast, powerful mountain river. You are capable of moving mountains! All it takes is to switch into this active mode and start acting!!!

Riding the Waves

Relationships can be compared to waves in the sea. These waves represent your emotions, the ups and downs in relationships. Some waves last only a few hours, while others last several months or even years. The key is to remember that these waves themselves hardly reflect the quality of the relationships. They are influenced by the difficulties we encounter in our lives: loss or change of job, relocation, financial problems. And if you can catch these waves together, overcoming them will be much easier.

The Simplest Way to Lose a Loving Woman

The simplest way to lose a loving woman is to try to break her, manipulate her feelings, make her cry, and cause pain. She will endure and forgive for a long time, but one day someone will appear in her life who, through the pain you caused, will make her smile. And then, he will occupy all her thoughts, and later, her heart. You see, love can be killed, no matter how boundless it may seem to you. A woman can forgive you endlessly only in two cases: either she is your mother or she is a fool. In all other cases, you will simply lose her once!

The Importance of Touch in Expressing Love

Touch each other. Even if one of you is not accustomed to expressing love in this way. Incorporate rituals of hugs and touches - it is important for both you and your children. Just hold hands, embrace each other, or gently stroke each other's backs - any tactile contact is highly important!

The Importance of Attention in Relationships

Attention is everything. Many people believe that love fades away due to the difficult nature of partners or unworthy actions. But that's not entirely true. The main problem lies in the lack of attention from one of the partners. A person who doesn't receive enough attention starts feeling hurt and suffering. And if the partner doesn't start giving attention again, their behavior will lead to a break-up. A woman should always be ready to listen to her partner. And a man is obligated to involve her in an interesting process, in motion.

The Unspoken Language of Human Emotions

In fact, people feel everything. They always know when they are loved and accepted, and when they are not. They sense when they are needed, missed, and wanted to be seen, and they also always perceive the moment when they cease to be important in someone's life. They have the ability to read what is hidden behind words, to see indifference behind a friendly smile, and to recognize love behind apparent indifference. People feel everything. But they will never say it...

Losing Ourselves in Relationships: The Importance of Self-Care

How we lose ourselves in relationships. Sometimes it seems to us that loving someone means completely dissolving in that person, but self-sacrifice often lies at the core of codependent relationships and different forms of violence. We forget about our own interests. Harmonious relationships are not about dominance and submission. It is a union of two complete individuals, each with their own interests, desires, and goals. But if one partner consistently gives up their desires for the sake of the other, it's already a warning sign. Such a person may even sacrifice their career, forget about their favorite hobbies, and other important things to them. Don't forget about yourself, try to find time for your own desires too.

What can I do with other people?

Nothing. But I can choose not to share secrets with those who spill them. I can avoid being where I'm not welcome and where I'm made to feel small. I can stop expecting anything from those who have made no promises and from those who are unable or unwilling to give anything. I can refuse to help those who turn my voluntary assistance into my immediate obligation. I can avoid building relationships with those who break me in the process. I can refrain from associating with those who manage to consume my emotions and nerves within an hour. I can disregard those who have devalued me. And I can choose not to love those who feed off my love.

Building Plans Together

Build plans together. We are all very busy with life, and sometimes it seems like the whole world is trying to keep you away from your husband. But instead of looking for someone to blame or putting it all on work, plan time together. Let it start with one evening a week when you will definitely set aside all your tasks and be alone together. Then, more and more. It can be at least 10 minutes with a cup of coffee in the morning, but if it becomes a joint habit, it's already a plus. It is also helpful to know each other's schedules, what you have planned, to support each other on important days.

Why Do People Blink Frequently?

Frequent blinking is a sign of anxiety. Some individuals start blinking rapidly when they feel nervous. As most people strive to establish eye contact, your nervousness becomes evident to others. Be aware of when you start to worry and blink, especially if you are in close proximity to a conversation partner.

The Claim for Exclusion

Deep down, we all believe that we have grounds to be resentful towards fate and nature for the damage caused to us, both innate and inflicted during childhood; we all demand compensation for the insults inflicted on our self-esteem in our youth. From this stems the claim for exclusion, the right to disregard the doubts and fears that hold back other people. Sigmund Freud.

From Love to Hate: The Disillusionment

One step from love to hate. But why? Why can we suddenly start to hate a person whom just a couple of weeks ago we couldn't imagine our life without? It's very simple, we get DISILLUSIONED. The reasons can be serious, obvious, such as betrayal, or sometimes we are just powerless, looking at the person and saying: why did I love him?! It hurts and offends us that we gave our love to the wrong person, that's the whole reason.

The Meaning of Happiness

Do you know what happiness means? It's not something you should wait for your whole life, and it doesn't necessarily require earning millions. Happiness is when life gives you all the chances, and you make the most of them. Value those who are by your side. Any difficulties present us with a lesson, open our eyes, and provide food for thought. Look around. Who asks you every day how you are? Who, knowing that you're in a bad mood, tries to lift it and calm you down? Who can chat with you for hours on end? Hug them tighter.