The beginning of self-development.

The beginning of self-development often stems from our feeling that something must change, something that has always needed us to work on and improve, that feeling that something is not going well, this may be the absence of a specific goal that you want to reach or perhaps not The ability to express your opinions and thoughts because of your lack of self-confidence.

Learn body language according to psychology

1- Lifting the eyebrow: Raising the eyebrows indicates discomfort, surprise, or fear of people. 2- The smile: The smile is real when wrinkles appear around the eyes, but if those wrinkles do not appear, this indicates that the smile is fake and unreal. 3- Laughter: A person who responds with humor and laughter indicates that he likes the person he is talking to, and wants to build a relationship with him, whether it is a casual or romantic relationship. 4- Interlacing the legs: Psychologically, cross-legged movement indicates that a person is not open emotionally, mentally, and physically, which means that they are less likely to change their mind in negotiations and conversations. 5- Exaggerated gestures: When you tell someone something and they nod excessively, it means that they are worried about what you think of them or doubt their ability to follow your instructions.” 6- Walking: Extension of the footsteps, erect stature, moving the shoulders and raising the head when walking, all are signs of strength, confidence, greatness and attractiveness in your personality, so try to clothe your gait with them.

How beautiful is the stage of maturity that you reach

When you do not care about the late reply and do not care about knowing anything about anyone and you are not curious to know something that does not belong to you, you reach to be satisfied with yourself, your family and your close friends, and that your relationship is limited with people and you do not feel your need to justify and do not wait for excuses or anything else.

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO REACH YOUR HUSBAND?

In fact, men love to be asked for help. It's just that the whole problem is in the "spoiled phone". Women don't convey their requests correctly. Their biggest mistake is the desire for a man to understand everything without words. Another misconception of women: "He must help me, because we are now a couple / spouses." And this very “should” becomes a stumbling block in all emerging issues. Whatever the request is about - money or household chores, it is important to ASK, and not present. Some ladies prefer to "nag". Others put pressure on pity, posing as a victim. Still others are generally silent and wait for the weather by the sea.

"I" - MESSAGES

When we want to express our dissatisfaction with a partner, it is advisable to talk about our feelings, and not about his behavior. Don't say, "You broke my favorite cup, how could you?!" Better to replace: “When you broke my cup, I was very upset - I liked it so much.” When you talk about yourself, you move the interlocutor from the position of the accused to a position where you can show sympathy, admit that you were wrong yourself, or offer to correct the situation.

HOW THE RELATIONSHIP OF A MAN AND A WOMAN IS ORGANIZED

The main function of a woman in a relationship is not soup and cleaning, as it might seem, and not even the birth of children, but first of all, the inspiration of her man. It is the woman who gives the energy that encourages him to work, perform feats, develop and move on. On this energy, he can work for the good of the family, protect his woman and children, realize himself professionally and spiritually. As a rule, at the beginning of the novel, there are no problems with this. Both man and woman show their best qualities, and everything functions as if by itself. But in an established relationship, a man eventually begins to miss the most important thing - inspiration. And then he can start - no, not necessarily cheating, but interested in other women.

WHY SHOULD A WOMAN TEACH FEMININENESS?

The woman is out of touch with her femininity. He does not know how to attract the attention of a man, to interest him and arouse a desire to care. Such a woman hardly understands herself. Desires, for example, of romance and being behind a man with the fear of never getting it, struggle in it. And she convinces herself that this is all for chickens. Envy and devalues ​​those who can afford it all. It is difficult for her to succeed. Spends energy to prove that she is no worse than men. It develops aggression, rigidity, cynicism. The way of life is changing. More masculine activities, masculine energy, maybe smoking, stress, struggle, including with your nature.

Nothing will be the same

We must adapt to the rapidly changing reality. But the stress makes it harder. I suggest you learn a technique that will help you pull yourself together. Exercise: "being a bystander" Imagine yourself as an outsider in this situation. Look at yourself from a different perspective, as if you are a character in a movie. In no case should you get involved, you have to make sure you’re not under any stress. Just observe the situation: who is involved in the conflict, how they behave, what they’re saying. The main thing is to remain a silent spectator, an observer. If necessary, mentally build a barrier in front of you that will not allow you to plunge into conflict again.

The «What if I died right now?» guilt trip manipulation

Says, for example, your mother. Is that supposed to be a joke? Well, it’s not funny at all. In fact, it’s a very common type of manipulation. With a very difficult internal decision to make as a result - to go along with it! A sense of duty and a sense of guilt will follow, planted in the brain by an experienced adult in the most subtle way. What is bad about such a relationship? Exhausting megatons of your energy. These relationships last for decades. Some children were "lucky" to grow up in such an environment. How to fix this? To begin with, understand that this is pure manipulation. And since there is no way to distance yourself from the object (it’s your mother for crying out loud), then start changing your attitude to the situation. Do not react, rather ignore her statements. It’s important to ignore such behavior METHODICALLY.

Love should be earned

What does that mean? A person in a relationship begins to "pay" with his health, do more than he wants, expect reward, sacrifice, give the clothes off their backs. Why does this happen? Most often, this is not a sign of great love or devotion, but a sign of approaching childhood trauma and codependent relationships. This person is reminded how, as a child, they could not just get love and so they paid with themselves, their body, desires or emotions to earn love, because children have nothing but that. Nothing to pay with but yourself. And that’s monstrous.

People are not born evil

Experience makes them evil.⠀ Experience hurts and scars people, causing them to see danger everywhere. Experience dictates what good is, which often does not coincide with our understanding of it. Experience dictates a certain form of love, but sometimes this form does not suit us at all. In many ways, experience shapes consciousness. Together it’s a lot more than we inherent from mother nature.⠀

What makes a good parent?

Firstly, the ability to restrain as well as restrain oneself. Don’t bite the bullet, rather refrain from expressive emotions to avoid interrupting communication. Secondly, it’s understanding why we are making this or that decision. Why do we forbid, why do we make mistakes. Understanding how our decisions will affect the character and fate of our child. Thirdly, the ability to clearly distinguish between the boundary of your desires and the desires of the child. For example, you were engaged in hockey, but for a number of reasons did not achieve the desired results. And so you shift your hockey dreams onto the head of your own son. And he, by the way, dreams of playing the guitar.

Developing communication skills

Everyone knows how important it is to be a good speaker. So, let's go straight to the tips that will help improve your communication skills: ℹ️ Show initiative. Don't be shy about making contact first. If you want a conversation, just start it. ℹ️ Be open-minded. Don't be afraid to show your emotions and thoughts, because with openness you are more likely to find good friends. ℹ️ Listen without interrupting. It's a very simple tip, but many people forget about it anyway. Listening without interrupting is a good way to understand others and match them.

How to build resilience?

There are situations in life when there is too much stress and you need to be able to be resilient to it, otherwise the end will be dire. Here are 2 tips that can help to improve your stress tolerance: Mental attitude. Stress release depends on our thoughts among other things. It's important to be on the positive side, then the release of the stress hormone will be less. Tea. Tea contains L-theanine. This unique amino acid fills our body with energy and boosts our stress tolerance.

Trauma - what is it and where does it come from

Trauma is caused by a disturbing stressful event which we cannot cope with. But life is impossible without stress. The first stress a person experiences while being born, and according to some reports, even earlier - in the womb. And over the course of life, the number of stressful situations naturally increases. At the same time, it can improve or ruin one's stress tolerance. Whether an experience becomes a useful lesson or a trauma depends not only on the scale of the stressful situation, but also on the capacity of the person's mental health at any given moment, as well as on the support that the person receives during or after the traumatic event.

How to come up with new ideas

Many people think that this is some kind of talent or phenomenon, but that’s actually not true. Here we will tell you about the ways that will help your brain come up with cool new ideas: Welcome silly ideas. The reason for fear and creative block is that you expect brilliant ideas right away. It doesn't happen that way. Always fight for quantity, form and link associations. Write down your idea immediately. As soon as you have an idea, immediately write it down in a diary, record it on a dictaphone or save it in your notes. Be grateful for the ideas. If you get a new idea, thank yourself for it. It seems silly, but it works.

Rate your self-confidence out of 9 on the Confident Attributes Scale

1- Express your point of view clearly 2- Speak out loud 3- Attending events with enthusiasm 4- The ability to deliver in front of a group of people 5- Accept criticism 6- Admitting a mistake 7- Helping others 8- Mention the characteristics of those around you 9- Not feeling inferior in front of anyone

Start enjoying what you already have

The problem with many people is that they are sure they will be happy when they reach a certain level in life, and they determine this level from more affluent relatives, colleagues, acquaintances, or even from movie images. They spend time and effort to reach this level, and when they reach the goal, it turns out that there are more well-to-do idols to strive for. In the end, they spend their whole lives in a duel with someone else's shadow, instead of daily enjoying their lives.

The family is preserved as long as it is the woman who wants it.

That's how long she can endure, stretch, survive, so much time the family will last. A woman wants to belong to one, but to please everyone. A man wants to have everyone, but that one belongs only to him. The law of strong relationships is simple: men must act, women must inspire. The less you love a woman, the more other men she has. A man takes care of a woman for a short time, and a woman takes care of a man for the rest of her life. Among males, a woman becomes a bitch. Among idiots - an ulcer. If you want a real woman next to you, stay a real man. A loving man will never leave a woman. But a woman can leave ... Even if it is difficult for her to breathe without him. He leaves, picking himself up piece by piece. He will leave, having tasted in full his indifference and neglect. She will leave, even if she loves her very much. Let not immediately, even gradually, but she will leave him ... A woman always leaves the one who does not know how to take care of her.

MISTAKES IN THE BEGINNING OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Sit in the house and wait for the man to do everything himself. He will come, he will save, he will prove, he will conquer. Relationships are a story about two people. • To see in a man a support, a savior who will finally relieve loneliness and other problems. • Hang in expectations and fantasies. And get upset when things don't go according to plan. • Self-initiate and impose because of impatience. Getting close too fast. Get closer physically faster than personal interest, emotions arise. These mistakes lead to the fact that either the interest of a man goes out when he invests, or does not have time to grow when a woman is ahead of events.