Watch yourself

Watch your thoughts - they become words. Watch your words - they become actions. Watch your actions - they become habits. Watch your habits - they become character. Watch your character - it determines your destiny.

Don't waste your time, please

You know what? Don't waste your time, please. One day you will wake up to 67 year old grandparents who regret their boring past and that they lived for someone else. Take care of yourself, spend money on things that make you happy. Be with those who really care about you. Travel. Don't let a job or a person tie you to one city. Be free. Be wild. Live fast. Enjoy life.

6 undeniable truths about "personal development".

1. Acquired knowledge does not guarantee that you will grow and develop, the main thing is the ability to apply them. 2. A good idea without action is nothing. 3. Opportunities should not be sought, but created. 4. 10% of our lives are affected by uncontrollable circumstances, and the remaining 90% are affected by how we respond to these circumstances. 5. What we don't start today can't be finished tomorrow, so there's never a need to delay. 6. Waiting for ideal conditions in order to exercise your plans, you may end up with nothing.

Important thoughts from Jack London's book Martin Eden

1. Never give up, even if the whole world is against you. 2. Learn something new every day 3. You can be happy without money. 4. Appreciate those who were with you before your success. 5. Money will not bring happiness.

Feel confident

Dare to let go. People, interests, experience. All this gives confidence: when you say goodbye to what you no longer need, irrelevant, you begin to look forward to new perspectives and new changes in life. Do not gossip, discuss or judge others. Do not look for flaws in others - work on your own, only then you can raise your self-esteem. Don't waste time discussing someone else's life. Focus on yourself. It will be a smarter investment of time and energy. Respond appropriately to failures and mistakes. Yes, it's upsetting, yes, it's unsettling. But this is not a reason to give up, give up and doubt yourself. Try again and again. Everything that happens helps to reconsider views, form an opinion, learn new things and, perhaps, turn on a really right path. Stop being afraid of mistakes - if they happen, then this is a sign that something in your life needs to be changed for the better. When you love yourself, you attract more. You let the world around you know that you deserve the best by treating yourself well. It all starts with how you feel about yourself. Feel worthy. Feel special. Feel like you deserve better. And then it will definitely happen to you.

Morning evenings are more productive

We complete complex tasks in the morning! Each of us has unpleasant, but obligatory routine affairs. Most often, we postpone them until later, sometimes completely forgetting and receiving a comment from the management. How to overcome laziness in this case? You still have to deal with these cases, but in order to do it as flexibly as possible for yourself, we determine the morning hours for such cases. Especially if the task is mechanical in nature, for example, to organize the documentation according to a certain criterion. In the morning, the brain performs such tasks easier and faster. In addition, after successfully completing a boring task, we feel an additional burst of energy and enthusiastically proceed to the rest of the cases.

Humor as a "coach" of the speed of thinking

A sense of humor is always associated with a high speed of response to a situation. Plus, the ability to see a non-obvious contradiction and designate it in the most vivid and precise formulations is connected here. All this together is the speed of thinking. I recommend that you read as many humorous stories as possible and watch funny drawings. It is important not only to read or memorize witty anecdotes, drawings, but also to strive to understand what is the essence of the joke, why does it cause laughter? Do this regularly to enhance the effect. Let's have fun and enjoy!

How to quarrel properly?

"Here and now" In order to discuss claims and not quarrel, it is important to do it on time. People forget the details of events, emotions subside, and then another person comes and begins to recall what happened six months ago. "Baton on club" Words can be compared to a tool, the same club. When a person beats a loved one with a baton, he should be ready to receive a baton in response, because the other also needs to defend himself. "Five Minute" At times like these, it’s great to give yourself a break—a few minutes by yourself.

ART therapy

A very popular direction in psychological therapy is ART therapy. The ART therapy technique is based on the installation: When the content of the inner "I" of each person is reflected in certain visual images. This technique makes it possible for a person to express these images through work with paints, which harmonizes our psyche very much. There is a list of indications for which ART therapy will be extremely useful: fears, phobias, difficulties in emotional development, depression, impulsiveness of emotional reactions, feelings of loneliness, interpersonal conflicts, emotional burnout, dissatisfaction with family relationships and much more. In general, each of us has a reason to take up brushes. And it really works great.

Don't be afraid to say no

The next time you have a new opportunity or someone asks for a favor, think twice before making a commitment. If you feel you must agree, decide what you will have to give up in return. When choosing between two options, remember that there is always a third - do nothing. And in most cases, it's best to just say "no" to both sentences.

Rethink negative situations

We all fail at times. But leaders don't let failure stop them. Instead, they rethink the situation and try to look at it differently. It is better to think about how to fix the situation and avoid failure next time than to spend time thinking about what you did wrong and beating yourself up for mistakes.

"Reformulate" technique

One of the most common problems in time management is the so-called “stuck” tasks, that is, those tasks that are chronically not completed. The idea is this: Change the wording of the task so as to increase the chances of its completion. For this technique to work, you need to understand why the task is “stuck”. Most often we deal with four situations: Situation 1. Large or complex task (split). Situation 2. Unpleasant and difficult tasks (simplify). Situation 3. Fuzzy task (specify). Situation 4. Unpreparedness for the task (prepare). Advice Flag stuck tasks. Each time you reschedule a task for tomorrow, add a checkmark to it. A task that is often delayed will soon begin to “signal” that something is wrong with it and that the “reframe” technique needs to be applied.

"Yes, I can"

Make "Yes, I can" an integral part of life Do you want to become a famous actor, a cool musician or an accomplished businessman? Imagine that you have already reached the top. If something bothers you, get rid of it at the level of thoughts, try to change your thinking. Then tell yourself more often: “I can do it!”. These two components will remove the barrier in your head, and you will understand that everything is possible! Everything starts with thoughts.

Task filtering

Our daily plans can include dozens of tasks related to work, home or self-development at once. And that's okay. However, the longer our to-do list gets, the harder it gets to work with. This list creates a lot of problems: ▪️It is difficult to immediately find the right tasks in it. ▪️We are distracted by things that we absolutely do not need now. ▪️A large list gives us "mental discomfort". Too many things are always stressful. Fortunately, all of these problems are easily solved with one very simple trick. Leave on your list only those tasks that you are going to do right now. Pros: ▪️We no longer need to “look out” for the necessary tasks, because now we only see them. ▪️We are no longer distracted by extraneous tasks, because they are simply not on our list. ▪️Our initial list has become smaller and "less stressful".

Which side of the triangle are you on?

Imagine that a triangle is drawn on the floor of your room. Each of its peaks has its own name: 1st corner - financial result 2nd corner - recognition of others 3rd corner - own growth Think about what is really important to you and stand on these peaks. You can stand on one corner, you can take 2 at once, but you won’t be able to stand on all corners at the same time. You're not a centipede, you only have 2 legs, right? Therefore, it is better to focus on one or two indicators in order to accurately achieve a good result.

Keep track of your every thought, which contains criticism, evaluation, condemnation, and so on

Let's say you're walking down the street and you see a woman in ridiculous clothes, then instead of thinking about how you could choose your wardrobe and combine things, think of, say, 5 compliments addressed to her. Or any reason to look like that. Perhaps she is such a creative person that others will pick up her idea and will also be happy to dress like that. Or maybe they called her in the morning and told the sad news, and it was not at all up to thinking what clothes to choose. The main thing is not to jump out of the house naked in a panic. By learning to think without judgment, it will be easier for you to accept not only the world around you as it is, but also yourself. And this will add completely different colors to life, enliven it and make it more saturated.

Psychological age

Under psychological age, it is customary to understand a person’s ability to realize his “I” in the world around him, a person’s subjective feeling of his age, the correspondence of a person’s actions and behavior to socially expected patterns for his age. Simply put, if you sincerely believe that your age and what you should be doing at your age is solely a problem of the conservative thinking of others, you are very young at heart. If you are clearly sure that modern music is no good, today's cinema has fallen below the plinth, and "it's cold in sneakers in winter" - with a high degree of probability your psychological age is older than your passport. Of course, unless you recently celebrated your 80th birthday and live somewhere in the Arctic.

Development of discipline

Discipline is based on HABITS. That is, on the almost unconscious repetition of any actions. But this does not mean that discipline is the mindless following of a conventional plan. To implement it, you just need to turn on the brain and consciously control yourself. As long as you mentally force or motivate yourself to EVERY action you need, it will be very easy to break loose. It will be more effective to take simple steps "on the machine", that is, simply because you have decided to do them in advance.

Visualization

To properly use the visualization technique, follow this pattern: - Take a comfortable position of the body and close your eyes. - Imagine that you are in a calm and pleasant place where you can easily relax. - Maintain the visual image and focus on feeling relaxed. Detail the image, presenting it in all its details (the sound of the waves or the singing of birds). Feeling that it is not possible to plunge deeper into the state, begin to slowly return to the real world. Open your eyes and breathe slowly for a few minutes.

Planning technique

The essence of the technique is that you consider your whole life as a whole and build all your plans and actions on a solid basis of individual principles. The foundation of the pyramid is your core values ​​in life. "Who do I want to become in this life, what do I plan to achieve?" - answer this question first Global goals and a plan to achieve them are fixing specific "milestones" on your way to the implementation of the first point (foundation) A long-term plan is a division of global goals into sub-items: for example, in a year you plan to increase earnings by 50%, in 2 years - by another 50%, etc.