Advice on how to deal with rejection from girls

It's all about the right attitude. If you are faced with a rejection, this is not a defeat and not a “marker” of the fact that you are such a man. When a girl says no, she doesn't reject the guy as a person. She knows him for ONE minute - how can there be such a thing? There is a huge possibility that the girl is simply not ready for dating and there are life circumstances that affect such a mood. Anyone who accepts rejection personally is an egoist. The whole world does not revolve around you and for this reason the girl's attitude towards you has no existential meaning. Be ready for rejection, but also charge yourself for accepting reciprocal sympathy - that's all.

The female trap we all love to fall into...

"Well, tell me the truth! I, honestly, will not be angry / offended / condemned " Oooh guys it's a trap. Maybe after what she heard, the girl will not openly demonstrate her reaction, but inside ... She will make natural conclusions for herself - exactly those that you were so afraid of. So, lie in those moments when your honesty is not critical, but can have such consequences. This advice is especially relevant when it comes to past relationships ...

Take off the label

The best way to overcome weaknesses is to stop thinking they exist. We are often our own worst enemies. Therefore, first of all, silence that inner voice that constantly whispers that you are not given to become a leader. Remember: • Absolutely everyone is nervous before speaking in public. • We all make mistakes. • Every leader has situations in which he feels vulnerable. So just accept it.

Persistence

Our character is tempered in really unpleasant situations. It is important to anticipate and accept such situations in advance, because emotions only aggravate the situation. Train your mind and control instinctive reactions - this will allow you not to bring the situation to a critical point.

Make yourself your project

We are arranged in such a way that we are more often ready to treat other people's tasks more responsibly than our own. For example, before the arrival of guests in some apartments there is a hell of a general cleaning, which people have not done for their own sake for years. Therefore, become your own producer, treat yourself as a business project. Do you want to be an actor or dream of a new job, a bigger apartment, losing eight kilograms - no matter what goal you cannot start moving towards. As soon as you create a project out of yourself, you magically change the attitude towards your own tasks. The project is no longer you, but the real work. It's a matter that needs to be handled responsibly.

Be (a little) selfish

Although we are accustomed to perceive selfishness as an exclusively negative quality, it is absolutely necessary for the recognition of our own worth. After all, self-respect and understanding are at the heart of recognizing one's significance, one's experience. So if you want to increase your motivation, don't try to force yourself. On the contrary, you need to stop, listen to yourself, understand why one inspires you, and the other discourages you from acting. And don't forget: no one is holding you back but yourself.

Limit doubt before it limits you

If you are planning to do something seriously, then get rid of doubts and self-doubt. When people created art, technical masterpieces and ingenious inventions, they did not let doubts take over their minds. Do not hesitate, when the opportunity arises, when you feel the momentum, when your inner voice pushes you forward - take action. This is your task. This is all that is required of you. You need not to hope, but to know that it will be the way you want. Know how twice two makes four. Without doubts and fears.

Forget everything bad.

One of the most useful life skills is the ability to quickly forget all the bad things: do not dwell on troubles, do not live with resentment, do not revel in irritation, do not harbor anger. Do not drag different rubbish into your soul.

Little things...

How important they are in everyday life. Nothing can replace the reverent attitude to what you love so much. And he knows it. Remembers. You see, someone may not notice expensive gifts every day, but nothing compares to a spontaneous holiday if you are sad; flowers to make you smile; pills if you are sick. Little things... They are what make us so happy! Little things he remembers. Do you remember. Do you remember.

Understanding and sympathy.

And no matter how great the passion, if there is no sympathy and understanding between two people, one day everything will go to hell. Even if you burn in a fire of love from one look at each other, and your heart turns into a melted piece of wax from one favorite voice, even if millions of goosebumps begin to feverishly run across the expanses of your skin from just a light touch of your favorite fingers ... But if you bad, but the partner does not feel it, if you are on different waves of mood so much that there is no support when it is painfully necessary ...

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens

A good marriage must be created. Within the bounds of married life, small things become big things. It's never too late to hold hands. Say "I love you" at least once a day. Do not go to bed in a quarrel. Under no circumstances take each other's actions for granted; courtship doesn't have to end with the honeymoon; they must last a lifetime. Same goals and common goals.

He flirts with you: 5 sure signs.

• Open and relaxed posture. If a man is relaxed and does not cross his arms in front of him, this means confidence and an invitation to communication. • Maximization of space. Men who take up more space with their postures and gestures appear to be more attractive. This sign suggests dominance and makes a man more visible among everyone else. • Confident and calm demeanor. Smooth movements and a calm tone of voice mean that a man is in good control of himself and broadcasts to you that it is safe next to him. • Compliments. The most obvious sign of flirting: a man praises you. Noting your beauty, style, taste in the choice of drinks or food, he says: “I like the way you are. You suit me". • Positivity. He is in high spirits and tries to make you laugh. He watches your reaction to himself and may even blush and be embarrassed when he sees your smile.

Parting with a girl

Everything that has a beginning has an end. Therefore, it's time to discuss one of the most unpleasant options for developing a relationship with a girl when she initiated a breakup. This happens if the guy did not pay attention to the signs of a drop in her interest in time: - More frequent phrases about "I have things to do"; - More frequent vacation with girlfriends; — Termination of informing about their actions; - Ignoring your opinion. And so on - this is only a small part of all the signs. Yes, they sound very "authoritarian" in relation to girls, but that's how it works. So what do you do after a breakup? Realize that now you can spend time and other resources not on a girl, but on YOURSELF. Yes, there is no magic pill. This is the fastest way to get out of this swamp of feelings and empty thoughts about parting.

Discipline is the engine of your success

How many talented people bury their talents in the ground due to lack of discipline and routine. Have you experienced similar? If not, I am very happy for you - you will definitely succeed. But if so... Here are some tips. 1. Daily routine is a really important part of success. Make a schedule so that it matches your life priorities and is close to your goals. 2. Go in for sports. It helps to cultivate willpower in ourselves, thanks to which we reach heights. 3. Rule 40%. This is the amount of result you need to achieve in order to gain motivation to move on. Did something at 40%? Finishing off the remaining 20, and then another 20, and another 20 will not be difficult!) 4. Refusal from habitual. Do you want to change your life? Change your habits. And don't expect it to be easy. Strength in overcoming!

SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY IN MEN

Due to low self-esteem, he sees life in gray and black colors. An emotionally unstable man, of course, can experience positive emotions, but quickly catches on and begins to look for negative moments in what happened. He approached the relationship with you, having a negative experience of novels. One of the main signs of an unstable weak-willed man is his enchanting ability to find relationships where he will play the role of an interior element. He has habits that make you anxious For example, overeating or a tendency to wash down all your problems with a glass of something stronger. Only in this way will his condition return to calm and comfortable. With an emotionally unstable man, you will get tired of his constant mood swings. It's like walking through a minefield, each time risking blown up and incurring negativity from your partner.

Success is not a roulette wheel

Success is a consistent sequence of your actions, your choices and decisions. And those that you take literally every day. On the way to success, the first thing you should pay attention to is your environment. Friends are not chosen - a cliché imposed by the lazy part of society. Friends are still chosen! Think for yourself, is it possible for you to achieve your goals if you constantly surround yourself with whiners or lazy people? Of course not! After all, with them you will either complain about life, or compare yourself with others, discuss the life of others, but at the same time not improve your own. The environment raises a person to a certain level, or lowers him below the plinth. If you have seriously decided that you want to be a successful person, then reconsider your environment. Analyze what you get from interacting with people and how you feel when you are around them. The ideal option is to surround yourself with strong personalities who motivate you.

Another secret to success lies in your head

Or rather, in the habit of thinking in a certain way, thinking in such a way as to set yourself up for great results. Your opponent in this is negative beliefs. But we will stick to a cunning tactic, because we know that we also need to accept the negative, and not panic and try to completely exclude it from our thoughts. Step by step, you can change negative attitudes to positive ones. Only if you follow your thoughts! The easiest way to do this is through meditation, where you allow the flow of thoughts to flow. With daily practice, negative thoughts go away by themselves.

Fear or Opportunity?

Fears are an adequate reaction of the body to something new, to something that once caused unpleasant consequences, or to something that directly or indirectly threatens a person’s life. But there are fears that just need to be overcome. For example, if you have an idea, but to realize it, you lack the courage, and therefore perseverance. It is behind such fears that your invaluable potential lies. The organism never generates ideas for the implementation of which it would not have enough resources. Our thoughts are not random. Think about what opportunities will open up for you after overcoming fear. Represented? Now act!

Use knowledge!

How to win any dispute using scientific terms. Special terminology in speech complicates the understanding of the expressed thought, slows down the reaction of the answer. He attaches great importance to the topic under discussion, brings the discussion to the plane of scientific theory. The enemy must “reach out” to the established level of knowledge, but it is rarely possible to quickly orientate. The person avoids questions, is embarrassed. Or he agrees with the opponent's opinion as more competent. Talk fast. Speeding up the pace of speech. The accelerated pace of speech excludes the full, adequate perception, understanding of information. It is impossible to give a quick answer or come up with a logical objection.

Illusions of perception

Illusions of perception are a distorted assessment of real images, their inconsistency with what they really are. Illusions can occur at the level of any of the senses - they are auditory, tactile, gustatory, olfactory, visual. Illusions of inattention: Illusions of inattention arise when there is insufficient concentration of attention or when there is a lack of information, that is, in conditions that make it difficult to perceive (strong noise, poor lighting, a significant distance of the object, etc.). For example, at a party where loud music is playing, instead of one word, another is heard. From afar, you can take a stranger for a friend, etc.