How hard is it to prove to guys that ... Their time is a priori MORE IMPORTANT than the girl's time.

Yes, in terms of "equality" it is not, and your time is equally important (and it is). But from the point of view of seduction, you need to have an advantage in your direction. We are always drawn to those who seem inaccessible to us and for whom we seem to be "a little short of it." That's why you need to put yourself a little higher than the girl - your business is a priority. Of course, this position will pay dividends only at the beginning - if you want to enter into a relationship, you need to change the “mode” to parity. But you don’t even reach the point of running after a girl for several months. This is extreme.

You know what girls want to hear from guys but don't?

Why are they so zealous about themselves and want to get approval? I think the minority answered correctly. Smell. Girls want to hear a compliment about their smell! With rare exceptions, she will come on a date without perfume. This is often tasteful, sometimes reminiscent of the male method of spraying deodorant on the body. But this does not change the essence of the matter. Compliments about her scent don't need any clever verbal expressions. Quite simply: “You smell very nice” – that’s all. It will sound most appropriate at the moment when you hug her.

Even when everything is fine in your relationship, tiny "cheating" will always be in the man's head!

They invigorate, increase testosterone, internal energy and fortitude. Being a decent spouse, he brings this emotional “bouquet” to you in the form of gifts, passion and “purring” in your ear. And at this moment you love him even more or you think: “What has suddenly come over him?”. It doesn't matter how old the husband is - 20 or 60. He will always look at women appraisingly and flirt with them. This is nature! And he is a male.

Do not point out to the person the awkwardness that makes him uncomfortable.

If you see that someone is uncomfortable or something awkward happened to him, do not try to poke his nose into this fact. By doing so, you show self-confidence because you demonstrate that you do not need to elevate yourself at the expense of others. Instead, think about how you can ease the awkwardness and help the person.

How easy is it to develop a new habit?

The hardest part of developing any habit is starting a new behavior. It takes a lot of motivation to hit the gym for a workout after a tiring day at work, or start reading 5 pages of any book a day. Therefore, in order for you to learn how to develop a habit correctly, follow this rule: Start small. If you want to read 10 books a day, but haven't read a single one today, read at least one page. It doesn't take a math genius to figure out that 1 is greater than 0. This will have a good effect on your punctuality, and it depends on it what attitude you will have in society.

Nothing suppresses your charisma as much as self-doubt.

People simply repeat to themselves over and over again that they cannot achieve something or that they simply are not worthy of it, and over time, such repetition leads to the formation of conviction - these words become unshakable. If you allow self-limiting thoughts to take over the mind, they will become toxic to it, and will not allow you to rationally talk about personal potential, goals, opportunities and abilities. Instead of saying, "I can't do this," stop and ask yourself, "How can I do this?" This will help to properly tune your thoughts and find a solution to the problem.

Take responsibility for your life.

It's easy to blame someone else for everything: friends, the weather, an evil boss, a bed that's too warm or lonely. This kind of thinking is called the victim syndrome. The state is largely convenient: the person-victim relieves himself of responsibility, which means that he does not feel guilty for failures. The fear of failure is so great that he prefers to simply do nothing to avoid it. And for all unfulfilled dreams and goals, you can blame someone else. But in fact, everything happens the other way around. By agreeing to take responsibility for your life, you do not become guilty of what you did or did not do. You have no one to report to. You realize that you yourself decided to lie on the couch instead of going to work. Or they themselves risked launching a project that did not pay off.

Books from planning gurus

1. JD Meyer - Agile for yourself: a system of personal achievements in work and life. 2. S. J. Scott - A new look at the list of important things: how to manage to do all the most important things. 3. Jim Benson - Personal Kanban. Job Map / Life Navigator. 4. Atul Gawande - Checklist. How to avoid stupid mistakes leading to fatal consequences. 5. Jeff Sutherland - Scrum: how to work half as much while doing twice as much.

A real man.

A real man is the one who is on the shoulder, and not on the drum. A real man knows how to listen, hear and understand. He is short in words and unlimited in deeds... Being a real man does not mean subjugating a woman, but it means behaving with her in such a way that she does not want to love anyone but him.

Appreciate yourself.

I admire women who do not allow themselves to be disrespected by the person with whom they are in a relationship. You worked on yourself, created yourself bit by bit, not in order to endure such things. Relationships should bring peace, comfort, ease, confidence, and if you are constantly offended, humiliated and upset, leave. This is the only correct solution.

Responsibility.

Whenever you take responsibility for what you do, you are faced with a choice where there are no right or wrong decisions. One decision will entail one chain of events - one life, one path, one inner state, another decision - another life, another path, another state.

In an abusive relationship, you feel that you are much better off without a partner than with a partner.

When you go somewhere by yourself, you feel like a mountain has fallen from your shoulders. And at work you like to linger, just not to go home. And you constantly find an excuse to come back later to minimize communication with your partner. If so, then you should think about whether your relationship is normal?

Be the soul of the company. Attract people with your charisma. Attract with eloquence.

For some reason, 90% of people think this is an inborn talent. In fact, such qualities can be easily developed, even if you are a shy and silent person. In just a few weeks. The main thing - there would be a desire!

4 WAYS TO DEVALUE YOURSELF IN HIS EYES

1. Do not try to belittle yourself because of coquetry, modesty, or in the hope that he will praise you more. 2. Don't change your plans because of him! If you are on short access to him, then he is not worried: will we see each other and when? And you! 3. Do not impose: “Why don’t you call?”, “I don’t have enough attention!”, “Let’s go somewhere already!”, “Why don’t you need anything?”. Does not call? Boring? Not calling anywhere? I got up and went to live life to the fullest, and not lick the phone. 4. Without total control: “Who is this woman?”, “Where have you been?”, “Where are you staring?” If a girl watches who is looking at him, she is not confident in herself. You need to take care of yourself, then he will watch you.

One of the most ambiguous feelings in a relationship. Jealousy.

If you ask a hundred girls if they like it when guys have these feelings for them, the answers can be as contradictory as possible. But we need to understand how to behave properly. You need to use your jealousy in cold blood, and not surrender to emotions. Because it is good in small doses and as a last resort. If you demonstrate it too often, it will become a marker of your dependence on a girl. That is, suspicions about a guy who has rolled up on a social network or a call from an unknown number will sooner or later lead to the termination of the relationship.

An ever-working date invitation scheme.

Less pressure + more intrigue = better result. And this guys works! Excessive pressure and hackneyed invitation significantly increase the chances of a response "listen, let's next time." An exhibition, a salsa class, or simply "the place where they sell the most delicious ice cream" - anything is better than let's go for a walk.

Stay or leave

The main question that you should answer is: do you want to continue to build relationships with your husband after his betrayal? If you are ready to forgive. You decided to save your family and are ready to forget all the bad things. You will have to rebuild your relationship with your spouse. Accept his courtship: ask for gifts, agree to dates. Take care of yourself: increase your marriage rating to prevent a repeat of infidelity. If you're ready to leave. It's a hard decision, but it will bring you relief. Talk to your ex-husband, explain to him. Be sure to take up an active hobby, develop intellectually. So you will get in shape, get rid of stress, expand your circle of acquaintances. Remember the main thing: sincerely forgive your partner for his mistakes. Learn to be grateful for any experience. It doesn't matter what you decide - stay or leave. The main thing is that your choice makes your life joyful and fulfilling.

Expelling the negative

Do you think that constant conflicts, quarrels and showdowns are a real passion? Even if a quarrel occurs, a healthy discussion of the problem will help resolve the conflict, and not slamming the door, throwing everything that comes to hand. Girls, learn to distinguish passion from toxicity! And these insults to you? "Shut up" "You are stupid?" "Fuck you!" Do you have to hear such words addressed to you when a man is angry, and when everything is getting better, he asks for forgiveness? And then everything repeats over again? It's a red flag that something is wrong with the relationship.

The magic of touch

Family psychologists and sexologists agreed: there is something in the relationship between a man and a woman that, perhaps, will be more important than the usual sexual pleasures. And this something is tenderness, manifested in the form of gentle hugs and gentle touches to each other. What is the secret? It turns out that the touch of a dear person in itself already has a healing effect, since it causes a whole hormonal revolution in the body of the one who was caressed. First, endorphins (hormones of joy) are released, which reduce any pain and cause a feeling of causeless euphoria.

One of the most productive tactics of communication with girls

But with one caveat. Choose from those girls who choose you. I sometimes call it the "lazy approach" because. The bottom line is that in this way you can weed out all dubious candidates who respond to messages for a long time, do not immediately agree to a date, with such an appearance that there are competitors around ... Well, you know what I mean. So, of course, there is practicality in a lazy approach - communication with such a girl will go like clockwork. Therefore, for those who have just begun to dive into seduction and are taking their first steps, this is an ideal option. I usually recommend it. But I also tell the guys about the most important disadvantage - such girls will be below your requests. It's like working, you know. You can not bother and go where they will definitely take you, or you can persevere and achieve a more prestigious place, a higher salary. Therefore, after the first successes, you need to try to leave this tactic.