Questions to get to understand yourself better.

The answers to these questions will help you get to know yourself better, what you want and what you should strive for. 🔸 What’s my number one priority in life? 🔸 What do I really want to do with my life? 🔸 What can I do well? 🔸 And what not so well? 🔸 What is important for me in a job? 🔸 Who are the closest people in my life? 🔸 What is my dream? 🔸 What kind of person I see myself in 3 years? 🔸 Who or what makes me who I am? 🔸 Why am I proud of myself? 🔸 What are my boundaries? What will I never tolerate? Am I the person I want to be? What do I need to change to become one? 🔸 What inspires me?

How to be confident.

▫️ Learn to let go. People, interests, experience. All this gives you confidence: when you say goodbye to what you no longer need, something no longer relevant, you begin to look forward to new perspectives and new changes in life. ▫️ Don't gossip about, don't discuss, and don't judge others Don't look for flaws in other people – work on yourself, only then will you be able to build your self-esteem. Don't waste your time discussing someone else's life. Focus on yourself. It will be a more competent investment of time and energy. ▫️Respond to failures and mistakes adequately. Yes, it's upsetting, yes, it's unsettling. But this is not a reason to give up and doubt yourself. Try again and again. Everything that happens helps to reconsider your views, form an opinion, learn new things and, perhaps, turn to the truly right path. Stop being afraid of mistakes – if they happen, then it's a sign that something in your life needs to be changed for the better.

Why do you need just girlfriends.

Tell me, what is one of the easiest ways to provoke a girl's interest in you? Make her JEYEAL. What are you saying? "We haven't met her yet, have we?" So who said that this is an obstacle for a girl to become jealous of you. If she feels sympathy, jealousy will arise a priori! Therefore, you simply dial a girlfriend, tell her that you really want to chat with her about this and that over a cup of coffee. And it’s not the point at all - meet anywhere (maybe even at your home). Just make some story or photo about this meeting. No need to take a selfie or the like. The task is to make the girl suspicious and think that you were walking with some "other" girl. You know what kind of owners they are.

The man is a provocateur.

His favorite game is to provoke you to emotions, and unpleasant ones, those that will make you feel uncomfortable.🥲 There are several types of them: • Amateur provocateur. The person for whom the only correct opinion is his own does not tolerate dissent. • Provocateur-strategist. Most often, they do something behind their backs to achieve their own success or to put themselves in the best light. • Ruler-ruler. Plays with those who are psychologically weaker, looking for a victim, and then asserts himself through manipulation.

Gaslighting.

This is a form of psychological violence, when one person tries to convince another that he is inadequate, overly sensitive, sees the world distorted. Typical phrases in the gaslighter's arsenal: "You exaggerate" “You just thought! You got it all wrong!” "Don't be so nervous! Don't say a word to you!" “No, I would never say that, why are you making this up?” Sometimes all this is said on purpose to destabilize the victim, deprive him of confidence in his own adequacy and make him more submissive. This is what narcissists, psychopaths, and just plain manipulators usually do.

An option for actions in a situation where there are suspicions about the girl's commercialism.

Most often, such suspicions appear, of course, when ordering something in a cafe. Usually it happens like this: the waiter came up, she ordered first, after which she "kindly" offers to place an order for you. So the girls bypass the issue of paying the bill, because if here you start expressing a desire to share it ... Well, the prospects for productive communication will decrease. I have nothing against paying the bill for a girl and this behavior can often be without malicious intent. But sometimes it still happens to him. Therefore, I give you a universal phrase for verification: "well, then next time you treat you." Naturally, this should not be said on a serious face, but with a touch of irony and a smile - this should not look like an ultimatum. By the reaction of the girl, you will understand her mood for communication. In addition, you set boundaries with this.

A little focus in communication.

And it works especially well in correspondence - in it we pay more attention to words. Use the word "we" more often. So you subconsciously attach to the girl the idea that you are together - this is not such a "strange" idea. That is, you need to say not "you definitely should meet with me," but "we definitely should meet." Or for example: "I think that we both like the deep house - it's a signal from above." Use "we" almost from the very beginning of communication, as soon as you create the proper degree of comfort.

Phrase for dating on the bus.

Or other public transport. "Hi! I already need to rush to the exit, but I couldn't just walk past you" - and hand over your phone, where you need to enter the note number or her account in the Instagram search. This greatly simplifies the task, since you need to say less “terrible” words about dating. Write - then you're done, no - well, no luck.

"I don't meet on the street"

Should I ask you how often you heard this answer. So, I wanted to tell you about an extremely simple and quite effective answer to this "argument" of the girl. "Me too! Let's go to a coffee/shisha/pastry shop and get to know each other there." I won’t say that it will work 100%, but the probability of at least a smile is high. Yes, a girl will not run to a coffee shop, but this is not an end in itself. The main thing is to continue the dialogue and make contacts.

Important advice.

I understand that NOT talking about your ex is too difficult and almost impossible. How many times would you not hear that "this is not possible" - the conversation about it comes up. And if you have violated this rule - be guided by another. Don't talk negatively about your ex. This will in no way help you in seduction, but will only provoke the girl into negative thoughts. The logical chain is clear - the former "all this is not like that", perhaps something is wrong with him. Yes, and in themselves such "gossip" is not worthy of you voicing them.

"Look, I realized that I just don't need a relationship right now..."

Oh, this zakos under the "loss". Naive guys in hopeless attempts fight against this reef of "principledness", wasting their energy in vain. Such a phrase is just one of many ways to covertly send you to hell - a fact. Well, a girl who is interested in communicating with a guy will not say such things to him. Well, except that he turned out to be too "smart" by offering her to marry him after several episodes of intercourse. So, guys, when you hear this, answer like this: "super, I just decided yesterday that you are not suitable for me for a relationship." No more words are needed here.

Reasons for jealousy.

The most common is the fear of losing what we consider our property. It can also be: • Unstable self-esteem • Fear of loneliness and addiction • Desire to control partner • Lack of self-interest in life • Own infidelity (a person judges by himself) With love, as you understand, all this has very little in common.

How to make a weakling out of a man.

The recipe is simple: decide everything for him: “I know better, step back, let me do it myself!” The more you solve his problems, the less he wants to solve these problems. By this you take away from a man his freedom of choice. Male pride works in such a way that if you take away from him the right to make decisions in his life on his own, he does not feel his weight and authority. It happens differently when a man is completely uninitiated. But who chose him in the first place? And if he became like this with you, then most likely, you yourself systematically cut his balls, and then you are surprised that he does not make a decision.

How to choose your love language?

First of all, you need to know what love languages are: The words. Such partners need to say pleasant things out loud. Help. For them, action is more important than a thousand words. Present. Another way to the heart. Time. They need full attention. Touch. Hold hands and kiss. You need to ask yourself at what moments you feel the strongest love of a partner. Choose the three most pleasant options and ask him to do the same. With a high probability, both of you will be able to decide and use the knowledge gained.

Healthy relationships.

You mutually love each other and this love grows stronger over time. And this means: • You didn't go into a relationship to attach a man like a plantain to your pain. You closed this pain first. • You feel that you are together, there is no feeling of loneliness. • There are no manipulations, the couple is sincere and open to each other. • The partner doesn't forbid you anything, doesn't infringe and you have no desire to control and forbid. • There are no insults in quarrels, no criticism and depreciation. • There are common goals and plans. There is support, a desire to help and care. And such relationships begin easily, and the dynamics of their development is quite fast and stable. There is no such thing that a man disappears, then appears. Healthy relationships give joy, a sense of security. Sometimes there are storms. But they endure and only get stronger.

It is not enough to learn how to speak correctly, one must also learn how to be silent correctly

Forever FORGET phrases that begin with the words: "Actually..." "You again..." "What is this..." "If you are now..." "I told you..." "Here you are again..." Criticism must be stopped. She kills a man. What you are extinguishing him for, he has already done. And that won't change. One thing will change - his attitude towards you. You will achieve that from your voice alone he will be covered with hatred and irritation. Of course you can't be silent. So get yourself a diary. Write everything that has accumulated there. If it’s more important for you to speak out than to get help, support or results from your husband, then don’t be surprised when something or someone turns out to be more important to him than you.

Why does the mother-in-law destroy the family and frankly survive you?

There are several reasons. Maternal overprotection. Her son has been by her side all her life, she is used to taking care of him, and she cannot entrust this work to another woman. Lack of attention. Previously, the son ran to her on the first call, but now he has his own family, and the mother-in-law does not have enough attention, even if she does not admit it. Female jealousy. If the mother raised your husband alone, her son to some extent compensated for her lack of male attention. You are perceived as a competitor. War of generations. Perhaps you and your mother-in-law have completely different ideas about the female role. Willingness to help. Sometimes the mother-in-law gets out of a sincere desire to convey the secrets of a happy marriage and does not understand that you do not need unsolicited advice.

The most dangerous relationship myths.

It is these myths that will lead you to separation and disappointment in relationships if you believe in them. “The main thing is to have love, and then everything will be fine” There are a huge number of examples when at the beginning of a relationship there was love and mutual understanding, but then the couple broke up. “Somewhere there is my perfect soul mate” Those who believe in this find a partner, and he turns out to be not perfect. Ideal does not exist, there are real people with their pluses and minuses.

How your money destroys relationships.

A financially independent wife can either save or destroy her marriage, depending on the scenario chosen: • She can turn her money into an object of manipulation, all the time poking her husband with her nose that he has no power over her. But soon she will hear: pay for everything yourself, since she is so smart. And out of pride, she will plow, pay, and will never see any help and care. • She puts her money at the service of keeping a man. No money for a restaurant? I'll pay myself. Keep an expensive gift, I took out a loan. Need to borrow? Take it! It is not necessary to return or I will not dare to ask. The result: a slacker and gigolo who always pulls money out of her. Understand, it is important for a woman to have her own income! This deprives a man of the temptation to press and threaten. And it gives confidence that you have a choice: leave or stay.

Robots in New York have begun to help the elderly fight loneliness.

ElliQ, a robot that looks like a small tablet, is the ideal companion and psychologist for the elderly. On average, participants in the pilot interacted with the robot at least 20 times a day, according to a press release. And all the elderly people noted that he helps them a lot.