Sharpen your intuition.

Sometimes, in life we face a difficult situation and it is necessary to make a choice. We listen to ourselves, but our inner self is stubbornly silent. There is an effective technique for gaining insight. Here are the steps for the technique. Step 1. Formulate a task for your intuition (write it down, draw it, say it). Step 2. Shift your focus to things that are not related to your task. Step 3. Change your state of consciousness - sleep, meditate. Step 4. Go back to the original task, the inner voice will lead you in the right direction. In other words, you sort of load the task into the brain, but give your unconscious time to work with it. There may be a situation when a decision can come to you in a dream, because a DREAM is a projection of our unconscious, it is it that rules the ball. It is not surprising that many insights people see in a dream.

COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS: GOOD OR BAD?

This habit is laid down in childhood. First, parents compare children, put someone as an example to them. Then the child himself sees that someone's toys are better and more expensive than his. Further more: the classmate's hair is longer, the dress is prettier. And so all my life! If you compare yourself all the time not in your favor, then envy, resentment, anger will never let you enjoy life. It is better to compare yourself only with yourself yesterday. But there is also a useful comparison. If you compare yourself with someone and get motivated to move forward, this is a resource. You just see your potential in another person, not considering that something is worse than him.

IS IT WORTH LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC HUSBAND?

On the one hand, the question is strange, the answer suggests itself. It would be necessary to run away from such happiness without looking back. On the other hand, things are not so simple. If you have already connected your life with a man who drinks heavily, then you definitely got into a co-dependent relationship. Marriage with a drinking man is a complete disappointment and bitterness. In fact, the wives of drunkards adapt and somehow live, or rather exist. Codependent relationships can last for years.

Phrases with connotations and what to do about it?

Think about what they really mean: ▫️ CALM DOWN. "Stop feeling the way you're feeling right now." This phrase expresses an unwillingness to talk to you about your pain or anxiety, devaluing your emotions. ▫️ YOU UPSET ME. "You don't live up to my expectations." The phrase suggests that your particular action/reaction goes against what he or she imagines and expects from you. ▫️ WHAT DID YOU EXPECT? "Accept the situation as I (or someone else) accepts it." In this case, you are being asked to take responsibility for the other person's choice of how they perceive the situation. So what to do when you hear one of these phrases addressed to you? Recognize that this way people try to impose their vision on you thus forcing you to give up personal responsibility and personal choice for what happens to you.

Do you like to draw in the margins?

Have you ever noticed? Listening to a boring speaker on the phone or sitting in a useless meeting, sometimes, we almost unconsciously begin to draw some patterns, flowers or geometric shapes on paper. These drawings can tell a lot about a person, his state of mind and actual needs. For example, the thicker the lines, the more a person is focused on a particular thought. Multiple shading tells about fixation on a certain moment. And the desire to draw geometric shapes says about the desire to systematize thoughts. Do you draw spikes, teeth and other sharp objects? So, you are definitely irritated or even angry. Do you draw a bee honeycomb? You are in dire need of peace and harmony. Drawing intertwining circles signs that you are in search of understanding and friendship...

Like attracts like

Low energy attracts low energy, high energy attracts high energy. Low energy feelings include anger, hatred, envy, shame, guilt, and related thoughts. They not only make you weak, but also attract similar feelings! By replacing low energy thoughts with uplifting ones, that is: of love, harmony, peace, and joy, you will begin to attract higher energies and vibrations to yourself, which you can then share with others. These higher energies will empower you and help you stop low-potential thoughts, just as light dispels darkness. If you can love yourself, you can attract higher energies, which will help you change internally.

Happiness and how to realize that you are happy?

There is no universal recipe for happiness. People look for other people's strategies, trying to apply them to their lives, but other people's lives are not ours, and we are different to the person smiling in the picture. Therefore! The recipe for happiness is unique for everyone. Otherwise, absolutely everyone would already be meditating, writing gratitude journals and being happy... What to do: try different strategies for achieving happiness in practice (I will share them here), explore yourself, understand yourself.

Self-care in action.

Getting a good night's sleep: getting the necessary number of sleeping hours each night is a basic principle of self-care. Physical activity: physical activity increases serotonin levels, which improves your mood. Relaxation: the ability to relax is a skill that runs through all self-care practices and is directly linked to reduced stress levels. Healthy eating: a well-balanced diet is a great habit and method of taking care of your health. It is important to remember that the term "self-care" has the word "self" in it. It is a practice that you carry out for yourself, and no one else will do it for you.

What to do in times of stress?

Make a list of the three most important things you need to do today. And complete them one by one. Take on the most important one first. Don't worry about any other things; focus on just one. Remember, "doing nothing" very often leads to stressful situations. Build the habit of writing things down. Write down your thoughts, ideas, meetings, dialogues and things to buy. Don't try to memorize everything - it will only cause stress for fear of forgetting something. Get your workplace organized. A clean and organized workplace keeps your mind clear. Take five minutes to clean up a bit right now.

Mistakes open the way to uniqueness.

Why are we afraid of making mistakes? Because we've been told since childhood: "It's bad to be wrong, it's dangerous to be wrong, you mustn't be wrong". These are the most common misconceptions that prevent people from trying new things, changing, and improving their lives. And yet MISTAKES are the only true route from mediocrity to uniqueness. The only way to become yourself is to MAKE MISTAKES, that is to feel it and understand what is YOURS and what is SOMEONE ELSE'S. The experience of one's own faults is a true means of self-identification.

JEALOUSY

The feeling of ownership is manifested by groundless and even pathological jealousy. For example: any look of a beloved man on another girl is regarded as treason. Jealousy begins with suspicion and distrust. The first calls: the desire to check the partner’s phone, his correspondence in social networks, eavesdrop on the conversation, and so on. Therefore, it is worthwhile to understand well: any person always belongs only to himself. A man owes nothing to his woman, just like she does to him. Love grows out of trust, freedom and mutual respect.

CONSEQUENCES OF FAMILY CONFLICTS.

Those who do not know how to resolve disagreements peacefully use manipulation, blackmail, and the game of silence. Someone adapts to a partner and throws all his desires on the altar of sacrifice. And this is not an option either! Others even cut off the shoulder and after the first quarrel they run to get a divorce, without realizing what the essence of the misunderstanding is.

LACK OF ATTENTION.

Do not be discouraged: in most cases, this is not a sentence of family life. "You're busy all the time!" "We are so rarely together" There are a dozen more phrases that women love to repeat every day. They say these words like a mantra in the hope that their loved one will always be there. But a man has his own duties, which he performs for the sake of your well-being. If you are thinking about how to stop making your spouse’s mind go away, it’s better to help him relax after a hard day’s work, take care.

WHAT QUESTIONS SHOULD YOU NOT ANSWER?

These questions should confuse you in dealing with men at first, they say that a man wants to violate boundaries or probe them. Any question about an ex. He may ask about relationship experiences, but don't let him get into a discussion about the person you were with. Questions of an intimate nature, for which you are clearly not ready. Especially if you've only known each other for a couple of hours. For example: "How many men have you had?" Questions about your income/property. It is not ethical to ask about income in general, and questions about property “smell” of fraud. Questions from the category “Are your lips made or your own?” Sounds tactless. Everything related to the methods of working on oneself in terms of beauty is better not to discuss even later, remain a mystery.

WHY AM I NOT IN FIRST PLACE WITH MY HUSBAND?

Many women are unhappy that their husband does not pay enough attention to them, is too busy with himself, his work, ideas and projects. The normal priorities of a psychologically healthy person are in order: himself, then his partner, then their children, then parents, and then there are friends, buddies and everything else. If your husband is in the first place you and your needs - most likely, he is not in the best psychological state. If you really want to be in the first place with a man, ask yourself - why is this so important to you? Maybe because your own priority system has failed? And you yourself are not in the first place, but in the second, third or twentieth?

DO YOU NEED TO REVERSE ROLES?

In the modern world, one can often find a situation where a woman earns money, and a man takes on the functions of an exemplary householder. Here the question is natural: should this be allowed? It all depends on the situation in a particular family. It's impossible to give a definitive answer based on the question itself. This may be a temporary stage in life when such a reassignment of roles is beneficial and will benefit both parties.

HOW TO UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE UNDERLY CONTROL OF A MAN?

• you constantly criticize him • do not let go to friends without scandals • jealous from scratch • you require reports: where you were, what you did, where you spent your personal money, etc. • often use blackmail and threats The chosen one will naturally oppose guardianship and supervision in every possible way. So, problems in relationships, constant quarrels, misunderstandings are inevitable. And what happens is what you fear most - betrayal, irresponsible actions on his part, parting as a sad outcome. That's why you can't control a man! Any control over a man suffocates him, devalues ​​him as a person and all the good that he does for you.

An obvious sign of a girl's sympathy that you are missing out on!

She often sends you her photos. It doesn't really matter which ones. Selfies, photos of legs/arms or manicures, even photos in line at the bank. If she wants to share her photos with you, then she is trying to once again show how good she is and, as it were, says "it's time to get closer already" Yes, of course, there are girls who a priori live with the camera turned on and share information with everyone like that. But the majority still will not rush to "share themselves" in the form of a photograph, with people who are unsympathetic to themselves)

The male superpower that ALL girls love.

Hobby in the form of cooking. Guys, those hungry (in every sense) eyes of a girl looking at you while you cook mulled wine / pasta / steaks ... Well, it's a fairy tale! In addition to the fact that the girl will listen with rapture to your stories about the features of world cuisine - your "superpower" is a great way to visit. “Have you ever tried real Arrabiata pasta? Is it just a fairy tale? I have penne rigate pasta at home - acquaintances from Italy brought a “souvenir”. Olive oil, parmesan block, fresh basil…” Somewhere in the middle of this text, her eyes may already begin to converge😁 So, I advise you to memorize one or two dishes and trump them for such events.

Charisma.

Charismatic people are bright and enticing. We want to hear what they have to say and see what they are going to do. People with charisma are rock stars, leaders, and preachers. They have their own pathos and are able to attract attention wherever they go. How are charismatic personalities different? When such a person enters a room, all eyes are on him. He is confident in himself and knows that in any situation others will follow his example. He looks people in the eye and, when he first meets someone, he represents himself. When he smiles, his smile captures his eyes too, so you know it's real. Charismatic people are authentic and not prone to creating false images. Why would they try to hide who they are? They are also great listeners and genuinely interested in what others have to say. These are not pompous or arrogant individuals, because they know that this will only alienate everyone.