How to control a crowd easily?

I'll give you a hint that can be easily applied to any group of people or even a family. Have you ever heard about the Abilene paradox? The bottom line is that a person counter to the preferences of many very rarely. That is, first you have to pitch an idea to the particular group. For example, at the beginning of the week, make a suggestion to go to the countryside. During the week, emphasize how good it is to be outdoors. Believe me, one of the members will agree with you. And the others will be just aware of your plans. The phenomenon of groupthink is that everyone counts not their own interests. And just so you know, in team building, this paradox is called the "Fake Success of Unanimous Team Decision Making." And here's what I'd like to add: No matter how much you want it, social factors always affect your INNER SELF.

Three steps ahead.

Thinking FORWARD is a great skill, not only in business matters. Think about any situation at least three steps ahead. It helps make the right decisions, avoiding unnecessary risks. How to develop this skill? CHESS. Has it ever interested you, why many great men spent their free time studying the chess battles of the great grandmasters? That's how they learned to think three steps ahead!

Live to the fullest! Enjoy life every day!

Do whatever you want with your life. write a book, get a tattoo, dye your hair a crazy color, confess your love at last. After all, someday only a dash between two dates will remain of you, and no one knows when this will happen. live each day to the fullest. just feel the taste of freedom.

When people let you go, let them go.

People will either love or hate you anyway. No matter how hard you try to please them, no matter how much you give second chances. If he/she loves you, he/she will show it. A person will not leave you or make you wait. And if someone does not like you the way you are, there will always be others who will gladly get to know you better. Know your worth and move on!

Benefits of divorce for women

There is time for yourself. A woman (especially if there are no children in a couple) no longer needs to stand at the stove every evening, iron her shirts and wash her socks. It becomes possible to live without looking back at someone else's opinion. Many divorced women understand perfectly what I'm talking about. Either the husband does not like the red lipstick that you bought yesterday on the way home from work, or the mother-in-law makes claims about the ideal borscht or the manner of raising children. Growing career prospects. Having divorced a man, a woman begins to look for new sources of income in order to provide herself and her children with the same level of comfort. She is not afraid to take on any job, actively manifests herself and achieves success in the professional field.

Give positive emotions.

If a husband is happy next to you, will he look at others? Working on emotional fulfillment in a relationship is important. The “wow-effect” gives the greatest charge: for example, from jointly overcome difficulties. You can simply create as many bright positive memories as possible: for example, from an actively spent vacation.

It's so typical of people...waiting for happiness.

I'll start start living my best life as soon as I will finish college! I'll get my dream job and everything will change! I'll meet a real man and he'll make me happy! We're always waiting for him or her to be better, more responsible, more purposeful and then we'll be HAPPY. But alas, not out partners or circumstances make us happy. If there is no feeling of inner harmony, our acceptance of ourselves, and understanding of our own wishes and goals, then nothing can make us happier. So if you want to be happy, start with yourself!

Criticism is the best motivation.

If you are motivated to BETTER yourself, the form in which you are criticized is not a problem. Get value out of any formulation, as long as it's worth it. Where and how criticism can be useful? If your are criticized by your colleague, an expert in the field you're talking about, listen carefully. Even if she or he expresses her/himself harshly, the content may be really important. Perhaps, arguing critically and constructively, he can show you the right direction, help you look at the question from another point of view or just share fresh thoughts and ideas. And that's exactly what you need right now!

Common ploy.

We are frequently pushed to take actions that are advantageous to the manipulators. A confident intonation and a commanding tone do everything for them. For example: "You can take my word for it, that's better." The best defense I can advise is not to remain silent to phrases like, "And who exactly would benefit?", "What do you mean by that phrase?"

5 MISTAKES DUE TO WHICH A WOMAN DOES NOT HAVE A MAN.

Excessive requirements. It is necessary to look not for an ideal, but for a person who is close in spirit. It doesn't have to be rich or handsome. Mutual understanding, closeness of interests and aspirations is important. Loss of femininity. Not all representatives of the fair sex devote enough time to their appearance, figure, and behavior. Uncertainty, low self-esteem. When a person does not love himself, it is felt at the subconscious level and causes reciprocal emotions. Career focus. These ladies have a lot of fans, but the relationship does not last too long. They are married to work. Negative experience. If a girl gets burned once, she is careful and subconsciously pushes the guys away from her.

TYPES OF LOVERS OF MARRIED MEN.

Holiday girl. She loves to party and is always on the lookout for someone who can pay her bill at the club and receive her in a "gift" package in return. "Blind" lover. Such women often become victims of deception, unwittingly becoming one of the sides of the love triangle. The man hid the fact that he already has a wife. Grey mouse She has low self-esteem and does not believe that someone will ever meet who will love her. On the offer of a married man to become a mistress, she responds willingly, wanting at least sometimes to be needed by someone. Born lover She knows that he is married, but this suits her, so she does not seek to insist on breaking up the marriage and moving into the status of a wife. Huntress. The hunter aims at the wife's place. She starts a relationship exclusively with a promising man.

Don't stop.

Immediately after voicing something important or the information that you want to instill in the interlocutor, move on to another topic. This is necessary in order to prevent him from trying to comprehend the information he has just received and thus confront it. Oftentimes I use a phrase like: "Let's continue..." and move on to another topic.

Changing circumstances.

This is a very common manipulation in sales and business. I won't beat around the bush, you'll see the example right now. During a presentation, you are suddenly told that your competitors have a better offer, but if you change your mind now, the deal will happen. They can also offer you a bonus, or reduce the price a little, but tell you that you have to make a decision here and now. The remedy is very clear: don't make hasty decisions or conclusions, and always remember that you are probably being manipulated.

If you are betrayed, it means you are taken to a higher energy level.

That is, the person becomes free to move on. When a person quits the old life program, the new opportunities open up at the same time. When a person passes the pain threshold, the new possibilities open up to her or him. Going through physical pain - the astral guide opens, going through emotional pain - the mental guide opens. Mental disappointment opens the spiritual door, so spiritual disappointment leads to deeper worlds and so on. That is why TRANSFORMATION is a challenge to your higher self. Being betrayed means being put into the hands of the Universe.

Sometimes a girl needs to be given "revelations".

You know, such sweet confessions of sympathy. But you don't have to go overboard with it. The emotion "oh how cute, he's so honest and cool" - we need to create sympathy. What can act as such a "revelation"? Well, for example, a story about your dreams. Or rather, that she dreamed about you. The girl will be terribly curious about WHAT she was doing in your dream - involvement is guaranteed. What could this dream be? Yes, whatever. From “We went on a picnic and a bear attacked us from the forest” to “we were lying on the beach and there was a strong wind that took your untied swimsuit away.” But here, of course, you need to focus on the level of your communication.

Favorite female manipulation.

I think you guys can guess. Girls love to make us feel guilty. Some trifle women easily turned into a problem and inserted this idea into my head. And it doesn't matter what exactly triggered this problem. Even a glass broken by the girl herself, she can interpret as your fault. The purpose of this manipulation is background psychological pressure, in order to take control over a man. Everything is terribly simple. How to deal with it? Just do not allow to do this, nip in the bud. In a calm tone, let her know that you see this manipulation and perceive it as disrespect for yourself. Explain to her that if you try to repeat it, the conversation will be different.

FLIRT WITH OTHER MEN.

No, I am not pushing you to cheat, because there will be no sense from it anyway. But light flirting and the opportunity to feel beautiful and desirable again will help to cheer up. Allow yourself to exchange a couple of remarks with a colleague or chat with an old friend on social networks. How else, if not through communication with another, shake up your feminine and remember that you are, why love? In 99% of 100%, you will get bored after a couple of hours, but the pleasant aftertaste will remain.

ABOUT WHAT FEMALE TRICKS IT IS BETTER TO FORGET FOREVER.

• Excessive flattery and praise of a man in the hope of getting something. • Manipulation with sex, sex bans, or grandiose promises. • Deliberate stupidity, although many men still find female "sweetness" in this. • Suspension when he doesn't do what you want. • Drawing on emotions through jealousy of other men. Forget those dirty tricks once and for all.

The world needs you!

A lively, emotional, strange and imperfect person… We're all trying to look like something, but no one needs a look. The world needs a soul. A point. Something alive. And the living is not something ideal, like a monument or a painting. The living is not a two—dimensional plane, where there is only one facade. The living is a river, changeable landscapes and currents. The world needs your mistakes, because mistakes say that you LIVE. The world needs your uniqueness. The world doesn't need your diploma and regalia — it needs your experience. Your hands. Head. Heart. The ability to delve into a subject and understand it. Don’t try to act like someone else, because the world needs you.

YOUR BRAIN also has a WORK SCHEDULE

Are you already familiar with the formula for optimal brain performance? You won't believe it, but you already know. Moreover, you have already worked according to it. And this is the schedule according to which school education is built. It turns out that the duration of lessons and recess is very close to the formula of optimal brain productivity. Scientists from the University of Toronto, trying to find the best model of lunch breaks for office employees, found out that the brain's performance is able to reach its peak with short—term frequent breaks than on rare and long ones. Scientists explained this by the fact that the brain has a small reserve of energy, which requires replenishment every hour. The most OPTIMAL SCHEDULE is 52 minutes of active work and 17 minutes of active rest.