How to respond to the answer "I'll think about it"?

When it sounds after your "maybe we'll meet the day after tomorrow." In fact, there are a HUGE number of options - to continue the conversation on another topic, to joke ... But now I have started to follow a slightly different tactic. I just forwarded to write something after "I'll think about it." And you know, it works just magically. The girl begins to think if I offended him, if I pushed him away a lot, it turns out he doesn’t really need me ... And we need such thoughts, guys, they go to our piggy bank. Yes, if the girl did not want a meeting, she will not want her after such an ignore. But doubters can go to the bright side of seduction!

A discrepancy between what you say out loud and your inner voice.

This is a very common problem that harms charisma. It manifests itself when you respond to a request: “Of course, no problem, I don’t mind,” while the voice in your head says: “Damn, I don’t want to do this.” As a result, you have a certain feeling of guilt, which causes the request to be fulfilled. And this leads to the fact that you begin to please people. You lack self-confidence and persuasiveness, and people notice and use it. Listen to your inner voice and don't become the person to be taken advantage of.

Study yourself and increase your personal productivity.

Thousands of books and articles have been written on this topic, and millions of people are beginning to mindlessly try on everything. I advise you to start with understanding and accepting yourself and your features. It will be useful to determine the time of maximum productivity. Take one week and record at what point you experienced an increase or decrease in energy, when you worked as if in a stream of inspiration, when you experienced difficulty concentrating, when and why you started to get distracted. As a result, you will have a personal biological calendar, and you will be able to plan the most important things for periods of maximum productivity.

A win-win communication strategy.

You need to rephrase the message in such a way that you and the interlocutor have a common goal. For example, from “I don’t have time for this. I want to go home as soon as possible” do “I understand. We need to come to an agreement quickly to save each other time.” The pronoun “We” immediately changes the essence of the statement and creates the impression that you are acting primarily in the interests of the person.

What to do if you are tired of each other.

Give each other freedom. Stop reacting painfully if a husband or wife wants to spend time not with you, but with friends or even all alone. The more you restrict a person's freedom, the more he will try to get it. Not to mention the fact that if a man wants to change, he will in any case find how to do it. And no amount of supervision will help here. Take a break from your husband for a while, start talking more with your friends, find yourself some kind of hobby, try to renew your life impressions. Remember, when treating mutual fatigue, it is very important to take a break from each other.

How to manage first impressions.

As scientists have found out, the first impression is created within 5 seconds after meeting. During this time, it will not be possible to achieve much with words, but with non-verbal language you can easily position your opponent. So, approaching the object immediately use some kind of gesture. Even a banal hand salute. This will make you stand out from the crowd of other people.

3 things that poison your soul.

1. Waiting for opportunities that fate will create, instead of looking for those opportunities yourself. If you stop and think about your life, then each person will remember one or two cases when life literally created ideal conditions for promotion at work or for a new type of activity. 2. Desire to please everyone. In itself, this desire is stupid and impossible in principle. Each person is unique, with their own unique character, desires and goals. And all attempts to please absolutely everyone around will fail and disappoint. You need to stop wanting to please everyone. 3. Expecting justice from life. Each person understands that it is not worth waiting for justice from life, however, somewhere deep in the subconscious, everyone hopes for a fair attitude towards themselves. It is very difficult to put up with the injustice of life. We are waiting for everything to resolve itself. In this expectation, we lose precious time for action.

Be smart.

Know how to let go even those you love. This is the great law of detachment. When you hold onto a person for fear of losing your love, you lose more. Take a deep breath and let everyone be in charge of their own lives. Everyone belongs only to himself. Never try to change another person. Take it as it is, we are all different, but that's the beauty of it. What makes people close is not similarity, not false compromises, and not even a shared past. What makes people close is the sincere enjoyment of the difference. When you are not trying to remake someone, convince them or desperately stuff them with advice. When you just communicate with a person - like reading a book - you agree in some ways, in some ways you don’t, but it’s still so interesting, elegant and easy that you can’t tear yourself away. Unfortunately, in order to understand such elementary things, you have to pay a high price - to lose dear people. Therefore, be wiser.

Losing is the main teacher of life.

The whole history of mankind is full of philosophers, scientists, businessmen, politicians and just successful people who claim that the desire to make mistakes is fundamental to success. Society, unfortunately, does not approve of mistakes, and historians do not write about defeats. The exceptions are those defeats that became steps on the path to success. In this podcast, we'll talk about the benefits of making mistakes and discuss why they're useful.

How hard is it to prove to guys that ... Their time is a priori MORE IMPORTANT than the girl's time.

Yes, in terms of "equality" it is not, and your time is equally important (and it is). But from the point of view of seduction, you need to have an advantage in your direction. We are always drawn to those who seem inaccessible to us and for whom we seem to be "a little short of it." That's why you need to put yourself a little higher than the girl - your business is a priority. Of course, this position will pay dividends only at the beginning - if you want to enter into a relationship, you need to change the “mode” to parity. But you don’t even reach the point of running after a girl for several months. This is extreme.

You know what girls want to hear from guys but don't?

Why are they so zealous about themselves and want to get approval? I think the minority answered correctly. Smell. Girls want to hear a compliment about their smell! With rare exceptions, she will come on a date without perfume. This is often tasteful, sometimes reminiscent of the male method of spraying deodorant on the body. But this does not change the essence of the matter. Compliments about her scent don't need any clever verbal expressions. Quite simply: “You smell very nice” – that’s all. It will sound most appropriate at the moment when you hug her.

Even when everything is fine in your relationship, tiny "cheating" will always be in the man's head!

They invigorate, increase testosterone, internal energy and fortitude. Being a decent spouse, he brings this emotional “bouquet” to you in the form of gifts, passion and “purring” in your ear. And at this moment you love him even more or you think: “What has suddenly come over him?”. It doesn't matter how old the husband is - 20 or 60. He will always look at women appraisingly and flirt with them. This is nature! And he is a male.

Do not point out to the person the awkwardness that makes him uncomfortable.

If you see that someone is uncomfortable or something awkward happened to him, do not try to poke his nose into this fact. By doing so, you show self-confidence because you demonstrate that you do not need to elevate yourself at the expense of others. Instead, think about how you can ease the awkwardness and help the person.

How easy is it to develop a new habit?

The hardest part of developing any habit is starting a new behavior. It takes a lot of motivation to hit the gym for a workout after a tiring day at work, or start reading 5 pages of any book a day. Therefore, in order for you to learn how to develop a habit correctly, follow this rule: Start small. If you want to read 10 books a day, but haven't read a single one today, read at least one page. It doesn't take a math genius to figure out that 1 is greater than 0. This will have a good effect on your punctuality, and it depends on it what attitude you will have in society.

Nothing suppresses your charisma as much as self-doubt.

People simply repeat to themselves over and over again that they cannot achieve something or that they simply are not worthy of it, and over time, such repetition leads to the formation of conviction - these words become unshakable. If you allow self-limiting thoughts to take over the mind, they will become toxic to it, and will not allow you to rationally talk about personal potential, goals, opportunities and abilities. Instead of saying, "I can't do this," stop and ask yourself, "How can I do this?" This will help to properly tune your thoughts and find a solution to the problem.

Take responsibility for your life.

It's easy to blame someone else for everything: friends, the weather, an evil boss, a bed that's too warm or lonely. This kind of thinking is called the victim syndrome. The state is largely convenient: the person-victim relieves himself of responsibility, which means that he does not feel guilty for failures. The fear of failure is so great that he prefers to simply do nothing to avoid it. And for all unfulfilled dreams and goals, you can blame someone else. But in fact, everything happens the other way around. By agreeing to take responsibility for your life, you do not become guilty of what you did or did not do. You have no one to report to. You realize that you yourself decided to lie on the couch instead of going to work. Or they themselves risked launching a project that did not pay off.

Books from planning gurus

1. JD Meyer - Agile for yourself: a system of personal achievements in work and life. 2. S. J. Scott - A new look at the list of important things: how to manage to do all the most important things. 3. Jim Benson - Personal Kanban. Job Map / Life Navigator. 4. Atul Gawande - Checklist. How to avoid stupid mistakes leading to fatal consequences. 5. Jeff Sutherland - Scrum: how to work half as much while doing twice as much.

A real man.

A real man is the one who is on the shoulder, and not on the drum. A real man knows how to listen, hear and understand. He is short in words and unlimited in deeds... Being a real man does not mean subjugating a woman, but it means behaving with her in such a way that she does not want to love anyone but him.

Appreciate yourself.

I admire women who do not allow themselves to be disrespected by the person with whom they are in a relationship. You worked on yourself, created yourself bit by bit, not in order to endure such things. Relationships should bring peace, comfort, ease, confidence, and if you are constantly offended, humiliated and upset, leave. This is the only correct solution.

Responsibility.

Whenever you take responsibility for what you do, you are faced with a choice where there are no right or wrong decisions. One decision will entail one chain of events - one life, one path, one inner state, another decision - another life, another path, another state.